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Cai Kangyong once said in "Kangxi Lai": "The most precious souvenir of love is not the oath of the mountain and the sea, nor the watch necklace, but the change you have caused me."
In love, there are gains and losses, getting so blessed you, meeting your true love, and losing means that you will learn something.
Learning how to love someone, learning how to trust others, or learning how to maintain a relationship are all thoughts brought to us by the end of a relationship.
There's a saying on the Internet that says, "People who plant trees before them cool off."
If you don't learn, there is no shade, we all grow up in feelings, so it is not shameful to learn.
Zhihuli once had such a question: What did you learn in love?
Among them, there is a comment that goes like this: Understanding is more important than love. Maybe everyone learns more or less like this, and the premise of love may be to read a person.
Some people always reverse the order of understanding and love, thinking that loving someone is understanding her, but they don't know that they should understand a person before falling more and more in love with her.
All feelings come to the end, either to gain or to learn, just to learn more and lose less.
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It is not necessarily a regret to ask for it, but to cherish it when it is lost and regained
Some people always feel that some love is regrettable, and some people are not there once they miss it.
However, there is also a saying that the loved one will meet by himself, which is not the so-called fatalism, but more of a fate.
In the movie "Rouge Buckle", the feelings of Twelve Teenagers and Ruhua also tell us a truth: regret is the norm of life, and learning to accept is the answer to the future.
In this relationship, Ruhua Ai is so persistent that she thinks of martyrdom together.
She was sure that the twelve teenagers around her loved her, but she couldn't be sure whether the twelve teenagers would love her forever.
That's why she put sleeping pills in the wine glass he drank, wanting the two of them to be martyred together.
But the truth was cruel, she guessed the weakness of the twelve youngsters, but did not guess that his family would desperately save him, so that the two were separated by yin and yang.
In this relationship, you will know that sometimes it is more important to lose than to gain. Learning to let go is sometimes liberating for both of you.
In the feelings, the loss and recovery is the luck of luck, as the saying goes, it is difficult to break the mirror and then round, but it is undoubtedly a kind of happiness to be able to let the lost lover return to his side, after all, feelings can repair the cracks, but if even the lenses are not found, how to repair.
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Learn to make yourself excellent and know how to find the light yourself
Sometimes, love is too humble and a burden.
In the TV series "Crush on Orange Sheng Huainan", whether it is the female protagonist or the female supporting actress, it is the pursuit of boys, which is commonly known as the female chasing male drama code.
Among them, what is impressive is the love story of Jiang Baili and Gobi. Jiang Baili looked flat, and at the beginning she followed Chen Mohan's ass around.
Later, when Gobi confessed to Chen Mohan and failed, Jiang Baili walked into his career, and it is undeniable that Gobi only gambled more than he liked, and it was doomed that this love was deformed at the beginning.
But Jiang Baili liked the Gobi too much, and although he was humble to the dust, he tried his best to make him happy.
In the end, she understood that some ice cubes were not warmed by the heat of the human heart, and no amount of things would help.
After saying goodbye to the Gobi, she learned to relax herself, learn to read and write, and learn how to dress.
In the back, she became very good, but she did not take the initiative to find the Gobi, she had been waiting for the day when the two people had a fate, and she could make his eyes light up.
In love, if you are afraid of losing, the most important thing is not to restrain him, nor to preset various methods and means to keep him by your side.
On the contrary, the most important thing is to make yourself better and absorb the energy of the light yourself, because only when the light shines on yourself can you be seen by others.
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Don't fall into the vortex of memories, the future of things who know
We are always wandering back and forth in a relationship, refusing to accept new shows of love, and we can't persuade ourselves to open the door of our hearts.
You must know that the mistakes made by others, there is no need to punish yourself in this way, learn to let yourself go out, life will be different.
I saw such a video on the Internet: the heroine and her boyfriend were dumped for three years, and the boyfriend was outside in the flowers and weeds, and she bumped into it several times, but she has been tolerating it.
This made many netizens feel very incomprehensible, there are many people below the video to persuade her to break up, her answer is too deep, has not been able to climb out.
In the understanding of normal people, why do such people still have to stay?
But once the protagonist is you, and the future that the man has created for you is too beautiful, can you really come out?
Sometimes not necessarily, life is already like this, don't indulge in the future of others, learn to go your own way is the most important.
At the end of a relationship, what you want to get, or what you can get, in fact, there is no definition, the only thing you can do is to be yourself and love yourself in love.