These two days of circle of friends,
"Our Genius Son"
Swipe the screen across the network.
The article reports on an unknown,
"Genius" translator Jin Xiaoyu,
The real life of his father Jin Sex Yong.
Jin Xiaoyu had an unfortunate eye disability at an early age,
Later diagnosed with bipolar disorder,
Translation is his only weapon in the fight against fate.
Family photo of Jin Xiaoyu in his childhood
Many people "see crying",
In the story, they see:
Strong parents, wise sons,
And great, tenacious affection.
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It is a true story of great suffering and miracles. Jin Xiaoyu of Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, unfortunately had an eye disability at an early age and was later diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Over the past decade, he has translated 22 books in English, Japanese, and German to fight against fate. During the illness, he also took good care of his mother who suffered from Alzheimer's disease and accompanied her through the last 3 years of her life. Not long ago, his mother died, and his father told such a story to the newspaper, which caused the Internet to swipe the screen. (According to Hangzhou Daily on January 18)
Jin Xiaoyu and his father Jin Shengyong
This article was screened on the Internet, and "look at the cry" is a comment that appears very frequently.
Regarding the experience of Mr. Jin Xiaoyu's family, the author of this article will not repeat it here. In "Hangzhou Man Calls from the Funeral Home: Can You Write About Our Genius Son", the self-statement of Mr. Jin Xiaoyu's father, Mr. Jin Sexyong, contains the most authentic details and the most sincere emotions, which cannot be shortened and repeated. This article is just a little bit of feelings and thoughts after reading this self-statement.
Bipolar disorder, over the years more and more into people's field of vision. The patient seems to live in a narrow, dark tunnel, manic at one end and depressed at the other. It is as if one end is an endless polar day, and the other is a never-ending polar night. Is there a third way? Perhaps, when Teacher Jin Xiaoyu was getting better, he buried his head in study and work, and made many achievements that ordinary people like you and me could hardly hope to match, right?
Yes, many people have read the famous "Genius on the Left, Madman on the Right", and some people have read the "Manic Depression and Many Talents" that inspired Mr. Jin, and we may sigh, look, there are so many geniuses who are mentally ill! Or some people will jump to the conclusion that psychopaths are more likely to be geniuses. God closes a door for you, and doesn't that open another window?
Some of Jin Xiaoyu's translations
But unfortunately, it's not. Most people with mental and brain disorders, including bipolar disorder, including autism, etc., do not have any extraordinary talents. They can't even take care of themselves, can't communicate with people normally, let alone create works that are accepted by the world. They eat and drink three meals a day and are cared for, and some violent ones must be cared for 24 hours a day. They are people who cannot adapt to real society.
Even if there is, well, even if a few lucky people have some ability that can be recognized by the world, they themselves, their families, still have to endure many difficulties that are not known to the world. When we open "Ship Fever", open "Dog Son-in-Law's Door", open the 530,000-word huanghuang masterpiece "Benjamin's Epistles", and praise such a multilingual translator genius, he may be suffering loneliness in a psychiatric hospital, and his 80-year-old father is burned by because he knocked out the front teeth of passers-by. We may have read Jin Xiaoyu's book, but until today we don't know the story behind it.
As Byron, a manic depressive person, wrote: "Manic depression is easy to produce genius, but genius is not necessarily sick." Treatment may weaken genius, but suicide is even more unfortunate. ”
A few years ago I came into contact with an autistic child who could paint, really well, fast and good. Of course, the gap is not small compared to other professionals, but it is enough to satisfy people's imagination of "genius/madman", bring him a label, help him earn some fame, and get a little extra income. People will also look at the group behind him differently because he "can paint" and "can create".
I thought his parents were luckier than other autistic families. Until I saw with my own eyes how the burden of life tormented a mother, making her face full of vicissitudes and exhaustion. I was completely speechless for a moment. It was then that I really realized that I had never understood what their family had been through before.
Life is not a movie, and no one can use his autistic but super-strong memory to make money like the younger brother played by Tom Cruise in "Rain Man". On the contrary, these families are worried about their children's future ways out, every day. They embrace all the storms of pain in those unknown corners, embrace the trapped beast in the child's body with their flesh and blood, appease him, or stumble upon him when he is in despair and deliberately trying only to find liberation, and illuminate him with the immortal fire in the heart of the parent.
A recent photo of Mr. Jin Shengyong
Perhaps, Mr. Jin's long article reminds us of something. About children with mental illness, about the parents of these children. What should we know and remember the most?
It is that even if these children are not geniuses, their parents still love them more than their own lives.
If there is a miracle in this story, it is a miracle of the family's love. Today I want to give my solemn and insignificant praise to Teacher Jin Xiaoyu, to his parents, and to all those who are still groping for the third exit in the dark tunnel.
According to the latest response of the newspaper reporter, Jin Laoyi replied to the life questions that many people are concerned about:
Xiaoyu's medical insurance and pension insurance have been paid, and when they reach retirement age, they can get a pension; the Disabled Persons' Federation also has a care center, which has completed the formalities, but now does not want to go. "First, after Xiaoyu went, he was lonely, and I was lonely. He was at home, and the two of us could still live with each other. The second is that when I am old, I can't move, and when I go to the nursing home, he can go to the (care center). Now the two of us don't want to be separated. ”
Sincerely bless them.
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Daily Positive Energy (zhnlali)
(The picture accompanying this article is transferred from Hangzhou Daily)