Author: Ai Tong
There is a little story circulating on the Internet: you cut firewood, he herds sheep, you talked to him for a day, his sheep were full, what about your firewood?
Sometimes, we spend a lot of time socializing, but we are actually afraid of what we might lose if we don't do that.
But this is not the case, and gains and losses do not change because you think more about them. Solitude is a choice, not hilarious but full of wisdom, and it is the best way for us to unload our burdens on ourselves.
So, take some time out on a regular basis, put aside useless socializing, turn off your computer and phone, and spend some time alone in silence. In such a state, only by examining your own life from an external perspective can you better understand yourself, recognize the meaning of gains and losses, and see life more clearly.
A woman who is alone, elegant and calm
An elegant woman must like to be alone and like to do something to please herself in quiet time. Because of the quietness in their bones, they prefer an elegant lifestyle.
Yang Dai's life was simple and low-key. She and Qian Zhongshu like to hide from the noise of the world and concentrate on their studies. Even after experiencing the hardships of life and the displacement of her relatives, she can still spend the rest of her life quietly and calmly, without being impatient.
Solitude is a form of coexistence with the world for this permeable old man. In the time of solitude, do the present things conscientiously and steadily, do not lose the past, and do not panic about the future. A person's life, although plain, has another kind of return to basics in silence.
Here in the old man Yang Dai, being alone is a kind of wisdom precipitation, but also an elegant calmness.
Therefore, being alone is a kind of quiet beauty, and it is also the best practice. The ancients said that "gentlemen are cautious and independent", and gentlemen have better ability to be alone. If you can be at ease when you are alone, you will be able to be calm in the hustle and bustle.
Only those who are willing to be alone can reflect, think, and become enlightened in silence, see the extraordinary from the ordinary, and sort out the clues from a mess.
Solitude is a person's best value-added period. Instead of hanging an empty smiley face and socializing for the sake of socializing, it is better to face the real self, enhance your connotation, enrich your spiritual world, and make yourself elegant and calm.
A woman who is alone, quiet inside
Zhou Guoping once said: "The best state of life is rich quietness." Quietness is because you are free from the temptation of fame and profit from the outside; richness is because you have the treasures of the inner spiritual world. ”
Less entanglement of fame and fortune, less disputes of human feelings, life is more and more peaceful, the heart is more and more calm, there will be a sense of happiness.
As the saying goes, no matter how prosperous the world is, it is not my prosperity; no matter how lively life is, it is not my bustle.
A person quietly listens to songs, reads books, code words, chases dramas, meditates, in a person's world, settles themselves well, feels the ease and lightness, finds the inner strength, and returns to the most authentic life, which is what we are most worth pursuing.
In the time when no one is disturbed, we can slowly think, slowly realize, and become our true selves, not just mothers, wives, clerks, daughters, daughters-in-law...
To be a woman, there is no need to be unsociable, and if you have one or two friends in life, you will not be lonely.
Being alone is not about escaping the world, but about participating in it in another way, when you are not facing others, you are facing the whole world.
Seeing all the prosperity of the world, through the successes and failures, let us let the heart return to peace in solitude, find ourselves, and let go of the heart!
A woman who is alone, awake and independent
A woman who likes to be alone will not rely on anyone, she can control her life by her own strength, cultivate intelligence and connotation in solitude, and let herself live exquisitely and fullly.
Zhang Ailing said: "All women have a place to live, not others, only themselves." ”
Being alone can make people think deeply. Women who like to be alone often have their own opinions and plans for life.
So being alone is an ability. It is a skill to let yourself wake up when you are alone. Don't care about the gaze of others when eating alone or walking alone, life is your own, and the time of being alone has its own joy.
A woman who knows how to be alone, seizes all the time available to make herself strong. Reading, listening to lectures, studying... Every high-quality solitude is the best spiritual gift to yourself.
The more you experience, the more you will know that loneliness is the norm in life, and everyone is struggling with their own loneliness. As I grew older, I discovered that the world was my own and had nothing to do with others.
To measure how strong a person's heart is, it depends on whether she can be alone. A woman who will be alone, who has unique ideas, and who does not shy away from the stage when they go to any occasion. They understand that it is better to rely on who to rely on than on themselves, people live, and only by relying on themselves can they live out of dignity and live out of themselves.
Only when people are alone can they throw away their shackles and listen carefully to their hearts, so that they can know what they really want and what they need to abandon.
The nobility of a woman's soul often begins by liking to be alone. When a woman reaches middle age, no matter how busy you are, you have to take a little time every day, turn off the computer, turn off the mobile phone, drink tea calmly and calmly, and concentrate on reading a book. In the time when the fragrance of tea and ink is wafting, leisurely enjoy the scenery outside the window, slowly grow old, noble and calm.
Being alone is a kind of joy, but also a kind of enjoyment, which allows us to calm down and do what we like, simple, down-to-earth, and improve the quality of life with heart.
The meaning of life does not have to be realized through others; the happiness of life does not have to be found in the hustle and bustle.
So, no matter how busy life is, remember to give yourself a little time every day to be quiet for a while.
The city is so big and there is so much noise, there is always a corner place to place a heart that slows down the soul and quietly tastes life.
Choose quiet in the hustle and bustle of the world and enjoy solitude in the quiet world.
Be a solitary woman, elegant and calm, indisputable with the world, not impatient, comfortable and quiet. So, very good!
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