I thought that holding hands would be a lifetime, but I didn't want to lose each other in the middle of the road, should I blame fate? Or blame each other's infirmity?
Love has a shelf life, if you can't learn to operate well, then sooner or later one day will be scattered, this can not blame the fate of the trickery, can only complain that you do not know how to cherish.
Don't feel that as long as you love each other, you can go to the end, love needs to be maintained by both parties, and you must know how to get along, in order to maintain this relationship and come to the end.
If you always learn how to love, and even behave selfishly in the process of getting along, then it is difficult for you to go on for a long time, and such feelings themselves are not solid.
Therefore, you must remember that two people who get along in this way are doomed to have a shallow relationship, it is difficult to go far, and if you want to have a long-term relationship, you still have to avoid these problems.
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Think only for yourself
Everyone is selfish, which is normal, but if two people have been together for a long time, they still can't learn to think about each other, and even if they have things, they will only shirk their responsibilities, then the relationship is not normal and it is difficult to go far.
Two people together, is the need to pay and love each other, rather than thinking about everything only about themselves, the other party's mood does not want to care at all.
In fact, this selfish performance can only show that in his heart you are not so important, he will only put his own interests first, if this is the case, then leave early.
A person who only thinks about himself and never thinks about you, it is difficult for you to go to the whitehead with him, and you can get pleasure from him.
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Doesn't know how to communicate
Two people together, the most important point is to have something to talk about, think about the long years, two people who have nothing to say, just like that, still a little bored.
More importantly, you will feel that you have chosen the wrong person, do not know what is the point of being with him, and do not understand the value of such a relationship.
In fact, two people who do not know how to communicate are equivalent to cold violence, seemingly together every day, but in fact, they are just strangers under the same roof, slowly do not even want to say a word, for fear that they will quarrel as soon as they say it, rather than this, it is better to stay silent.
If this is the case, it means that you are not far from separation, after all, there are still so many years to go, it is impossible not to say anything, and not to communicate when encountering things.
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Will not be considerate of each other
In a relationship, the most important thing is to know how to understand, everyone is not perfect, there will be shortcomings, this is not terrible, afraid that the other party will not understand you, but also will always talk about your shortcomings.
Even if whatever you do, he will find reasons to refute it, in this case, don't have much hope in him, he will not change for you.
If a person is not willing to understand you, your efforts he never sees in his eyes, this relationship can not see the future, you are doomed to have no good results.
People who get along in this way can only show that there is no existence of you in his heart, and he will feel that there is no pity for losing you, and he naturally will not think of understanding you.
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Conclusion
In the final analysis, whether the relationship can be long-lasting, or need to operate together, if only one party is working hard to maintain, the other party does not know how to cherish, it is doomed to be a shallow love, not far away.
Only when two people can understand each other, know how to communicate, and are willing to consider each other, this relationship will have a good development and can go long.
Two people together, contradictions are inevitable, the key is to encounter contradictions, whether you will work together to find a solution, or will only resent each other, this is very critical.
If anyone sees who is not pleasing to the eye, then what day to live, it is time to separate as soon as possible, but if you still have the heart to continue to maintain this relationship, then spend more thoughts, let the other party feel your intentions.