When the school starts in the countdown, both parents and children may be more or less uncomfortable, after all, adjusting from "rest" mode to "work" mode requires our brains to form a new balance.
Then the week before the start of school is the best buffer period for our physical and mental transition. How do you use this week to make positive adjustments and prepare for action? Wang Yan, a full-time psychology teacher at Nanjing San Chinese Chang Junior High School, the leader of the Nanjing Psychology Department, and a psychological counselor in the national registration system, suggested that parents can work with their children to make psychological adjustments from the following four aspects to better welcome the new school year.
Cognitive preparation
Holiday review and new semester planning run parallel
1. Conduct a holiday review with your child, and the end of the holiday also requires a sense of ceremony.
Parents can prepare a pre-school family meeting with their children, which focuses on sharing and exchanging various fun and interesting events and experiences during the holiday. Flip through the photos, look at the videos, look back at the happy time of winter vacation and family together, let us look forward to the new year with a happy and grateful heart. Reunion and relaxation are the preparation for our next work and learning.
2. Talk about each other's New Year's resolutions and build a growing family.
Whether it is work or study, it is the embodiment of each of our sense of value and achievement. Talk to the children about their New Year's plans equally, let them see that different stages of life need to have different ways of working hard, and also encourage children to make their own new semester learning and growth plans, and the whole family will follow each other's examples, grow together, and create a learning-oriented growth family.
Through the warm and beautiful holiday review, coupled with the sharing of the plan and goal of the new school year, children can cognitively meet every correction and pranayama, and look forward to every forward and progress.
Emotional preparation
Read your own emotions and your child's emotions and communicate peacefully and harmoniously
In the face of the opening of the school, as a parent, of course, I expect my children to be happy to welcome the new semester, but different school sections and different children may have different emotional reactions. Therefore, we need to talk to our children about their thoughts on the new semester, listen to their emotional stories, be an active listener, and not interrupt, evaluate, or rush to any guidance and intervention.
When children have some inappropriate words and deeds due to negative emotions such as worry and anxiety, it is especially necessary for us to calmly and patiently listen, and not to communicate irrationally in an emotional state. Only if we are willing to sit down and listen to our children will they be able to learn how to express their emotions and address them in a positive way.
In the face of new adjustments in life, whether it is a parent or a child may be troubled by negative thinking or emotions, then we can carry out a SWTC thinking transformation, which can help us quickly calm down and clarify.
- The first step is STOP "stop" - turn on the red light, stop, and interrupt the diffusion of negative thoughts. This is the most difficult and important step, when you want to export hurt people must shout "stop". Our parasympathetic nerves can be activated by abdominal breathing. Close your eyes and put your hands on your abdomen for a few sets of abdominal breaths. Exhale, empty your lungs, take a deep breath, hold your breath for three seconds, and then exhale slowly and gently. Several sets of deep abdominal breaths can quickly calm emotions and put the brain in a low-stress state. Then count down from 100 to 1, allowing our attention to focus on the present moment.
- The second step is TORITE "write" – directly expressing negative emotions. Emotions are not good or bad, right or wrong, allow yourself to have negative emotions. Take out a small piece of paper or notebook, write down or draw down the negative emotions such as your uneasiness, fear, worry, anger and so on, and write down the unsolvable problems that bother you the most at the moment.
- The third step is THINK - to initiate rational and positive thinking. When emotionally stable we are experts in solving our own problems. In the mind, think and recall an experience that you have successfully solved a problem, activate your inner strength by recalling the confident feelings when you succeed, and tell yourself: I am a person who has the ability to solve problems, and I will definitely be able to survive the current difficulties.
- The last step is CHANGE "change" - another way of thinking and rethinking. Take out the small piece of paper or notebook you have written down and take a look at it, let's think differently, with positive, confident and full of strength, and rethink the way to solve the problem.
When an emotion is seen and allowed to be expressed, each of us can give birth to the wisdom to solve it, and if it really can't be solved, it is also a very good strategy to ask others for help. Parents are willing to talk to their children and can express what they have found, the unique advantages that children have, can alleviate the child's inner vulnerability and uneasiness; appreciate and strengthen the positive and positive emotional experience they have had in life, but also help children see their own strength, and put themselves into a new learning life with a happy mood.
Behavioral readiness
Physical exercise and homework tidying up
1. Adjust the biological clock, get up early and exercise appropriately.
Going to bed late during the holiday is a normal thing for many children, so parents can agree with their children to sleep for an hour early every day in the week of the countdown to the beginning of school, and to brew up sleep early at night, and the whole family will create a good sleeping environment through reading or parent-child small talk before going to bed. At the same time, guide the child to carry out appropriate physical exercise every day, and activate emotions and attitudes through the activation of the body.
2. Gradually reduce entertainment and enter the state of learning.
The step-by-step approach reduces the child's play time and gives him a process of adaptation and buffering. Before the start of school, it is unrealistic for parents to expect their children to be able to immediately quit the use of electronic products such as mobile phones, so we will gradually agree with their children on the length of entertainment and relaxation, and gradually increase the learning content, so that children are more receptive.
3. Prepare school supplies and organize holiday homework.
Preparing school supplies in advance can also allow children to appropriately purchase some new learning "equipment", increase the "sense of opening ceremony", and enhance children's expectations for the new semester. At the same time, keep in touch with classmates and exchange some learning growth plans and goals for the new semester. Of course, the most important thing is to complete the holiday homework and greet the start of school with confidence.
Home-school cooperation
Pay attention to the release of school information and arrange relevant work in a timely manner
Before the start of the school, we should pay attention to the release of relevant information about the school in time and do a good job in the preparation of various schools. Daily temperature measurement, do a good job of epidemic prevention.
Source: Yangtze Evening News
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