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After the hit of "The World of Man", the most popular audience is the Old Knot of the Zhou Family - Zhou Bingkun, played by Lei Datou. He has a simple mind, filial piety and morality, and is a solid backing for his father and brothers to let go and fight outside. While the silly Bingkun brings joy to everyone, few people find out that in fact, he is fragile and sensitive and lonely and inferior. He paid for this family regardless of the return, and the one who hurt him the most was his closest family, so that he could feel sorry for him.
The Zhou family has three children, and the old pimple is the most stupid
Brother Bingyi is a talented person, and sister Zhou Rong is a big beauty, both of whom are top students in key middle schools. Old Pimple Bingkun looks average, goes to a broken school, studies the countdown, seems to have no strengths, almost never hears words of praise, he can't help but be inferior and lonely.
Whenever the older brother and sister came home after the honor, the parents would always look at the old knot with anxiety when they were happy, and the mother sighed lightly, and the father would comfort her: "It would be good for three children to be able to produce two in the future, thank God." At this time, the older brothers and sisters would show favor to him, as if they were very sorry for his younger brother. But he didn't know that all this was invisibly whipping Bingkun's young mind and making him even more inferior.
The older brother and sister had a high level of ideology and culture, and often took friends to their homes to study and discuss the "banned books" at that time. Bingkun is a soy sauce player, and everyone agrees that he is simple and not smart, so whenever this time Bingkun is silent. The only time he couldn't help but say his opinion, although he was praised, but then the brothers and sisters laughed about whether they were simple and thoughtful, and in the laughter of everyone, Bingkun was about to cry, and his self-esteem was seriously hurt.
Community cadres went to their homes to organize "going to the mountains and going to the countryside", the family could only keep one child, the sister took the initiative to ask to go to the countryside, and although the mother did not give up, she did not say anything. In the evening, Bingkun overheard his mother say to his sister: "Mom is reluctant to let you go, but Bingkun is not as good as you and your brother in any aspect, he has lacked heart and eyes since he was a child, and he does not understand human feelings and sophistication. ”
My sister said, "I know that no one in the family has ever sought his opinion on big and small matters, that is, he has expressed a few opinions, and we have never taken it seriously. Mom, you can rest assured, Xiao Kun is a good child after all, just not very smart. If something suddenly happens one day, maybe you can be smarter." But he did not know that at this time, the "unintelligent" Bingkun had already burst into tears, and language was sometimes more hurtful than violence.
In fact, at this time, the sister's few words have already explained the reason why Bingkun is "not smart" and "not doing anything". This shows that they have always known that it is precisely because they never seek Bingkun's opinion in everything and never respect his views, that Bingkun has become what he is now. But why not make a change? I'm really black with question marks.
A good child in the eyes of a parent is never him
Bingkun knows that he is not as good as his brother and sister in all aspects, God has arranged it this way, he admits his fate, and he can't recognize it! Although he confessed his fate, he never mixed his life, and he also tried to live like a person and try to get the approval of his parents.
When his sister deceived him and his mother and followed the poet away from home, his father was angry with Bingkun and directly gave him a slap (Bingkun: Who do I provoke??? Tears running). At this time, Bingkun's heart was even a little happy, and the excellent sister finally disappointed her parents.
His brothers and sisters have left, only Bingkun stayed in the city, he came from a worker family, he has no background, it doesn't matter, he can't get into a good unit at all, he can only start from the most bitter and tired workers. But the hardships of life are far less than the bitterness in his heart, and he still lives in the shadow of his excellent brothers and sisters (Bingkun cried to my death).
Chun Yan lost herself at home, in fact, for Bingkun, this is a senseless disaster. His mother counted him down: "You are not too old, and you still have no ability to do things!" If your brother or your sister stays in the city, you don't have to worry about it! This made Bingkun ashamed and embarrassed, and his inferiority provoked him again.
Bingkun relied on his own efforts to become a literary and artistic editor of the newspaper, although there is no formal establishment at present, he believes that he will get it after relying on his own efforts. At that time, this belonged to the straddling of classes, and there was an iron wall between different classes, and he made too much effort in the process. He thought that his father would be happy and proud of himself, but he did not want his father to give him a heavy blow instead of recognizing...
In order to celebrate his becoming an editor, Bingkun gathered friends to celebrate, but everyone's mood was obviously not high, they and Bingkun's father's views were similar, and they all thought that Bingkun's good deeds were not worthy of special solemn congratulations - it was just a little better. This lukewarm state changed immediately until Lu Chuan's arrival, because everyone was about to work in the provincial party committee or the municipal party committee. The future of their only friend who had a career took it as their hope, and Bingkun realized that he was not out of the ordinary in the eyes of his friends.
