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It's New Year's Again, and it's the most sociable time in the family.
In addition to visiting relatives and friends, there is also an important thing in communication - to give children money.
In our custom, giving money to a child is a picture of a happy picture, to express a blessing to the child. But now the nature of pressing the old money and the part of the money is also similar, give more to give less have to be leisurely, otherwise if you are not careful, you will make others feel awkward. Or maybe you're embarrassed.
This girlfriend sent me a voice saying that the annual annoyance is coming again, it is about pressing the old money.
According to my girlfriend, her eldest uncle's family has moved to the city, life is rich, perhaps rich and willful, the second child was born early, and last year she responded to the call to give birth to a third child, the house is large, and there is a 300,000 car.
The girlfriend's family is still a child. I didn't buy a house in town, and I lived with my in-laws in my hometown house.
In the past, the New Year's Day to give the old money, the girlfriend husband will give his nephew and niece a person 500, the big uncle, will give the girlfriend child 500, calculate down, the girlfriend side to give out 1000, only a 500. The girlfriend also recognized, who let the family have more children.
As a result, this year, the girlfriend discussed with her husband about pressing the old money, and the husband said that it was still the same old way, and a child there gave 500. This girlfriend is really a little unbalanced in her heart, so that she has to lose 1,000 every year, and others are richer than themselves. This is obviously taking advantage of us, right? She was uncomfortable.
I believe that many families may encounter such a situation. His family has three babies, my family only has one, red envelopes to the same amount of bar, significantly I suffered losses. Give less, and be afraid that the other party will not want to. So what to do?
Give you a trick.
◆ Let the other party give first, and then divide the children equally according to the total amount given by the other party, or add more points
Suppose the other party has 3 children, and the other party wraps a 500 red envelope for your baby. Then you can divide the 500 yuan into three equal parts, and then stuff it into three red envelopes and give one to each of the other's 3 children.
In this way, you yourself will not suffer losses, the other party will not suffer losses, and both sides can achieve psychological balance.
Of course, 500 yuan is not a good point, and such a point always seems to be a bit calculated. Then you can add 100 to the total of 500, divide the 600 into three equal parts, and each child will be given a package of 200 yuan of pressure money.
This makes it appear that the emotional intelligence is very high. After all, you did not give less, but gave more to the other party in the total, and the amount of more is not large, you are comfortable in your own heart, and the other party has nothing to say.
This is a more flattering approach.
◆ If the other party is obviously accustomed to taking advantage of him, then it is not accustomed to him, how comfortable they are
One reader once shared her experience. He said that every New Year's Day, his husband gave money to the children of his eldest sister's family first. One child gives 500 and two children give 1000. As a result, the eldest sister took "our family is not happy with red envelopes" as the reason, what red envelopes do not give their own babies, they bought clothes, may be worth one or two hundred yuan.
Every year like this, of course, she is uncomfortable in her heart, and every New Year's Day, she has to have a small pimple in her heart.
Later, one year she also changed it, and also changed it to buy clothes. Then incidentally, he cried in front of the eldest sister and cried poorly, saying that the economic situation was not good and that he had earned too little.
The eldest sister's face is very ugly, but she is comfortable in her own heart, no matter what others think!
In fact, this is also a strategy.
That is, if you feel uncomfortable in your heart, find a way to make yourself comfortable. And want to make yourself comfortable in your heart, but also worry about other people's discomfort, then do things will be controlled everywhere, look ahead, look ahead, money is not less spent, good people are not treated.
In the final analysis, pressing the old money is just a blessing for the younger generations, and everyone symbolically gives points, just try to celebrate the New Year. Don't mind too much.
If it is a relatively close relative, more than one hundred and two hundred is nothing. As long as you are comfortable in your heart, it doesn't matter if you take advantage of some losses.
But if you are uncomfortable in your heart and have knots in your mind, then either change it and erase the knots in your heart, or simply don't think about it.
That's how you can have a good year.
【Topic Discussion: During the New Year, how do you pressure the youngsters to pay for the new year?】 】
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