There always seems to be a phenomenon in relationships.
A couple, each other obviously also talked about love for a while, when in love, mutual feelings are really good, but when one day really into the marriage, but get along with each other is not pleasant at all.
Not only will there be all kinds of quarrels, but they will also feel that the other party is not what they know at all, as if they have completely changed a person, a special stranger.
Some people may feel that the reason for this situation is that after marriage, the feelings of each other are weak, so it will be so, the previous other party is just pretending, and now it has revealed the most original appearance.
Speaking of which, there are indeed some people who, when in love, unconsciously hide their shortcomings, but more often, it is not because the other party hides well, but the way of love is not right.
When it comes to falling in love, many people just eat together, watch movies, go somewhere to play, there is no in-depth communication and understanding, and in this way, it is really impossible to see each other.
True love should never be just about eating and drinking, but about going deeper.
< h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="15" > talk about the past, and each other's families. </h1>
There are always people who say that to love a person is to love the person himself, and to love the person's present, but as for what kind of past the other party has, and what kind of family, it does not matter at all.
In fact, we don't have to care too much about each other's past, but we still have to let the other party talk about it.
What kind of past a person has, what kind of family environment he grew up in, how many times he has been in love, why he broke up, what setbacks he has suffered, and what kind of achievements he has achieved, objectively, it can often be seen what kind of person the other party is.
Don't always think that feelings are the business of the two of you, and have nothing to do with other people and things, in real life, it really has a lot to do with it, including your interpersonal relationships, including the families of both of you.
It can be said that, to a certain extent, by listening to a person's past and how he is telling these pasts, it is often possible to predict what your future will be.
Whether it is a person or the environment in which people live, it will not be easily changed, and a person's future is usually hidden in the past.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="68" > communicate more and understand each other's three views. </h1>
When two people are together, communication is really important, of course, this communication is not simply eating and sleeping, sending a gift.
You have to look at each other's cognition of the world, the cognition of many things, and when dealing with people, everything is not recognized by yourself, and it is acceptable.
Between men and women, if one person likes to read, one person likes to play games, one person likes brand name, one person feels that it is a waste of money, one person is simple, one person is sleek, and each other is not accustomed to each other, such a relationship will sooner or later be problematic.
Only when your three views are more similar, like you all care about the quality of life, are more romantic, have a heart that treats others well, or even if you are not so similar, but can also accept each other, you will not have some big problems.
It is true that many people walk and walk and disperse, not because they don't love each other, but from the beginning, they are not the same person.
Because it was not in tune with the original, it was not found at the beginning, so one day, when more and more contact with each other, many problems were exposed, and there was really no way to go on together.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" > talk about money, and plans for the future. </h1>
There are always people who feel that it is very unwise to talk about money when in love, and it hurts feelings.
But in this world, two people together, especially after marriage, are inseparable from money everywhere. Without the support of money, unclear about the economic situation of the other party, no way to reach a consensus on money, it is difficult to stabilize the relationship after all.
Therefore, you should not only talk about money, but also talk about your understanding of money, each other's income, and how your money will be disposed of after you hope to get married.
Not only to talk about money, but also to talk about housing after marriage, and not living with family, how many children to have, whether you must have a boy or a girl, who will take care of the child when you have a child, and who will take care of the child later.
Don't talk about these issues too early, just take one step at a time, if that's the case, once that day comes, you won't be able to reach a consensus at all, and you're afraid it will be difficult to maintain.
Even if you are brothers, there are some things, it is still necessary to be clear, when you are a couple, communicate your ideas first, a lot of things, after that, you can prevent it before it happens, do not have to be too embarrassed.
Talking about love, spending before and after the moon, talking with love, often holding hands and hugging, that is certainly indispensable.
At the same time, you must not only stay on these superficial things, but also communicate more ideas.
For example, after watching the movie, you can exchange your viewing feelings, for example, for success, you can exchange definitions of each other, such as feelings, you can communicate how to love each other.
Talk more, a person's words, that is very able to reflect a person's heart, a person's cognition.
Many things, when you can talk clearly before marriage, you really see the most real appearance of each other, then after marriage, most likely, you will not have any big problems.
Otherwise, just listening to love words and sweet words, never through a person's appearance, to understand each other's inner, even if together, it is difficult to last long.