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In life, everyone is eager to achieve self-achievement, self-achievement is essentially to know how to see the growth of the self, to think and build their own growth.
If we want to grow at a higher level, from a certain point of view, we need to master the methods of two systems, and when you know how to use these two methods to change yourself, you will become the self you want to do.
First, learn to prophesy yourself
The psychologist Rogers once said that the human organism has a central energy source—it is the function of the whole organism rather than some part of it; perhaps the best concept to explain this energy source is a tendency to complete, to achieve, to sustain, and to grow.
Rogers believed that everyone has an inherent, innate motivation to maintain the self, improve the self, and "self-enhancement", which is the most basic and only motive and purpose of man, which guides people to grow towards a satisfactory personal ideal.
Self-actualization is, in some ways, a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you want to be a certain person, you need to know how to take responsibility for your actions and make your actions and thoughts close to a certain person.
For example, if we want to be rich, then we need to cultivate our own rich thinking. To learn to be self-actualized, essentially, you need to ask yourself what kind of person you want to be, and then you think about the habits of thinking that this kind of person has, and then you continue to train yourself, and we will continue to grow.
If you really want to achieve yourself, you need to think deeply about what kind of person you want to become, and the more you know the kind of person you want to be, the more you can become.
People are essentially shaped according to inner ideals, we need to always monitor our own consciousness, constantly revise ourselves, and when you continue to shape yourself, you will really see the plasticity of yourself within.
One author once told me that he felt that his life was very confusing, and when I explored with him, helped him to clarify what kind of person he wanted to be, and his real life would be the process of our own gradual clarity and gradual self-construction.
A good life is a process of continuous benchmarking, continuous approach to the ideal self, what we have to think about in our hearts is what kind of person you want to be, only when you are more and more aware of this, you will truly achieve self-shaping and self-realization.
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Second, learn to adopt an internal scorecard
If we want to be really good people, the most important thing is to learn to adopt an internal scorecard. Buffett once told him that his father once told him that everyone has two sets of scorecards for everything they do, one is an external scorecard and the other is an internal scorecard.
The internal scorecard is to rate yourself and judge right and wrong. Buffett said his father told him that he should listen to his own inner judgment, respect his inner thoughts, make independent judgments, and take responsibility for his own decisions.
If we want to achieve ourselves, we must learn to use an internal scorecard, and when you know how to use an internal scorecard, you will slowly develop responsibility for your own awareness and behavior.
You will also think about how to build yourself, and a really good life comes from us continuing to benchmark ourselves. Because the biggest enemy of life is ourselves, we need to overcome the greed and hatred in our hearts, which is very important.
In fact, when you use an internal scorecard, you'll really think about how much progress you've made in your behavior against your own consciousness.
We need to really think about how we want to check our internal scorecard, whether we are satisfied with ourselves, and if you are satisfied with ourselves, it is the best way and growth.
Learning to use an internal scorecard is, in a way, the key to our gradual control of our own life, but also we get rid of the influence of others on us, we will be responsible for our own behavior, we will be more responsible for ourselves.
A good life is, from a certain point of view, to learn to satisfy yourself, and a good life is not to make yourself satisfied with others. So use an internal scorecard to better let yourself know what is most important to you.
The clearer you think about your life, the more you can control your behavior, and the more you can do the ultimate management and self-discipline of your life.
If we want to achieve ourselves, we must master the methods of these two systems, which is the root of our growth and the foundation of our achievement.
Good growth is to lead the process of continuous development and continuous shaping of yourself, when you know how to shape yourself, know how to do the right thing, know how to listen to your inner choices, do the right thing, you can really awaken the inner life, naturally your life will be better and better.
Today's topic: How do you think you can achieve yourself, welcome to discuss and communicate.