After the meal, his father talked to him. From Lu Chuan, who has been admitted to the university and has now made a career, it is said that his brother and sister who were admitted to Peking University, and then Bingkun, who may not be able to enter the university in this life, may not be able to enter the university. Bingkun understood that his father was disappointed in him, knocking on the side to express his dissatisfaction with him through Lü Chuan, and Lü Chuan could be admitted to a prestigious university in a soy sauce factory, and you! His father's voice of questioning made Bingkun extremely difficult, not only because his father hit his self-esteem, but also because he destroyed his own happiness.
Whether we were children or now adults, we are most afraid of hearing "other people's children" from our parents, because at this time we will be forcibly compared and belittled. Parents think that taking out "other people's children" is a kind of motivation for their children, but in fact, on the contrary, this will stimulate rebellious psychology, and children will only be more inferior.
For Zhou Bingkun, this "other people's children" are either outside, or their own brothers and sisters, who are like shadows in their own growth and cannot get rid of them. Even if he has already established a family, he will still be compared by his parents, emphasizing the excellence of his brother and sister over and over again, his own mediocrity, although he has worked very hard.
Love redeemed him
Bingkun and Zheng Juan's initial acquaintance stemmed from his curiosity and entrained sympathy, he wanted to see what it was like to see what it was like to see what it was like to see and Tu Zhiqiang secretly married and had children, otherwise he would not agree to the request of the lame and cotton monkey.
When he saw Zheng Juan, who was disheveled and beautiful, he froze. She has the capital to make all men pity Xiang Xiangyu, and it is even more that he thinks about it, and Zhou Bingkun has a wild impulse to pounce on her. But seeing the embarrassment of Zheng Juan's family's suffering, he was ashamed of his idea and promised to come every month to send money.
However, since then, every time Bingkun thinks of her, his consciousness is not healthy, and love comes too suddenly. Because the cripple and the cotton monkey were caught, the 35 yuan given to Zheng Juan every month was gone, and Bingkun sold the heirloom bracelet, 1200 yuan was enough for her for 3 years. Bingkun's idea is simple, loving someone must be borne along with her troubles. Under Bingkun's pursuit, unrequited love escalates into love, but the reality is there, parents will not let themselves marry a little widow with children, so they secretly love each other.
On the way home for the New Year, Feng Huacheng was arrested for causing trouble again because of the mourning poems. Zhou Rong entrusted her friends to send Yue Yue to the Zhou family, where she stayed to run for her husband. When Bingkun knew that his sister's family might be involved in the political turmoil, he couldn't bear the pressure to tell his mother about this matter, but he didn't want his mother to faint directly from cerebral hemorrhage, and after treatment, he became a vegetative person, and did not know when he would wake up.
Unable to imagine, Bingkun found Zheng Juan and told her about the accident at home, and Zheng Juan only had one sentence: "How do you want me to help you?" How do you say it, how do I do it. This sentence reassured Bingkun, and he hoped that Zheng Juan could help him take care of his mother and niece, and he paid for it. Zheng Juan said, "Haven't you been offering us?" It turned out that Zheng Juan had long known that the lame two had been arrested, but the old and young in the family really had no choice but to pretend not to know how to continue to collect Bingkun's money.
His father and brothers and sisters could not help with their study and work outside, and Bingkun did not want them to worry about it in vain, so he hid his mother's illness from them. At this time, in fact, compared with Bingkun, Zheng Juan is the person who pays the most for the Zhou family, takes care of the family and the young, and guards the rear for the Zhou family, so that they can work hard without worries. For several years, even in the half year when Bingkun was arrested and imprisoned, Zheng Juan did not slack off in the slightest, and in the face of gossip, she strongly carried this family.
After being rehabilitated, Bingkun relied on her own efforts to become a newspaper editor, Zheng Juan almost infinitely admired him, she shared his happiness and happiness, played "Ode to Joy" with him with her body, every note was full of joy, Bingkun was greatly satisfied and proud and unprecedented self-confidence here in ZhengJuan.
epilogue:
In fact, there are a few parents under the sky who do not hurt their children, and it is not that Bingyi and Zhou Rong do not love this brother. On the contrary, Bingkun, as the old knot of the Zhou family, his parents loved him more than his brothers and sisters, and his brothers and sisters also let him everywhere, take care of him, and protect him.
Because Bingkun himself is indeed simple-minded and not very smart, compared to his brothers and sisters, he is inferior and sensitive when he is young, and will unconsciously amplify the unintentional harm caused to him in the words of his relatives. Parents, brothers and sisters have usually paid attention to his emotions, brothers and sisters will show him goodwill when they receive honors, and parents are also cautious in speaking.
But it was this deliberate cover-up that was self-defeating, which made Bingkun even more injured. It is better to let go of your hand, don't protect Bingkun so well, let him participate in everything in the family, respect his opinion, and give him the opportunity to show. Give encouragement and recognition at the right time, this is what Bingkun wants most, and what he most wants is the respect and recognition of his family.
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