Hello everyone, I am a bean mother, my family beanie is a high demand baby, when I was a child, I really did not toss me less, let me mention the baby to now still have a palpitation, give how much money I am not willing to come again, today bean mother will talk to you about how to raise high demand babies.
Many new parents will encounter a variety of baby problems, many times will have emotional collapse, doubt the choice of having a baby, more negative for their own ability, at this time we need to consider their own baby, to see if he/she is a high demand child.
The concept of a high-demand baby was first proposed by Dr. Sears in the United States, who summarized the following characteristics after observing the child's behavioral response for a long time:
Comparing these 12 characteristics into life, Dou Mom combined her own experience to summarize the following problems for high-demand babies:
1. It is difficult to fall asleep and sleep lightly, and the requirements for the sleeping environment are high
Most breastfed babies will fall asleep while eating and feeding, which forms the habit of milk sleeping, which buries hidden dangers for future weaning and mother separation.
Most of the milk-fed babies are hugging and sleeping, which will cause the child to have too long contact with people, not only will choose to let sleep to coax sleep, but also what way to ask, such as: which arm; is holding and singing, and singing while walking and can not sit and so on.
These will have an impact on falling asleep on your own later.
Most homes deliberately slow down because their children are asleep, fearing a sound. In fact, this way is not right, you can put some white noise to assist sleep when the child is young, so that for a long time, you will not worry that the child will be awakened by some sudden small movements. It does not delay us from doing some housework while our children are resting.
2. Separation anxiety
The longer the child stays with whom, the more reluctant they are to leave. This is a common trait of children, and it is also a challenge that children who want to go to kindergarten must go through. The mother wants to go out, the child begins to cry after changing clothes, and the separation anxiety of the high-demand baby is earlier and later than the average baby, and the degree is more intense.
3. Energetic
The baby is lively and active, full of energy, lying constantly moving and holding dishonestly, laughing warmly, crying high-pitched, eager to make all his strength. We must also have a peaceful attitude to treat such a baby, and do not be sad and happy.
4. Extremely sticky
Compared to toys, he has little interest in catching, and his favorites are surrounded by adults, and familiar faces and voices are their favorites. Such a baby is afraid that he will be tired and break his arm and cannot put it down, whether it is at home or out, he may fall asleep and hold it, and he will wake up when he puts it down.
Facing a baby with high demand is like running a marathon, which is an endurance battle. Parents are mentally prepared and take double the strength to take care of their babies more effectively. Babies with high needs are very sensitive and have a higher perception of negative emotions.
When we are immersed in negative emotions, the speed of response to the baby's needs and the degree of satisfaction will decrease, which will only create a vicious circle.
High-demand babies are born, and their needs are so much in fact, they are very smart, strong perception of the embodiment, such a baby if you get positive guidance, there will be very good achievements.
When I was a child, my bean was a child who made me very "unconscious", and I once held her from dark to dawn, crying as soon as I put it down, and fell asleep when I picked her up.
Through continuous learning and practical practice, I slowly touched the "temper" of Doubao, and groped out the experience in the later parenting process, and now I share it with you:
First of all, we can't ignore it, saying that it doesn't matter if the baby cries a few times, we must echo the signal sent by the baby in time. Prolonged non-response will only make your baby's situation worse and insecure.
After a long time, we can find that the crying sound of the baby when he has different needs is also different. It is more important to pay attention to the observation of the baby's physical and mental state, if there is a problem with the poop form or the baby's stomach is uncomfortable and other pathological reasons, we must take the child to the hospital in time and follow the doctor's instructions for treatment.
Secondly, the influence of external factors will also make the child's mood unstable, such as diapers are not wet, such as pulling stinky and not being found in time, such as thirst and hunger, when words are not enough to support the baby to express their thoughts, the baby can only use crying to attract your attention. We must pay attention to it in time and grasp the rules of the baby's life.
Finally, the baby may love milk, and no regular feeding will make the child unhealthy, constantly want to eat, and may just want a hug, which is the unique feature of high-demand babies. We can train a child to find a little doll that he likes best to distract him from some of the time.
High-demand babies like to have physical contact with people, and when the needs are met, you can try the following:
Curl up
Have your baby's back pressed against your chest and your arms in a circle to support your ass. Bend your baby's body forward with your back against your chest. Or bend your baby's legs upwards, lean against your chest, and face to face with him.
Let your baby lie on his arm
Place your baby's head at the crook of your elbow with your belly pressed against your forearm and hold your baby's ass with your hands. It's called a plane hug and it relaxes the baby. You can also have your baby's face next to your palm and your ass in the crook of your elbow.
Stand in your hands
The baby over four months old is standing on your hand, facing forward, with your back against your chest, and your other hand is on your baby's belly, safely surrounding him, and the visual attraction in front and the concentration when standing will often make the baby forget to cry. You can also turn around and have your baby chest to chest so that your baby will be safer.
Draw circles on the thighs
Have your baby lie on your lap with your legs facing you and your face resting on your knees. Shake your baby's legs like you're pedaling a bicycle, while making cute expressions that grab his attention or sing some nursery rhymes.
Interacting more with children, although it does not require too many words, can also promote the transmission of feelings between parents and children.
Taking care of a child is like a battle without smoke, with countless gullies and ravines, and countless thrilling tests. We are like playing a game, each level to fight monster upgrades, each breakthrough of a self will increase a kind of confidence, because the child will always grow up, every day is a new day, your emotions and guidance affect the baby's entire world, you are the first person to lead the baby to understand the world, is the baby's enlightenment teacher, is the baby's guardian, but also the founder.
Every child is a treasure of the family, and they all want to water their hearts and let this little tree thrive. What parents can do is to improve themselves and use their own abilities to influence their children's later lives. Little people will grow up to be like us in the future. If we don't care about our children, we won't smash our own signboards.
Parents and children are bound together, since there is a high-demand baby, then we should also be high-quality parents, grow up with children.
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