I remember that when I joined the company that year, I always retained a belief that I was gentle with my students.
In junior high school, we met a teacher who was gentle as a spring breeze, and everyone liked her.
However, after only a week of getting along, she left.
Since then, the image she has given us has been so profound that for a long time afterwards, everyone has been thinking of her.
She also became a style of my teacher, and when I became a junior high school teacher, I thought, I want to be such a favorite teacher.
With this belief, I also walked up to the three-foot podium, a gentle beginning, but did not get a gentle return.
Slowly becoming the kind of teacher I used to be afraid of, the only relief is that although the students are afraid, they do not hate, and even like it.
Let go of the past and open up new perspectives
I have always held a gentle attitude, but in the end I have achieved nothing, and I have received a lot of complaints.
In the first year of employment, the students were very lively, I was also very relaxed, and we were on the road together.
However, after a year, the results were mediocre, the anxious complaints of parents, the seeming hostility of colleagues, the open and honest admonitions of leaders...
It affects my work mood and state all the time.
Look at the colleagues who joined together next door, the image is harsh and spicy, the students don't like it, but the results are good.
The relationship between colleagues is harmonious, the teacher admires the class, and the leader is heavy...
With contrast, there is natural harm. Whether to let the damage continue, or stop the loss in time, is up to me.
I can no longer immerse myself in the past, I can no longer superstitiously believe in that short-lived experience, and concentrating on my career is king.
Let go of the past, look up, and realize how wrong you are.
When I was a junior high school student, the authority of the teacher could not be questioned, and we all obeyed and respected it.
When I became a junior high school teacher, the authority of the teacher was no longer deeply rooted, and the respect of the society for the teacher came from the role of the teacher in the growth of the students.
As we often hear, "The teacher now is not as good as the teacher who used to be." ”
However, the progress of society is driven by talents, but aren't all the talents of today achieved by previous teachers?
Therefore, it is not that the present is not as good as before, but that we have not been able to let go of the past.
If we can't let go of the past, we naturally can't look at the present objectively and fairly.
Can't let go of the past, naturally can't think dialectically about the present.
The gentle teacher who was like water was suitable for us in junior high school, but it was not suitable for me as a junior high school teacher.
Another year, put away the style of wanton jokes, treat every class carefully, implement every point, and pay attention to every child.
Smile less, not that you can't laugh, but you learn to put it away.
Gentleness is less, not that it will not be gentle, but that it has learned to be targeted.
In "Breaking Away", it is said: "Awakening the "circulating" breath of life in the river of isolated people can open a new chapter." ”
With the past, I also gained the recognition of the students, the confidence of the parents, and the different eyes of the leaders.
It turns out that letting go of the past is the beginning of the transfer.
Abandon meaningless relationships and focus on your own development
The relationships that I began to care about were so overwhelming that I couldn't breathe, and I even wanted to escape.
And I was still chasing, and during this time, embarrassment was the norm, and disgust was obvious.
At this time, A sentence was heard: "The social capital of adults comes from a certain aspect of advantage." ”
Suddenly, it turned out that I was a person with no advantage.
No wonder it took so long to work hard and still not fit into the work circle.
Effort is just not to drag the legs, outstanding talent to stand firm.
Therefore, instead of chasing those difficult relationships, re-examine yourself and pay attention to your own development.
After several years of experience, I slowly heard some rumors: "She is guided by a high person, the future is immeasurable, and she can't afford it." ”
Listening to these rumors, I was able to laugh without being shocked.
It turns out that maturity is to face unfriendliness, to be able to be light and breezy, and to have a sense of accomplishment that has succeeded in treacherous schemes.
If you are good, it is also a sin. So let me "sin the worst."
Maturity is the law of nature, growth is self-breakthrough, I am only mature, not yet grown.
Until that day, in the face of the whole school speech, I used my own personal experience to talk and laugh about the harm I had suffered.
Infected the whole audience, won the applause, only to find that everyone came this way, some have not yet come out, some have seen through.
There is no shame in being self-centered. The real shame is that we are desperately squeezing into irrelevant networks of relationships, but living outside our own mainstream.
Be yourself, it's good.
Throw away the inherent experience and break through the upper limit of your ability
In the education career, the inability to escape is the problem of "poor life".
At first, I thought they weren't bad, just pretending to be asleep.
So, I thought, "I'll never wake up the kids who pretend to be asleep." ”
Later, I felt that they were not pretending to sleep, just unwilling.
Therefore, I also think that learning requires a two-way rush of "you love me".
All of this is an excuse! It's an excuse for us to avoid responsibility.
For these excuses, we stop moving and stop thinking.
They lose the opportunity to grow, and the children also lose the opportunity to progress.
Do not be superstitious about the experience of the masses, but should learn the lessons of the masses.
At the end of that year's maternity leave, the former teacher was a big fan of the above two experiences.
A year later, in the middle school entrance examination, those few children who could never pass in her eyes passed.
One of them, I got my unexpected results and broke through my learning ceiling, and I also broke through my ability limit.
In that year, he won the honorary titles of "Preparation Expert", "Contribution to the Promotion Section", "Excellent Teacher" and so on.
The honors that I had never thought about in all these years would actually pour in at once.
It turns out that "things are man-made" is a universal experience.
Write at the end
Abandonment is not the beginning of suffering, and letting go is not a prelude to grief.
When people reach middle age, they must let go of some obsessions, give up some relationships, and abandon some routines.
There is no eternity in this world, even the true heart will change, let alone those subjective truths?
What we can do is keep overturning and rebuilding, and this process is called optimization.
Optimization makes people progress, optimization makes people profound, and optimization makes people enriched.
Optimization is the power to awaken the flow of life.