Sickness comes in from the mouth, and evil comes out of the mouth. People learn to speak in two years, but they spend their whole lives learning to shut up.
In the "Cautionary Tale", it is said: Right and wrong are only because of more openings, and troubles are all because of strong heads.
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Right and wrong are only because of more openings
There is a small story in the "Cautionary Tale" that goes like this: One day, Wang Anshi played a word-breaking game with Su Dongpo, and Wang Anshi said that the word "slope" of Su Dongpo was the skin of the earth, so it was a slope. Su Dongpo was not convinced, saying how could it be explained in this way? Could it be that the word "slippery" is the bone of water? Wang Anshi was speechless.
Su Dongpo originally thought that he was only eight buckets high, and when he saw that Wang Anshi could not answer, he wanted to continue to crush him. So Su Dongpo began to tease his boss Wang Anshi, he said: "But the word 'dove' is indeed nine birds, do you know why?" Wang Anshi seriously consulted Su Dongpo, who said, "In the 'Mao poem', it is said that 'the singing dove is in Sang, and its son is seven xi', and even the father and the mother are not exactly nine birds? ”
The fooled Wang An Shiqi did not fight. The leader is angry, and the consequences are serious. Therefore, Su Dongpo was immediately demoted to the history of Huzhou Thorn.
In fact, there are many such examples in real life, some people think that in a certain aspect, they are slightly stronger than others, they are speechless, and they talk about it, especially in the workplace, this kind of irrepressible arrogance and pride will cause people to resent and lay the foundation.
When you are stronger than others, don't be quick to talk, humility and shut up is the right way, give the opportunity to play your talents to others a little, you don't lose anything, others are more happy, this is the best of both worlds, self-interest.
When you see through the clues, don't say it in public so that people can't get off the stage, it's not that others can't see it, but others are very wise. Tongues and tongues regardless of the situation will concentrate all the gunfire on themselves. There is such a thing in "Dream of the Red Chamber": Wang Xifeng saw that the singers were very similar to Lin Daiyu, but she only said "very much like a person". Both Xue Baochao and Jia Baoyu knew that they were talking like Lin Daiyu, but they were silent, and Shi Xiangyun blurted out that he "lived like Sister Lin", so he was idle again.
Don't argue behind people's length, know that the partition wall has ears. To keep your mouth is to be blessed, and the words you spread will eventually focus your fire on yourself.
It is a truth that less is said and more is heard.
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Troubles are caused by strong heads
As the saying goes, the gun strikes the head bird.
As mentioned earlier, Su Dongpo was demoted because of his excessive mouth, but he still did not learn his lesson. After he was reinstated as an official, he first went to visit Wang Anshi, and when he saw that his superior, Wang Anshi, had written half of the poems on the table, he guessed that he must have been too poor to write. So the itchy hand continued the last two sentences.
Wang Anshi's first two sentences are written that chrysanthemums fall to the ground, Su Dongpo thought that there is really no common sense, chrysanthemums are better to dry in the branches than a petal to fall. His last two sentences are what they mean, and I ask him to check it out and write it.
Wang Anshi saw the follow-up two sentences and thought that this problem of love to come out of the head should not be changed! Naturally, he was demoted to Huangzhou again.
It is necessary to know that those who see the inexhaustible are the things of the world; those who cannot read are the books of the world; those who are inexhaustible, the truth of the world. It is better to be ignorant and clever than to be clever and ignorant.
It's not that chrysanthemums don't drop petals, it's just that Su Dongpo hasn't seen it. When he saw the golden chrysanthemums everywhere in Huangzhou, he was convinced of Wang Anshi.
Sometimes don't be smart enough to think that you are more knowledgeable than others and try to suppress people, and the real high talent is not obvious.
In fact, in the same class, the same collective people IQ, talent, knowledge are almost the same, the competition is emotional intelligence and character. Don't overestimate yourself and underestimate others, and don't have to show yourself as a leader.
Being strong in battle is called a hero, and being strong in life and the workplace may be a joke, appearing frivolous and unreliable, and may lose everything.
The more talented you are, the more you should be obscure and not sharp.
Therefore, calmness, humility, prudence and restraint are the ways to deal with the world.