To say that Elon Musk is "Iron Man" should mean two things, one refers to his success in the field of business technology, and the other means that he has a strong mind and can withstand a lot of harm.
Musk's childhood was unhappy, his parents' failed marriage made him almost feel the warmth of the family, he was bullied at school, and he was almost beaten to death by his classmates.
When he grew up a little, Musk fled South Africa, moved to Canada, and then to the United States. In the more than a decade from studying and starting a business, Musk seemed out of place in the crowd, and suffered exclusion and blows as a result.
Because of the creation of the Zip2 website, Musk began to become rich. Because of the PayPal, Musk became super rich. And then SpaceX, Tesla...
In this process, behind Musk's success, there are countless betrayals, ridicules and injuries.
For example, during the founding of the PayPal, the struggle for money, power and reputation was a business war.
PayPal was formed by the merger of two companies, the main shareholders are Musk and Peter Thiel, because of the contradiction between business philosophy and development route, during the vacation between Musk and his wife, the company "coup" occurred, musk was removed from power.
Musk often said that "vacations are fatal" later, which is probably a lesson learned during PayPal.
Because of the PayPal, Musk's management ability has been questioned by many people, and former employees of PayPal have even said that if Musk continues to be CEO, the company will soon collapse.
After PayPal was sold, Musk got a large share of the money, and the media attributed Musk's success to good luck, and Peter Thiel and others were the main contributors to PayPal success. The disgruntled Musk wrote a response, listing that the facts proved that he was fully qualified as a CEO, but the outside world did not think so, which made Musk very hurt.
If there is any excuse for commercial deception, then the malice from the family is difficult to let go.
During Musk's founding of SpaceX and Tesla, rocket launches failed three times in a row, Tesla was widely questioned, and his wife Justin left him because she was dissatisfied with Musk's strength and neglect.
After the divorce, As a writer, Justin fought a divorce lawsuit with Musk while writing articles in the media and the Internet to expose Musk's annoying side, which forced Musk to face the public relations crisis of the company and individuals at the same time.
At the low point of his career and life, Musk said that he was simply shot by a pistol in turn, "There are a lot of people who are happy, which is very bad for me in every way." Justin tortured me through the media, there was always negative coverage of Tesla in the media, and reports of SpaceX's third failed launch, which was a big hurt to me, making me seriously doubt that my life would not go on, that the car would not go on, that I was going through divorce proceedings and all of this. I felt like I was worthless. I don't think we can hold on. I think maybe it's all over. ”
Put yourself in the shoes of someone who has experienced what Musk has done, he must have enough reason to hate and take revenge.
But Musk didn't choose to do so, "Life is too short to withstand endless grievances." For the past right and wrong, Musk chose to understand, tolerate and release.
"I think if you had a tough childhood, you could take two approaches. One of the ways is, from the reality that whoever is mean to me, I am mean to whom, but this is obviously not very good; I use another method. ”
For Musk, whether it is the hardships and pains he suffered as a child, or the humiliation and hurt he experienced as an adult, it has passed, and no matter how he retaliates, it will not help.
Life still has to look forward, carry the burden of the past, and be full of resentment in your heart, which will only make yourself bad, and punish yourself with the mistakes of others.
So, hate is stupid, love is wise.
Each of us should choose that life is short and precious life time should be spent on those meaningful things, not wasted on those things that don't matter.
"I don't think life should be just about solving everyday chores. If that's all there is to it, if all our lives are spent on solving everyday chores, then why do we have to get out of bed every day? ”
From ancient times to the present, there is no one who has not experienced right and wrong, grace and resentment, and everyone has every reason to hate others and retaliate against others.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, Su Shi was forced by political enemies to degrade all the way to the barbaric land, and almost lost his life. But Su Shi did not have the slightest resentment toward anyone, and he wrote a poem saying, "Nine deaths in the Southern Wilderness I do not hate, Zi youqi is the best in life." "I am in a desperate situation, but I see it as a trip and treat it indifferently."
The eldest husband measured like a sea, and said that this is such a person.