When in love, the boyfriend may love you very much, willing to pay the bill, willing to spend money for you, but after marriage, pushing open the door is chai rice oil and salt.
With children, milk powder diapers, toys and food supplements, clothes and shoes, and various households must spend.
When you ask for money more and more frequently, my husband's face is getting worse and worse.
When you were young, you thought you were married to love, but later, can you still be proud?
So no matter at any time, a woman who lives well always puts financial independence first.
People always have to think for themselves, money is your sense of security, your confidence, your self-confidence.
To have a stable income of your own, you are at least in the aspects of food, clothing, housing and transportation, and you do not have to look at people's faces with your palms facing upwards.
Secondly, every decision you make yourself, everything you buy is very solid in your heart, and you can enjoy the joy of spending money.
But in the end, you will earn and spend, and you still have to have the ability to control money.
Have financial thinking, do a good job of open source and throttling, and give yourself a support.
Su Qian said:
"Women are more likely to see the world. Traveling, reading, but anything that can make your heart richer, even if you force yourself to try more. People's narrowness, entanglement, and weakness are all because the world has seen too little. ”
A woman who has a good life must be rich in her heart.
They do not need to rely on the outside world to judge themselves, have their own persistence and thinking, and dare to accept correct criticism;
They rarely brush social media, but maintain the habit of reading, in the ocean of knowledge, constantly enrich themselves and improve themselves;
They always maintain curiosity and desire to learn, are willing to think deeply about what they see and hear, and constantly improve their experience and value.
They know how to love themselves, never put their hopes on others, contentment is firm, and they are not afraid of losing anyone.
In this life, the most important skill that people should master is to be the protagonist of their own spirit.
See your own scenery, walk your own path, and enrich your body and mind.
Having the confidence to be loved and the ability to please yourself is the highest level of romance in life.
Have you ever noticed a phenomenon that seems to fluctuate more easily in women than in men?
But in fact, emotional instability has a lot to do with body hormones, women will secrete more hormones than men, and emotional changes will be more complicated.
But that doesn't mean letting emotions get out of control. Because once the emotion is sick, it is more terrible than the body.
Bi Shumin once said:
The most harmful things for a woman are resentment and guilt.
The former allows us to aim our vicious energy at others; the latter turns the muzzle of the gun and directs this negative emotion at ourselves.
Emotions are like a safety barrier that protects our physical and mental health, and once it gets out of control, it is like a flood devouring the people around us.
But the biggest victim must be ourselves.
At any time, do not be a slave to emotions, maintain emotional stability, and be open-minded.
To do that alone would have beaten fifty percent of women.
It's hard to be happy about one thing for a whole year, but we're often depressed for a small thing.
In the world, pain is always more profound than happiness, and the tighter you drag, the more you can't extricate yourself.
But life always has to go forward, and if you want to get better, you must learn to let go.
Life gets better, starting with constantly saying goodbye to your past self.
Some things don't have to be too reluctant, some people don't have to care too much, they can turn back when they can't go through the road, and those who love but can't let go.
Don't trap yourself in sad memories, and don't embarrass yourself with past experiences.
This is not an escape, but maturity.
Reduce the emotions projected on people who don't want to do it, so that you can free up the moment to embrace the moment and focus more on your own life.
When you don't worry about the past, reduce the time to worry, and the more relaxed you live.
We often feel like we're in the vortex of life, miserable, sad, confused about what we want.
But those women who live well never let the world drown out the romance and enthusiasm of life.
They are willing to spend time every week tidying up their rooms, buying some flowers to decorate, and looking at the mood will be good.
They also try to learn to cook some of their favorite foods, enjoy the cooking process, and then get a sense of accomplishment from it.
They also have their own hobbies and like to try new things, painting, makeup, taking pictures, yoga.
At any time, they can find the beautiful things around them, and they can see the small touches they usually have.
There is a passage in the Brothers Karamazov:
"I think everyone in the world should love life first."
"What does it mean to love life more than to love life?"
"It must be like this, beyond logic to love."
Life is not a choice, but a love.
When you put your love into the details of life, you will find that even if the years are long, it is still worth waiting.
There is a question on Weibo: When did everyone start not liking socializing?
The answer at the bottom is: it is when you realize that it is "not worth it".
The more friends you have, the more time, energy, and even money you need to invest.
But those who can stay until the end, who can help you, and influence you are actually the few people around you.
Friends need to be streamlined, and so do circles.
It's normal to have relatives and distances between people, you don't have to pay attention to everyone, and you don't have to be too entangled.
Find a circle that belongs to you, it doesn't need to be too big or too cluttered.
There are three or five to make friends, there is a group of people with the same interests, you can be honest with each other, making socializing easier and more efficient.
Love what you love, choose what you want.
With a streamlined and calm attitude, live a relaxed and comfortable life.
I met a friend who went to bed at 10:30 every night, got up in the morning to wash up, and never went to bed.
No matter how busy work is, I will also insist on eating breakfast at home and then going to work, and no matter what happens on the weekend, I will not lie down and play mobile phones, brush dramas, or watch study videos at home, or go out to watch a movie, or go to the gym to exercise.
Never delay or slack, efficient and calmly arrange every day in an orderly manner.
So we all admire her very much and have always tried to get closer to her.
I've heard a very reasonable quote:
"You're doing well, not because you're getting anything, but because everything is going in order as expected."
The more disciplined a woman is, the more she understands what she really wants.
Spend all your time and energy to enrich yourself, work hard to cultivate yourself, be gentle and self-motivated, self-disciplined and efficient.
Such a woman, even if she does not apply powder, will become more attractive and appreciated with the passage of time.
Read a sentence:
"What really changes our destiny is not our opportunity, but our attitude."
A good life, in the end, depends on ourselves.
And for a woman, the best state of life is probably half fireworks, half poetry.
"Holding fireworks in hand to make a living, and poetry to seek love."
Whether good or bad, get closer to what you like a little bit, to complete your dreams no matter how big or small, and love life and love yourself.
In this way, it is the best life.
Click [watching], may you live a life in the future, contented and self-motivated, gentle and determined, and live your best appearance.
The author | Puffs
The anchor | Lin Jing, in the world of sound and words, runs with you to the mountains and seas.
Pictures | Visual China