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In many occasions, those who can speak eloquently can always impress others, while those who are unknown in the crowd will always be ignored, and it is difficult to leave ripples in the hearts of others.
Everyone hopes that they will be the focus of the crowd, and as soon as they appear, they will automatically attract the attention of others. In most cases, quiet is not a trait that can attract others, everyone pursues liveliness, and quiet people will always seem out of place.
But in fact, many times, quietness is a great wisdom for people, and quietness is a rare quality compared to those who can't hide their words.
Quiet is not to say that a person is like a stuffy gourd, does not say anything, does not communicate with people at all, but a gesture, a self-chosen way of life.
This era is always very noisy, everyone is pursuing liveliness, unwilling to endure the slightest loneliness. Quiet is particularly valuable, many times quiet is not unsociable, but to be able to maintain the characteristics of the self, know how to remain silent at the right time, maintain a characteristic of indifference, not arrogant, stick to their hearts, do what they really want to do.
Some people often live in the evaluation of others, do not know how to stick to the true self, some people will be timid when they encounter a little thing, not calm in the face of things, some people easily some remarks and some people influence, and give up their own inner persistence, in the end let themselves live more and more screwed.
Although many times those who are good at talking loudly look very powerful, in fact, they are just paper tigers and cannot afford to do things at all, but those who are quiet are often not simple.
Be quiet when misunderstood
Someone sneers at you harshly, and you immediately respond with a bitter salute. Someone looks down on you for no reason, and you immediately despise him with contempt. Someone is showing off in front of you, and you immediately double down to prove that you are more powerful. Someone is cold and ignoring you, and you are immediately cold and distant from him. Look, those people you hate can easily turn you into the kind of person you hate the most.
People living in this world are unlikely to win the favor of everyone, there are always some people who are not used to you, and there will always be some people hiding behind your back and attacking you with words.
There are some people who come to us and give us warmth and enthusiasm, while some people just like to point fingers at you and maliciously speculate about you.
Many times we obviously don't do anything, but when it reaches the ears of others, it becomes a different look.
When we are misunderstood, we will definitely feel indignant and aggrieved in our hearts, which is an inevitable reaction that everyone will have, but different people will often take different ways.
Someone treats others the way others treat you, how he talks about you behind your back, how he talks about you, you become the same person as him to orchestrate right and wrong, some people will try their best to explain when they are misunderstood, use various methods to explain yourself to everyone, but in fact no one will really remind you, they will only look at you the way they think. Even if you have a hundred mouths, you still can't change the stereotype of others.
Only a small number of people will look calm and calm in the face of the criticism and misunderstanding of others, just silently doing their own thing, completely ignoring the words of others, not because they have not heard, but because they selectively shielded. They don't let the hukou go and explain themselves to everyone, because in this world, no one will understand you and understand you. You just need to cherish the people who really understand you, and the people who don't understand you don't have to waste time.
Be quiet in times of adversity
Everyone's life can not be smooth in life, will encounter some adversity, there will be some less smooth moments, some people will encounter the trough period will be self-pity, self-abandonment, or complain about the world, everywhere to tell their own bitterness, can not control their mouths, play the image of a resentful woman.
No matter which way you choose, you can't change your predicament, but you will fall into the hands of others and make people laugh.
On the contrary, those who are quiet and quiet, they never preach, never cry out for injustice everywhere, but know how to hide clumsiness, know how to avoid sharp edges, silently cultivate themselves, and do a good job of themselves.
Sheng Minglan in "Knowing or Not" is such a person, she has a clear understanding of her situation since she was a child, knowing that she cannot be too sharp, everything is careful, never taking the edge, in the eyes of outsiders she has always been a well-behaved and sensible image, but she has her own ideals in her heart, has her own things she wants to do, not a silly white sweet image.
She used a clumsy way to avoid everyone's attention, freed up time to do what she wanted to do silently, cautious, seemingly inconspicuous, but she had already armed her powerful self, and finally with her quiet way of doing things, she successfully broke out of her own piece of the sky.
If Sheng Minglan had been making a splash everywhere from the beginning, I am afraid that the ending would be very miserable, and it was precisely because of her quiet attitude that she had fulfilled herself.
Of course, we will not have the miserable situation of Sheng Minglan in our daily lives, but. In our life path, there will always be some tribulations and adversities, instead of complaining everywhere, it is better to quietly do yourself, what you want will be given to you.
Be quiet when you're single
The world is always in a hurry, everyone is rushing forward, even the love thing, always looking anxious.
Unable to endure being single, unable to accept the days of being alone, so I repeatedly circulated in love, and finally let myself be bruised.
Liu Xiaojie in "Xiao Min Jia" is such a person, although he is more than 30 years old and is a proper adult, but his thinking is not mature at all, and he still stays in the ideological dimension of a child.
Unable to endure a person's loneliness, always thinking of finding someone to rely on, and finally just walking from one whirlpool to another, from mommy boy to control freak, these are the lessons that life has taught her.
It wasn't until the end that Liu Xiaojie suddenly woke up to the fact that only by first doing a good job of himself and learning to be alone and live alone could he meet a person who was sincere to her.
In fact, there are many people like him in life, there is no way to face life alone, especially when you see the people around you in pairs, full of envy for love, it is a bit of a taste of hunger, as long as there is a opposite sex around, you will fight to throw yourself into it, and finally it is just a love tragedy repeated again and again.
Only those who remain quiet when they are single can get real love and live a happy life.
Will not be because of age, because of the care of other people's eyes, or because of the fear of loneliness and enter a relationship, not to be condescending, not humble, when alone. Enrich yourself without listening, improve yourself, will not easily change the pace of her life, and can methodically live according to the way she wants, such a woman will not be too bad in the end.
Some people's lives seem to be full of wind and fire, the days are lively and lively, and there is never a shortage of people around them, but in fact, such people are very empty inside.
Some people like to talk loudly, like to be in the limelight, like to stand in the center of the crowd, and enjoy the feeling of being held by everyone. However, such a person can't actually afford any big things at all, and when he encounters something, he will show cowardice.
Those quiet people always seem to be silent, but in fact, there is a vast world in their hearts, they know not to explain themselves to everyone, they know not to show their faces, they know how to stick to themselves, and they are good at themselves.
People who can achieve great things are often very quiet, they are indifferent to the world, have a big heart, will not be easily affected by people, and will always be themselves and improve themselves. Such a person is the great wisdom of life.