Where do Chinese chicken parents lose?

Figure | Olympic Games

Text | Miki porridge

Explore the underlying logic of the success or failure of chicken babies. You really can't blame your parents for this.

Gu Ailing won the championship, and the most excited was the chicken baby's father and mother.

Especially knowing that "Huang Zhuang supplemented the Olympic Games for dozens of days to study in the United States for a year", the direct SAT high score sent her to stanford, and a tube of thick chicken blood was once again injected into the blood vessels of Chinese parents: What can double subtraction do? In the end, it is not a victory for Haidian parents.

Buddhist parents are also very excited, because many people feel that they want to understand a truth: if you want your baby to succeed, pure chicken babies are useless, and you may still have chicken mothers (dad dives in many stories).

Otherwise, when you lived in Huangzhuang, Haidian, and were neighbors with the tutoring class, the amount of Olympiad classes greatly exceeded that of Gu Ailing, why didn't you succeed?

It's all daddy and mom that don't give it a.

Look at the father, Google No. 5 employee, the mother is a Peking University student, the power of genes is strong. I can't wait for the melon-eating masses to cultivate such a cow baby, so don't brush up on these stories of Huangzhuang chicken babies. Give it up! Either concentrate on the chicken itself, or wash and sleep, which is more practical.

Of course, even if you want to chicken now, you don't have a chance, the double reduction has destroyed the training class, and Gu Ailing is the last generation of Huang Zhuang's closed disciples.

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In any case, the Haidian Bay Area makes many people think that Gu Ailing's mother, who has traveled to the Sino-US education circle, is a chicken baby mother. How is it possible to send a kid to ski every weekend for 8 hours?

This is actually not a chicken baby, at most it is a chicken, what needs to be overcome is the inertia of the parents, and the child is very enjoyable, because this is something she loves.

If my child could have such a passion, let alone eight hours round trip, I would be willing to take her across the earth.

However, I really didn't find out!

Like to pinch plasticine, pinched for two days and then changed to weave rope, flower rope played for half a year, suddenly one day, said that he likes to play the piano. As soon as I heard it, I had a headache and learned to play the piano to ruin my family. After several rounds of persuasion, she still refused to give up thinking that this time it was finally a hobby of her choice, so she sent it to school.

Learning the piano is really fast, but I never think of practicing when I go home. You also need to urge her to complete her homework, and I think it is really not cost-effective to be a mother, when I didn't let my child learn the piano, I didn't want to spend more time on this road, and now I am spending money and effort, what is the picture?

Moreover, relying on coercion and inducement to play the piano, the music played is bitter, why bother?

This may be the dilemma for many Chinese parents. We really want to be like Gu Ailing's mother, giving her all for the children, but we don't know what they really love.

There are always mothers who ask worriedly, what should children do if they only like Ultraman? This is not a problem at all.

Most of the children who love Ultraman can't like it for two years, and when they get bored, they change to another group of idols, such as Marvel heroes. You can't force him to like it all the time, chase and ask Ultraman what's wrong, how can you give up so easily?

It looks funny, but what is the difference between parents chasing their children to learn piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and playing and singing? I liked it at the beginning, full of curiosity and freshness, but after a few lessons, I began to study how to skip school...

Therefore, the efforts of parents and chickens can only be placed on buying school district houses, sending children into good schools, more resources and more roads, and it is difficult for them to act, so let the school come.

The primary school students at the opening ceremony of the Winter Olympic Games, Yishui Beijing's famous primary and secondary schools - Jingshan, Experimental, Secondary 2, Secondary 3, the performance team came from Jinfan. There is a cattle school in Xicheng, and on the first day of enrollment, musical instruments are assigned according to classes, which must be learned.

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Chinese children's hobbies are cultivated in this way, and they can also be hard chickens if they don't love them.

Parents are digging their heads out to get their children into the top clubs of the school, because it is helpful for further education. Even if you transfer halfway through, the resume you apply for must clearly write down what awards you have won. Naked Puva, no drama.

This cannot simply blame Chinese parents for being too utilitarian, it is a single evaluation criterion in society, forcing parents to be utilitarian.

You have to have a specialty, then practice! When the piano was on fire, there were three million piano children in Beijing. What the Golden Sail Orchestra needs, we will practice, the unpopular instruments are not afraid, and the quality of the school is the way out of high efficiency.

What does it matter whether the child likes it or not? The results are forced out, grow up to know grateful to the parents, when fortunately with the small whip behind the beating, the tears that flowed were not in vain...

Many children who are forced to grow up think so.

My daughter's dance teacher often said that when she was a child, she was beaten up when she was a child, and she suffered bitterly and became a superior person. I heard my heart skip a beat, thinking that if I play like this, I would just play a dance teacher...

Hard chickens can produce results and can maintain employment, but they are not needed much now.

In particular, if the parents are 985 masters, how can they meet their expectations for children by just training a dance teacher? Even if you can't enter Tsinghua Peking University, you can't be worse than your own parents.

Therefore, for many parents, further education is the only goal of learning art and sports.

Whether it is the domestic spelling of six small strong aerobics to learn programming, or the foreign climbing vine to play ice hockey golf, there is no difference in essence, with the results of the game as a stepping stone for famous schools.

