A few days after the start of construction, friends and colleagues around me said that during the year, this year the family was "spawned" again.
During the New Year, almost every adult can't escape the fate of being urged to marry, and this situation is not only the trouble of our ordinary people, but even the stars cannot escape the same fate.
Yan Chengxu revealed in the program that he was urged to marry and have children by his mother
Recently, the variety show "Friends Please Listen Well 2" ushered in the idol drama originator Yan Chengxu and Wu Jianhao, when asked by the host what her mother usually worries about herself, Yan Chengxu said somewhat shyly: Her mother hopes that she can meet a good object soon.
The surrounding guests and hosts couldn't help but laugh after listening, it turned out that the "big handsome guy" Yan Chengxu would also be urged to marry by his parents at home, especially in this year or two, his age is getting older, and his mother will be more anxious about his marriage events, and he will be more anxious to hug the next generation.
I have to say that not only our ordinary people, even such an excellent person as Yan Chengxu can not avoid being urged to marry by his mother, many netizens have felt that they have no concern, after all, Yan Chengxu is still single
In fact, after Yan Chengxu and Lin Chiling's "century reunion", Yan Chengxu's mother has begun to be anxious, and even more bluntly: Lin Zhiling is 42 years old, 2 years older than her son, so "to get married, it is not easy to have children."
Moreover, Yan Chengxu is the only son in the family, so the mother is very important to whether the other half of the son can pass on the family lineage.
But now that Lin Chiling has married and had children, Yan Chengxu is still alone here, and it can be seen that Yan's mother is really anxious
What should I do in the face of the urging of my parents at home?
In the country where the concept of fertility is traditional, the concepts of children and grandchildren, branches and leaves, and raising children and preventing old age have gradually become ethereal and distant luxuries, and it is no wonder that the elders in the family are always deeply anxious.
In the face of the birth of the elders in the family, it is difficult for children to explain how low the willingness to have children is today, and it is even more difficult to explain what are the objective reasons and social emotions behind the low willingness to have children.
Marriage promotion is not an intergenerational contradiction, more important is a systemic problem, whether it is children or parents, if they can understand each other, then it will be much better than one party to pressure and the other to bend the other side to seek perfection.
Is it really wrong for children to be urged by their parents to marry and have children?
The pace of life in modern society is accelerating, and women must shoulder the pressure of giving birth to children while participating in earning money to support their families.
According to statistics: At present, the average childbearing age of women on the mainland is 5 years later than in the past, and there are many women who give birth to children at the age of 30, and even the age of childbearing will be higher.
However, from the perspective of women's fertility rules, the strongest time of fertility is around the age of 25, and after the age of 30, it begins to show a downward trend, and many women lose the ability to conceive after the age of 44.
Lu Xun once said: "Time is life", and for modern women, "time is fertility", so in the face of their parents urging marriage and children, but they do not want to give up the golden period of their careers, men and women must learn to properly balance such contradictions.
Women can try to "assess" their fertility
In fact, women can also evaluate their future fertility, to put it bluntly, it is to assess the reserve capacity of their ovaries.
The reserve capacity of the ovaries refers to the number and quality of the remaining follicles, which can intuitively reflect the future reproductive potential of women, if they do not want to marry and have children at present, then they may wish to do a fertility assessment as soon as possible, once their fertility potential is low, then they must actively solve the fertility problem.
First, the assessment can begin with self-observation
The normal menstrual cycle for women is 28-30 days, if the menstrual cycle of women is shorter, and even some women will have a menstrual cycle of less than 25 days, then this is a signal of the decline in ovarian reserve capacity;
In addition, the reserve capacity of the ovaries will also be affected by family genetics, and some mothers have early menopause, so as daughters, they must be vigilant about whether they will have the same problem.
Second, with the help of medical methods
In addition to self-observation methods, medical methods can more accurately assess women's fertility.
Like women who have had ovarian surgery and chemotherapy, they need to assess the ovarian reserve capacity as soon as possible and plan for future fertility.
Kojima would like to say:
Marriage promotion seems to be the anxiety of the elderly, in fact, it is more for the good of the next generation, if it is not a special group, it is best to hurry up early and not late.
In addition, I sincerely hope that Yan Chengxu is getting better and better, and I also hope that he can find his own happiness as soon as possible.