I want to take my grandson through the winter vacation, but I am afraid of being tired and not pleasing

Winter vacation, many elderly people look forward to taking their grandchildren around for the winter vacation and enjoying the joy of the world. But often the holiday is not enough, many elderly people feel tired and unflattering, by the children to pick, said that the elderly with the baby this is not scientific that is not appropriate, to the child habit of bad problems. So a holiday began with "full of joy" and ended with "unhappiness and dispersion". How can this be avoided?

Discuss well, don't fight Tells that he is looking forward to the winter and summer vacations, but also feels afraid

Ms. Gao in Tianjin is 67 years old and has a strong body. Her young grandson is in the fourth grade, and from the winter and summer vacations of her children's kindergarten, the little grandson spends most of his time with her. For Ms. Gao, she is both looking forward to the arrival of winter and summer vacations, and she is afraid of taking her children for too long.

Talking about taking her grandchildren during the holidays, Ms. Gao was worried in her eyes. She said: "I am a little grandson, usually the children go to school, I am only responsible for picking up the children after school. This semester, the school has a custody class, and I have less time to pick up my children, just looking forward to staying with my children for a while during the winter vacation. But I really don't have any ideas about the child's holiday arrangement, it is the son of two to assign the child to write homework or go to an after-school class, I accompany the child. With my grandchildren during the holidays, my main task is to take care of the children's food and drink. I do this with all my heart but I am always tired and unflattering. ”

Ms. Gao said a little sadly: "My son and daughter-in-law always say that I am used to children, not that I eat too much for my children and do not exercise, and feed my children into fat mounds, that is to say, I play games by the child's nature, or that the child becomes willful and disobedient in my place during the holidays." Usually the holidays are not over, and our two generations have to fight several times. She said that she asked the neighbors around her, and the situation like her family is quite common, and everyone has a good grasp of the degree of taking the grandson.

Experience and "design a holiday" with little grandchildren

Teacher Jing Chunling, a member of the Tianjin Family Education Research Association, will take her little grandson to her home every holiday, and the old two will "design the holiday" with the little grandson. She has a lot of experience.

Jing Chunling said that life needs a sense of ceremony, and holidays are no exception. Old people don't simply define the holiday as "just to relax", relaxation means no goal, no plan. It is suggested that the elderly with grandchildren during the holiday can design a holiday launch ceremony with their children, at the launching ceremony, the elderly and children should speak, talk about their holiday testimonials and holiday goals, and can also raise hopes for each other.

Jing Chunling said that if you want to make the holiday full, you can't let eating, drinking and having fun "occupy the holiday", but let the rich activities "occupy the holiday". For example, the elderly can give full play to their own experience advantages, tell children more stories about ancient celebrities, discuss historical figures with children; children teach the elderly to learn to sing songs, etc. The warm and fulfilling winter vacation is inseparable from the "fragrance of books", and Jing Chunling's experience is that the elderly and children can read books together, and they can also hold several reading exchange meetings.

Recruiting the elderly can make the most of their strengths

Gao Chang, a family education instructor in Tianjin, said that their grandparents bring their grandchildren, their good living habits such as going to bed early and getting up early, healthy eating, reasonable exercise, and simple and happy living conditions will have a positive impact on children. Gao Chang also gave a few tricks to the family with a baby by the elderly during the winter vacation.

First of all, the child's parents should communicate with the elderly and let the elderly participate in the formulation of the child's holiday plan. On the issue of children's education, it is necessary to follow the principle that parents play a leading role and the elderly play an auxiliary role. The problems encountered by the elderly in the process of taking children can also communicate with the parents of the children in time, and the two sides should cooperate well, and the children cannot have the feeling that "when they arrive at the old age, they can do whatever they want".

Secondly, the life of the elderly to take care of children is only one aspect, and it is more important to continue the children's usual good habits. The elderly can make the most of their strengths. For example, let the child accompany the elderly to the morning exercise; let the child accompany the elderly to buy vegetables, try to let them plan the daily recipe, know the dishes, understand the price, learn the ability to consume; let the children participate in family labor; and so on. In this process, not only can you exercise your child's body, but you can also cultivate self-care skills, social skills and good living habits.

Third, entrusting children to the elderly during the winter vacation does not mean that parents can "throw big bags". Parents can use the time of the daily work, weekends and Spring Festival holidays to read with their children and enjoy the fun of parent-child reading together; they can use longer holidays to take their children out to travel and increase their knowledge; the Spring Festival can take their children to visit relatives and friends to enhance their children's social skills.