The femininity we understand is that a woman does not need too much understanding, does not need to witness for a long time, only needs to look at it briefly, will feel that the other party is amazing, will feel how there is such a person in this world, just need a glance, you can hook people's souls.
What the eyes see is the most real, the most objective, good to look at is good to look, not good to look at is not good to look, not mixed with a trace of subjective color.
Therefore, women who can make people feel feminine, in our traditional thinking, will be linked to beauty.
In psychology, why do some women not look pretty, but look very "feminine"?
Women are the best looking and worth showing off, and are never good looks
There is a concept in psychology called the self-selection effect, which is that a person's choice determines the future life, and once a certain life path is chosen, there is inertia and self-reinforcing belief.
Temperament is the most advanced praise for a woman, which means that a woman's beauty is not those that stay on the surface, but the elegance engraved in the bones, and it is a variety of styles that will be emitted between hands and feet.
However, the possession of temperament is not an empty talk, not a one-time thing, if we see a woman with an elegant temperament and full of feminine charm, then behind this temperament, there must be accumulated efforts -
For example, reading books, there are poems and books in the belly;
For example, fitness, the posture is straight, the whole person will look like a bright feeling;
For example, skin care, delicate skin will also give people a clean and transparent feeling.
These are inseparable from self-discipline, so if you want to make yourself an elegant woman, you must let yourself move, jump out of the comfort zone, accept new things, and constantly enrich your spiritual world, so that you can become elegant and charming.
Because they all exude a different style when they raise their hands and feet
Sometimes, in order to attract the Prince Charming in our hearts, we have to pretend that we have qualities that need that person to compensate for, so that we become humble.
Maybe liking a person is like this, lowering himself to the dust, but if a person is already low to the dust, how can he blossom from the dust?
A woman's self-confidence is her biggest business card, conceit will make people feel too late, inferiority will make people condescending, only not humble confidence.
It can make a woman exude a style from the inside out, it is able to be humble, but also to have an empty cup.
As Yang Dai wrote in the book - "No matter which step you go to in life, there are people at the bottom of the steps looking up at you, and there are people on the steps who look down on you, when you look up and feel inferior, look down and be satisfied, only by looking down can you see the real self." ”
So, how can women make themselves confident?
The most important thing is to give yourself positive psychological cues, psychology has a label effect, that is, what kind of label a person is labeled, will do things according to the content of the label, then why don't we label ourselves with some positive meaning?
For example, "Come on, you are the best", "you are the best", "you are beautiful, you are unique" and other words, from the bottom of the heart to cultivate their own self-confidence, make their hearts strong, will not be because of who appears or leaves to suffer from loss.
In this way, our self-confidence will naturally develop.
Because they know the world and are not sophisticated, they are independent of the world
In the TV series "Ruyi Zhuan", Ruyi was beaten into the cold palace because he was framed, and most of the people who came to the cold palace were uncared for, so most of the people who were locked up here were discouraged and depressed, counting the days to live, getting by and being lifeless.
But Ruyi didn't think so, she felt that life should have a sense of ceremony, even in the cold palace, but also to live a warm life, after all, her own happiness is the most important.
Therefore, Ruyi began to plant flowers in the cold palace and began to talk to those people, she dressed herself up every day, and the cold cold palace also had some anger and warmth because of Ruyi's arrival.
Walter Whitman said, "Wherever I live, I have to balance myself in the face of night, storms, hunger, ridicule, accidents, setbacks, and be as tough as trees and animals."
There is no smooth sailing in this world, there will always be some stumbling places that make people fall down as they walk, but some people fall, pat the soil and stand up and continue to walk forward, and some people fall down, they feel that this is fate playing tricks on themselves, so they begin to complain about the world and collapse.
Those women who have a "feminine" taste, they have experienced hardships, but they have never lost the hope of life, they know the world and are not sophisticated, they are independent, they have hope at all times. Such a woman has long lived herself into a beam of light, and will naturally exude charm.