Illuminate yourself, illuminate others, and the education of love is the future
With the support of love, I was able to find the logic of life and the reason for life. - "A Beautiful Mind"
Recently, a report by Hangzhou Daily attracted tears from the whole network, which is the self-statement of a father in his 80s, behind the simple and simple text, people choke.
This inescapable fate is depressing, but the struggle of their family makes people's hearts seem to "blossom in despair".
This is the story of the genius translator Jin Xiaoyu.
01 Unhappy childhood and adolescence
Jin Xiaoyu's life is very bitter, although he has been smart since he was a child, but when he was 6 years old, he unfortunately blinded one eye when he was fighting with his companions.
In high school, he was obviously a potential student in the eyes of the teacher, but suddenly did not want to study, and his parents thought that he was just bored with school for a while, which was actually a precursor to his illness.
Later, after working for 2 months, he was dismissed due to a dispute with a customer.
After that, a good child, completely decadent at home. Either they lie in bed all day in decadence, or they show extreme emotional instability and violent behavior.
Later, Jin Xiaoyu said that he wanted to go to college, and the college entrance examination score was only 3 points away from a line, originally thought that he would be stable in ten, but unfortunately he was withdrawn due to the high school punishment experience file.
After that, it was difficult to be accepted by the university, but after only 1 year of study, he dropped out of school due to illness.
Among them, it took 2 years for Jin Xiaoyu to immerse himself in self-study and got a self-examination diploma from the English Department of Zhejiang University.
It seems that life has finally turned around here, but he has 2 consecutive zs, at this time, finally diagnosed, Jin Xiaoyu suffered from bipolar disorder, that is, manic depression - depression when quiet, mania when excited.
The treatment was difficult, and in the end, as his father Jin Shengyong himself said: I just want him to live.
What a humble prayer for a father.
02 Turnaround, only time will not lie
But even in this case, the father Jin Zhiyong did his best to meet the needs of his children.
Jin Xiaoyu's favorite thing is to buy books, English and Japanese, ancient Chinese, Go, music, painting... In the 90s, his father supported him in buying nearly 200 copies.
Even in 1993, his father spent 12,000 yuan to buy him a computer.
The computer opened up another world of Jin Xiaoyu, and in 6 years, Jin Xiaoyu taught himself German and Japanese.
Later, in 2010, Jin Xiaoyu, who was now 38 years old, finally waited for his turnaround.
At a class reunion, her mother fought for a chance to translate, and Jin Xiaoyu has been out of control in translation ever since.
In the past ten years, Jin Xiaoyu has translated 22 books at the rate of 2 books per year, nearly 7 million words, which is more than 300,000 words per year, but there is no typo, and the score on Douban is above 8 points.
Now, because of the narration of his father Jin Shengyong, the story of this talented translator Jin Xiaoyu is presented to the public.
Just like Yu Hua's saying in "Alive": The standard for testing a person is to see where he puts his time. Don't fool yourself, when life comes to an end, only time will not lie.
Yes, only time does not lie, and Jin Xiaoyu's translation of life is also his own path of redemption.
03 What it means for ordinary parents
Jin Xiaoyu's genius translator's name, behind which his parents actually played a key role.
In fact, it is not only Jin Xiaoyu.
Just like the previously written "learning to go to the toilet for 10 years, brushing teeth for 8 years, parents' unreserved love, is the child's greatest confidence" "27-year-old cerebral palsy boy passed the global only 50,000 people passed the advanced certification, really smart people have this trait."
Whether it is Xuanxuan, who is autistic, who dares to go out and sell things, or Wanling, who has obtained the advanced certification of only 50,000 people in the world.
Behind them, in addition to the parents' non-giving up, what is more important is that the parents are trying to support their children to find the meaning of life.
In the 10 years of this translation, although the illness is still repeated, Jin Xiaoyu is much better than before.
Because he is no longer a person, he sees his translated books in the library, and he also sees everyone's affirmation of him in Douban.
The same is true for ordinary parents, we can't spend time with our children forever.
So moderate letting go, in addition to learning, if you can let the child find the joy of their own life in the process of exploring life, for the child, such happiness will be longer, with value, life will also have meaning.
04 How to help children find a sense of value
So, how to help children find a sense of value? In Ms. Dada's "Family Education Reading Society", on how to help children find a sense of value, she mentioned a way for children to learn to do housework, which is the most cost-effective way.
There are a few points to note:
1, doing housework is not a punishment
First, doing housework is not a punishment.
For the housework of this matter, many parents are troublesome, think that the child to do once I have to do it again, it is better to do it myself, I often see, the child takes the initiative to wash the dishes, next to the adult said, don't wash don't wash, you can't wash it, go play by yourself.
In fact, this is a blow to the child's enthusiasm for doing things, in fact, when making mistakes, it is precisely when parents can really help their children grow.
2, do not let housework into rewards and punishments
Don't add housework to the reward and punishment color, such as punishing you for doing bad homework to wash the dishes, or washing the dishes for five dollars at a time!
At the beginning, you can say that doing housework every day, your mother will tell you a Disney latest story in the evening, similar to increasing parent-child interaction, motivating him to insist on doing housework, and also making the parent-child relationship extra points.
3. The significance of doing housework
In short, parents have to let them do it, and you must not be at ease to throw your children into society at once, so start with simple things around you.
As for housework, on the one hand, it can train children's self-care ability, on the other hand, it can also develop children's sense of responsibility.
Why not be able to train a quality of perseverance in small things from an early age, so that children can personally experience the sense of value brought by insisting on doing one thing, as well as the ability and skills he has learned to deal with problems in the process.
05 Write at the end
According to the latest news, Jin Xiaoyu has now been discharged from the hospital after 2 months of treatment, and after the Hangzhou Daily report came out, Jin Xiaoyu's translated book has been sold out online.
He may continue to suffer from illness in the future, but he still has new plans, he hopes to complete the translation of the new book before his father is 88 years old, and will learn Spanish at this stage.
And his father Jin Sexyong will always accompany him, and his father said: I will accompany you, although I may not be able to understand.
After Jin Xiaoyu's story was reported, some people said that he was the Chinese version of "Beautiful Mind", but Jin Xiaoyu said: I am not a genius, I need to work hard.
To quote Nash, the protagonist of the movie "A Beautiful Mind": With the support of love, I can find the logic of life and the reason for life.
Maybe this is also the meaning of parents to Jin Xiaoyu, blessing him.
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Part of the original content comes from the sharing of Dada Teacher's "Family Education Reading Club".