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Character is a person's best feng shui.
What touched me most recently was the encounter of Sister Wang in the unit.
Sister Wang, is a person with a special idea, if she is able to evaluate the title is definitely not a problem, but she is always deliberate to take shortcuts, the mind is not in her own business, always like to calculate everywhere, take advantage of small advantages.
Therefore, in ordinary days, she is not calculating this, or pondering other people's ideas, often other people's inadvertent words, a micro-expression make her ponder for a long time, all day long suspicious, you never know whether the sentence that comes out of her mouth is true or false.
In her heart, no matter what, the benefits always outweigh the emotions.
Slowly, everyone alienated her, but she did not realize it.
In the final title evaluation voting link, her vote was surprisingly small, and naturally she was not selected, but looking at her surprised look, I think she herself did not think of it, usually feel that she is left and right, eight faces exquisite.
In fact, no one is a fool, your calculation, others are looking in the eyes, not do not understand, just do not want to poke, in the end, seemingly small smart, in fact, smart but smart mistakes, the organ calculation is ultimately an empty.
Therefore, being a person, don't calculate, be honest with others, and do things in a down-to-earth manner is the long-term way.
To be a man, it is better to be shrewd than to be generous.
Calculation is a thorn in the heart.
Calculating, living too tired.
The famous psychologist Zhang Defen once said: What you see is the refraction of your heart.
This means that what kind of person you are, you will naturally think that others are also what kind of people.
This is the famous projection phenomenon in psychology, so a person who is good at calculation must measure others with the same mind.
There is a little boy who has a lot of beautiful stones, and a little girl who has a lot of sweet candy.
One day, the little boy wanted to eat candy, so he made an agreement with the girl to exchange all her candy with all his stones, and the little girl happily agreed.
When the boy returned home, he secretly picked out the largest and most beautiful stone and exchanged it with the girl, who gave the boy all her candy without reservation, as she had promised.
Just like that, after the two went home.
The boy, who couldn't sleep all night tossing and turning, kept wondering and wondering: Is it that the girl also hid the sweetest candy?
And the girl, but happily hugged those beautiful stones, early and sweet into the dreamland...
Wilde once said:
A man cannot always have a poisonous snake in his chest; he cannot get up at night and plant thorns in the garden of the soul.
A person who is always calculating others must always worry about whether he has also been calculated, suspicious of gods and ghosts, uneasy every day, and naturally live tired.
Being human is complicated, it is better to be simple.
The famous writer Zhang Kangkang once said in "Art Life": Be a person but seek peace of mind.
What is the point of having more and living too tiredly.
Peace of mind thatched hut temperature, sex set vegetable root fragrance, this is the best life.
Counting others is actually a set for yourself.
I remember, when I was very young, I heard such a story.
Once upon a time, the foot farmer had two horses pulling goods for him, and one day they went on the road to deliver the goods.
The farmer loaded the two horses with the same cargo, and as a result, one of the horses was honest and diligent and ran very fast, while the other was sneaky and slippery, unwilling to contribute, and deliberately ran very slowly.
When the farmer saw it, he thought that the goods were too heavy, so he gave the goods to the fast horse, and the slow horse saw the situation, thinking to himself, if I slow down a little longer, the camel's goods will not be less, and so it will become slower and slower, and the goods will be less and less.
The fast horse camel's cargo was too much, too tired, so it signaled to the slow horse: Dude, I am too tired, you help me share a little. The slow horse pretended not to see it, thinking in his heart: the fool agreed to it, and continued to pretend to be slower than it.
As a result, the fast horse was too tired, and after a while, he was so tired that he couldn't walk.
At this time, the farmer had to put all the goods on this slow horse.......
There are always some people, like this slow horse, who are scheming, like to calculate, always calculating everywhere, afraid of eating a little loss, trying to take advantage of everything, and secretly secretly enjoying their own cleverness.
As everyone knows, good and evil will eventually be rewarded, and the cycle of cause and effect, if you calculate others, you will eventually return to yourself.
Similarly, in "Do You Know If It Should Be Green Fat Red Skinny", in order to be prosperous and rich, in order to satisfy his own selfish desires, Mo Lan did not hesitate to calculate his father, calculate the old lady of Sheng, calculate the entire Sheng family, and finally married Liang Han as he wished, and the result was that the other party was a prodigal son, and his life after marriage was very miserable, and he finally bound himself as a cocoon.
So, don't calculate, all your careful thinking, God is in the eyes, not not to report, the time has not yet come.
As Premier Zhou Enlai said:
People who think they are smart often do not have a good ending, and the smartest people in the world are honest people, because only honest people can withstand the test of facts and history.
Calculation is a short-sighted act.
Zeng Guofan has such a sentence:
Those who do not seek the overall situation are not enough to seek a city, and those who do not seek the world are not enough to seek a moment.
Calculation, seemingly taking advantage, is actually a short-sighted behavior.
The more calculated, the narrower the road.
People's hearts are bright, no one is a fool, and calculation will only make family members lose harmony, alienate friends, and make business partners look at each other.
There is an old saying: There is more help for the way, and less help for the wrong way.
Calculation will only eventually make you live a lonely life.
Calculation is a kind of poor thinking.
This kind of person has a narrow vision, and what he sees and calculates is always the number of digits after the decimal point, but no matter how big these numbers are, they are not larger than the previous digits.
The same pancake fruit shop in front of the school, one shop business is dismal, the other is hot.
It seems that there is no difference in the method, but it was later found that the difference lies in an egg.
It turned out that eggs were charged on a per-case basis, with one family picking the smallest egg and the other trying to give the largest egg to the customer.
The former seems to save an egg money, in the long run, not necessarily, and even ruined their own business, more than worth the loss.
Therefore, calculation is actually a small pattern that reflects a person because of small losses.
The pattern of one person determines the end, so such a person can never become a climate, and such a business will never be long-term.
Not counting is not only a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom.
"The New Language of the World" has a saying, small victory depends on wisdom, and great victory depends on virtue.
A person's character is a person's best feng shui.
Finally, I'll tell you a story about "Lunch in Hell and Heaven."
A person comes to heaven and hell to visit and eat, but finds that it is obviously the same meal, but the situation is very different, the people in hell are sad and bitter, and the flesh and bones are like wood, while the people in heaven are smiling and happy.
Why?
It turns out that the chopsticks they use for eating are particularly long, and they can't clip the food in front of them at all, so no matter how hard they try, the people in hell can't eat the delicacies that are close at hand, while the people in heaven are willing to clip food to each other, and they also get each other's feeding.
It turns out that whatever you want yourself to get, you have to let someone else get it first.
Conclusion:
As the saying goes, those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed are blessed.
The best blessing in life is our heart.
You sow honesty, in order to harvest freely;
You sow kindness in order to harvest steadfastness;
You sow the thick road, in order to reap the long-term harvest.
To be a person, shrewdness is not as good as being generous, calculating is not as good as being frank, and being strong is not as good as being kind.
All your good fortune is hidden in your good deeds!
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