Rejection is worse than the feeling of failure, so each of us is afraid of being rejected by others.
Because of the fear of rejection, we choose to give up before others reject. Because of the fear of rejection, how many of us have given up our dreams, given up entrepreneurship, given up confessions, given up making friends, and given up a lot of attempts.
Why are we all afraid of rejection, in fact, many rejections do not have much impact on us, at least better than simply giving up. In fact, our fear of rejection is the trace of our genes in primitive society, because rejection by everyone in primitive society means that we may be excluded from this collective, which means that we have to lose safety protection and food, it means that we have to face the jungle and wild beasts alone, and it means death. So we have always had a natural fear of being rejected from ancient times to the present.
However, now that society is different, we will not die and there will be no danger in being rejected by others, but we will lose a lot of opportunities because we are afraid of rejection, so we must overcome the fear of rejection.
Overcoming the fear of rejection requires courage, which, like muscles, can be trained, and becomes stronger when exercised regularly, and gradually atrophied when not exercising.
Some people have studied the "rejection" thing specifically, and they have found that as long as you bravely say what you want, it is possible to get the consent of others, and you find that there are more possibilities in life.
If you tell others a reason when you say what you want, the odds of others agreeing with you will be greatly improved.
Sometimes others don't agree to your request, it's not necessarily that you have a problem, but you don't find the right person, find a few more people to try, you may get consent.
Don't run away after someone rejects you, but ask "Why?" And continue to talk to the other person, and the other person may change their opinion of you, and there may be a chance to change the outcome.
If you speak out about the doubts that the other person may have before others reject you, the other party will strengthen their trust in you and may be willing to help you.
Communication styles also have an impact on results, and if you are more confident, friendly, and frank when communicating with others, others will be more willing to cooperate with you when you make requests.
Try it often and you'll find that "rejection" seems to have a limit to the number of times you ask, and when you ask enough people, in most cases someone will agree to your request, that is, as long as you keep trying everything is possible.
All you need is the courage to express your true feelings, the right way to communicate, to run away after rejection but to continue talking and asking "Why?" ", summing up the experience and then changing the person who is more likely to agree with you to try, give the other party the reason why you do this, point out the doubts that others may have, communicate with others truthfully and frankly, or take a step back to change the requirements, do not cling to the results, only care about whether you have gone all out, whether your performance is good enough.
Everything is afraid of constantly trying, when you keep trying in different ways, trying to different people, trying with different reasons, trying really and frankly, asking "why" after being rejected, and then summing up the experience and trying again, as long as you try enough times, enough hard, you will definitely get the results you want.