Even Deng Yaping's son was not spared, and he was forced by his mother to practice for 8 hours every day, and won the ping-pong championship of the Beijing Youth Group, just to enter the top high school of his dreams.

Music sports and art, for Chinese parents, are ladders over the wall, and once they are useless, they can be discarded at any time.

Before knowing a little girl, the fourth grade after the eighth level of the pipa is very powerful, but the special student canceled, the further education can not be used, the pipa in her mother's eyes became a waste of time, was not hesitated to cancel the cancel.

The children who come out of the hard chicken can play the piano and draw, but they are all technicians and rarely become masters. On the contrary, Lang Lang, a child who learned the art from a young age, eventually became a generation of pianists.

Recently, there is a short track speed skating TV series "Beyond", the child who got the Olympic qualification, in order to skate sixteen years old dare to sneak to Qingdao audition alone, the ability is not good Coach does not accept, do not die to block the door of the training team, dead face begging...

Another girl who could be trained from childhood was as old as Chen Mian, higher than her level of joining the team, and her talent was not low, but as soon as she participated in the competition, she felt that she could not do it. Because the road is not chosen by yourself, it is prepared by your parents, even if you have the ability, you do not have the determination to fight with your opponent.

What kid has the chance to stand at the top? It is Gu Ailing's kind, and finally the big jump is shocking, when the mother let her keep the medal, she has to do a move that she has never done before, proving that she is the peak.

She succeeded, and everyone cheered. Even if it doesn't work out, don't leave yourself with regrets. The mind of an 18-year-old far overwhelms the parents' gains and losses.

Children are not afraid of failure, but parents are afraid of children's failure.

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Why are Chinese chicken parents not so successful? In addition to confusion and utilitarianism, there are some strange reasons.

First of all, do not believe that children can succeed.

Many parents like Lang Lang, but the third grade will still sell lyre chickens for schoolwork. Because they felt that Lang Lang's talent was one of the best in order to succeed. What did an untalented child waste that time on? It is better to study well and have a stable job in order to support yourself.

The men's soccer team lost to Vietnam on the first day of the new year, and friends angrily complained that there were only 6,000 registered football players in China, while Germany had millions. How is it possible not to lose the game?

He said he was an example. At that time, he loved to play football, played a little, and finally had the opportunity to be selected by the coach to participate in the city team competition. But! On the night he learned of this news, his father bought a ticket and sent him directly back to his hometown in Hubei...

Therefore, those who destroyed Chinese football cannot run the Football Association, but they are also inseparable from the joint efforts of a generation of parents. They will cheer for the Olympics and cheer for the gold medal while racking their brains to prevent their children from engaging in sports:

That's a person with developed limbs and a simple mind, who will do it...

Second, fear of everything unknown.

Professional athletes, injured and sick also have to engage in training. Deng Yaping played closed practice, Wu Dajing's foot bones were twisted into 50 years old and continued to skate, just these will scare parents to death, not to mention what extreme sports, ice and snow big jumping platform!

When I watched the first game, the contestant jumped in the air and flipped a few times, began to scratch his heart, and then watched him snap down and smash a snowflake, thinking that he was finished, afraid that he was not going to break his arm and leg... It wasn't until the contestant patted the snowflakes on his body to get up that he put his mind at ease.

The height difference of 50 meters, just look at it and feel a dizziness. I can't pass the psychological level, how can I chicken? In case of misfortune, one day he will be forced to jump on the stage like forcing them to learn the piano, is it not the same as forcing him to jump off the building?

Gu Ailing said that as long as she likes it, her mother will strongly support it. If you change to another family, it will become as long as the parents like it, and the child will do it all.

Children's hobbies are all for the realization of their parents' dreams, where is it possible to make their own choices?

Also, lack of courage and vision.

Parents' vision and courage are more important than academic qualifications. Many of Qingbei's parents and chicken babies have also failed, not because of their IQ problems, but because their educational cognition is not enough, their lives have no breadth, and it is too difficult to rely on children to forcibly break through.

Especially those who come out of the small town to be problem makers, and they believe that a successful life cannot be too happy.

There is a father, the child read the primary school in the West City feels good depraved, worried about how to win hengshui manufacturing in the future? It is better to send it to militarized management early in order to produce results.

He also took the baby on vacation, diving, skiing and soaking in the hot springs, looking like a competent parent. But everywhere you go, you have to memorize homework, and the child roars and suppresses as soon as he is happy: There is still homework that has not been completed, and he wants to play?

The atmosphere is broken every minute, and the children's interest is killed. For him, the so-called success is only the road of reading, and after reading the Qing Dynasty and entering the state-owned enterprises, everyone envies it.

The social evaluation standard is single, and it is true that Chinese parents do not have many choices.

Gu Mama can let her daughter practice sports, although the mentality is good enough, more importantly, in the United States, sports is the strongest stepping stone outside the IVFG achievements. In turn, if you take an Olympic medal to have a chance to be recruited by Qingbei, you can only be considered gilded, how can it be more logical than taking the Olympic gold medal?

But what about entering the Qing Dynasty? So many good children don't know why they live.

Many parents are right, genius is rare. Not all children who follow their love will succeed, and Gu Ailing has only one. What should I do if I fail?

Fear of losing without doing it, this is the wishful thinking of parents.

For small children, the answer is simple. If they fail again, they will not lose their lives anyway, because they never know what unhappiness is.