#你是什么时候发现自己容貌开始断崖式衰老的呢? #
When I saw this Q&A, it was a real emotion. I've just recovered from the blows of the past few years, and the things I've been going through in the past few years of menopause are too much for me, and the precipitous aging of looks is just one of them.
In the eyes of a thousand people, there are a thousand Hamlets.
Maybe to others, what I've been through is nothing. But for me, it was a real physical and mental trauma that made my menopausal symptoms particularly severe.
< h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > First, during the child's college entrance examination, her grandmother died</h1>
We were a family of three living with my grandmother, and when my child was a sophomore in high school, her grandmother accidentally fell and has been bedridden ever since. My husband and I go to work, the kids go to school, and the elderly have to be taken care of.
My husband's family has several brothers and sisters, but they are not in Beijing except for us. Brothers and brothers, the family atmosphere is also good, so the family has a good economic conditions of the big brother, paid for a nanny to take care of the elderly.
However, after all, the age is too old, and the old lady is getting weaker and weaker from May of the following year. It was a month before the child's college entrance examination, relatives at home were constantly coming and going, and the child's learning effect was very unsatisfactory, which made me anxious. Until the day after the end of the child's college entrance examination, the old lady died.
And I, my heart is haggard, and my hair is a lot whiter, because my child's college entrance examination results are not ideal.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, was cheated by a friend's capital investment disk, half-life savings cheated not to mention, there is a large mortgage to repay</h1>
I have a friend who has attended the same training class together, she is relatively rich, she has several houses in Beijing, and she also has several cars at home, all of which show her strength. Seduced by her success, I invested a large sum of money in the project she introduced.
You should already be able to guess the process and the ending.
Lao Tzu once said, "There is no greater sin than greed, no greater evil than disobedience, and no greater blame than desire." ”
The first few months have been making money. And people's greed is a bottomless pit, the expectation of desire is constantly rising, when you earn 10,000, think of 20,000; when you think of 20,000, think of 100,000...
Later, I regretted countless times that I should not have brought my relatives and friends together to "make money". Because the consequence is that suddenly when all the money is gone for a day, I alone take up all the losses and cover up all the losses of my relatives and friends.
I can't lose money because of investment, and I can also end up with a "rebellion".
Even though this has led to my own debt, plus I still have a monthly mortgage to pay, the pressure is like air, and it is like a shadow.
During those two years, I didn't sleep well all night, my hair was falling out a lot, my health was also in trouble, and the position of the neck under the chin, there was muscle loss, and when I looked up, I could see the sagging skin wrinkles. Often I cry inexplicably, and I want to cry unconsciously.
It really sucks.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > three, there is no way to solve, only reading</h1>
I mourn for the friend who died of self-immolation because of the failure of investment, but life is up and down like this, just like the Mai family said in "Life Sea":
Life is the sea, dare to die is not called courage, to live only need courage.
I began 10 years of debt repayment and monthly bank mortgage payments, and many people have self-doubt and despair about these long and difficult days.
What supports me to persevere is "I still have my family and children", in addition, that is, in addition, after work, read more books to increase the breadth and breadth of my soul.
Reading "The Inquiry of Life", I learned that Frankl had experienced the most tragic and indescribable life in the horror concentration camp, and he said: As long as you live, everything is possible.
Read "Life Has No Limits," Nick. Hu Zhe has no hands and no feet, but he lives without restrictions, and his ability to overcome pain and the way to face the difficulties in life have benefited me a lot.
Nick Hu zhe, who has no hands and no feet but lives an unrestricted life
Nick Hu zhe and Beschne, whose arm was bitten off by a shark, learned to surf
Books are truly humanity's best friend.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >4</h1>
There's a saying that goes something like this:
The poorest only want to eat, and if they don't die, they will eventually come out.
Looking back on these years of experience, I have experienced collapse and crying, experienced hysterical emotional attacks, experienced gritted teeth and perseverance, and laughed and cried. It seems that all the ups and downs of life in the first half of my life have been saved to have seizures before and after menopause, which caught me off guard.
But since it is an "experience", it is already a thing of the past, and I have finally come over. They also learned to be content and happy, and to understand the difference and boundaries between "desire" and "want".
Life is to grow in constant "trial and error", and I have the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with an open-minded attitude.
I also believe that these experiences will eventually become memories and jokes of my old age. As for the cliff-like aging of the appearance, it is an embellishment of the aftertaste of life.
Encourage everyone!