Author | Mulberry night
In the past two days, a picture has been circulated on the Internet:
That's right, it's Gu Ailing.
Skied at the age of 3, won the National Junior Championship at the age of 9, won the gold medal, and was admitted to Stanford University with near-full scores from an early age.
A glittering resume, and such an unusual family background.
Anyone has to say: this life is hanging!
Just two days ago, she had just completed the world's highest difficulty, 1620 degrees in the air, successfully reversed, and won the championship.
Rise, spin, churn, land.
A series of actions, clouds and water.
Who would have guessed? It's still a project she's not very good at.
Gu Ailing is really powerful, but after watching her interviews and experiences, she found a "hidden big guy"
——Gu Ailing's mother.
Gu Ailing's mother is the "ceiling" of the mother's class.
The biggest feature of Gu Ailing is that he has particularly high requirements for himself.
Someone else's 4-year course, she squeezed in time to complete it in 3 years;
Mom said that she didn't have to go to a prestigious school, she must be admitted to Stanford;
The third jump of the big jump is super difficult 1620, the mother is worried about her safety, let her choose the less difficult action, Gu Ailing still chose the challenge, and succeeded.
A child with self-drive is difficult not to succeed. This is due to the education method of mother Gu Yan.
Gu Ailing's mother Gu Yan:
"A highly talented student at Peking University, a famous biologist and one of the experts in synthetic bovine insulin, a closed disciple of Professor Shen Tong; he went to the United States at the age of 22 to study and received a full scholarship from Auburn University with a master's degree in biology; he was the director of the biogenetic laboratory at Rockefeller University School of Medicine; and later studied at Stanford University in the United States and obtained a master's degree in business administration (MBA)."
Compared with these titles, Gu Yan's preferred identity is Gu Ailing's mother.
Gu Ailing is a single parent, and her mother and grandmother are the people who accompany her the most.
Even though she is busy at work, she regards Gu Ailing's education as a lifelong career.
In order to cultivate a lifelong hobby for Gu Ailing, the mother's approach is to provide her with choices, and then "free-range" and let the children make up their own minds.
Since the age of 3, Gu Ailing has shown excellent talent for skiing.
Instead of throwing her child to the ski slopes early, the mother let her try more possibilities.
Horse riding, skiing, archery, football, ballet, piano... She would take the kids to try it.
The car was packed with different clothes and went to different interest classes.
My mother liked to ski and became a part-time ski instructor. Little Ailing grew up watching her mother's cool appearance when she skied, and she also fell in love with skiing.
Gu Ailing said she was lucky that her mother exposed her to different things when she was a child, and she finally chose her favorite freestyle skiing.
The cultivation of interest is not achieved overnight, and insisting on one thing requires overcoming inertia.
Since the age of 3, every winter ski season, on weekends and holidays, her mother has taken her back and forth on the same road, and this persistence is more than ten years.
Although busy, the mother never feels tired, for the mother, "for the future of the daughter, this is only a small contribution." ”
Let the child choose by herself, let her be responsible for herself, accompany her to persevere, to experience the joy of success, and get happiness from sports, which is Gu Yan's educational philosophy.
Even Gu Ailing herself said that she did not ski for competitions, not to study at prestigious schools.
Try because you like it; like it, and like it because you get a sense of accomplishment.
This becomes a virtuous circle, a higher level of happiness.
For her daughter's education, Gu Ailing's mother implemented an educational concept - trust.
She doesn't set tasks for her child, to what extent they have to do it.
Because she is not forced to learn, Gu Ailing shows great interest in her choices and always wants to do her best.
The super difficult action 1620 in the final of the big jump is also a decision made by Gu Ailing himself.
Mom advised her to do a less difficult move and compete for the silver medal.
Gu Ailing said that it was the hardest thing for him to do.
The mother did not argue with reason, let alone force her daughter to listen to her opinion. She just said, "OK, this is your game, then enjoy it." ”
The mother is willing to give the child the greatest trust.
When the daughter decided to challenge herself, the mother immediately chose to encourage the child:
"You can definitely do it, it's not hard for you."
In terms of learning, Gu Ailing is under the pressure of the whole family being a famous school. Mom told her:
"You don't have to go to Stanford, and more importantly, you don't give up studying for the rest of your life."
When Gu Ailing was distressed by the failure, her mother's opinion was:
"No one is perfect, so I want to love Ling and not be a perfect person, because there is no such thing."
Gu Ailing: "I would like to thank you all for Chinese at the Winter Olympics. ”
Mom's reply was: "Then you must be able to go first, and the second has to win the award, and the winner may come to interview you, so that you have the opportunity to thank everyone with Chinese." ”
Gu Ailing: "My mom is the best mom in the world. ”
Mom's reply was very heartwarming:
No success can be achieved by talent alone, and it is undeniable that having a good origin is of course a huge help.
Children can be created such good conditions for learning, and they can have the educational background of China and the United States, which ordinary people cannot learn.
But what makes Gu Ailing shine is not only her achievements, but also her personality:
Insist on not giving up, dare to try, and be strict with yourself;
Optimistic, cheerful, have their own life pursuits;
Freedom, abundance, happiness;
There is no exam first, no competition first, but to turn hard work into a habit, to turn success into a natural result...
Put on an ordinary girl, these are still beautiful qualities like gold.
Behind these qualities, there is a mother's pattern, vision, silent love and tenderness, but also decades of companionship, well-intentioned.
May our girls, like Gu Ailing, have a beautiful heart and a future paved with flowers
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Author: Sang Yuwan, contributor. Sensible and literary, with words to accompany you. Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.