You Sanjie is the stepmother and ex-husband of Jia Zhen's wife, You Shi, and the younger sister of You Erjie. When Jia Zhen's father, Jia Jing, died of superstitious immortality and poisoning by eating Dan medicine, just in time for Jia Zhen to go out, Feng Jie fell ill, and there was a lack of manpower for funerals in the house, so You Shi sent his stepmother and two younger sisters to Ning Mansion to help take care of family affairs. After entering the Ning Mansion, the two You sisters were teased by Jia Zhen and Jia Rong's father and son, and the You family was poor, and You Lao Niang sat idly by and even supported this improper relationship in order to make a living. The two sisters of the You clan have long struggled to survive in the cracks of filth and wealth and luxury...
Although Jia Zhen's father and son are not related to the second sister of You's family, in Terms of Lunchang, Jia Zhen is the brother-in-law of You Sanjie, and Jia Rong should be called You Sanjie's third aunt. After the two sisters of the You clan entered the Ningguo Mansion, Jia Zhen's father and son did not regard them as relatives and elders, but saw that their widowed mother and sisters were in a poor situation and had no support for their relatives. Treat them like crop pieces for pleasure, satisfying their irrepressible lusts. In the face of the powerful Jia Zhen and the like, You Erjie, who wants to climb the high branch, is happy, and she longs to one day get rid of poverty and lowly life. However, Third Sister You is a little more sober and self-sustaining than Second Sister You. The life of the You family depends entirely on the help of Jia Fu, and they can only endure the humiliation and the snake, and fake their faces and smiles. For her, sacrificing dignity for survival is a last resort. But deep down, she despised these prodigal children from the bottom of her heart, and she could not hide her dislike between her words and demeanor. In this regard, You Sanjie also made resistance and resentment and revenge.
When You Sanjie understood that all the dodging and enduring could not escape the clutches of Jia Zhen and the like, she was also resentful and fiercely resisted, and she scolded Jia Zhen: "Treat us as fans for fun, and we golden and jade people call these two worldly newspapers defiled." It can be seen that You Sanjie is not a lascivious person, and in such a dirty and chaotic place as Jia Province, a woman like You Sanjie cannot be allowed to retain the slightest dignity. She must be a doll, at her mercy; she must be dusty, trampled upon. Those shameless men trampled her dignity and innocence under their feet and trampled on them wantonly. She was a fierce, sober and self-sustaining woman, and even in the face of so much absurdity, she still had a yearning for innocent love in her heart. Everything she was overwhelmed with was completely forced by power...
In such an absurd and complicated and filthy environment in Ning Province, You Sanjie lived humbly and soberly, and in the face of Jia Zhen's father and son's animal journey, she silently swallowed tears and endured bitterly, and finally her emotions exploded and could not bear it. She also wandered and gave herself up on the road to depravity. But she was so sober that she couldn't stay in this pit of doom. So she wanted to get out of this filthy place. Ignited the yearning for marriage and happiness. She said, "Liu Xianglian came, and I married him." From now on, I will eat and pray to the Buddha, and serve my mother; when I come and marry him; if I don't come for a hundred years, I will practice on my own. "You Sanjie's attachment to Liu Xianglian is not love, Liu Xianglian's cleanliness and rigidity are a kind of redemption for her life in Jia Province, a bridge to help her out of the mire, and a boat to cross her out of the sea of suffering." She felt that she would have a clean and peaceful life with Liu Xianglian.
Originally, things were also as You Sanjie's wish. Liu Xianglian heard Jia Lian say that You Sanjie's character was unmatched, so she made a ceremony with Jia Lian's family to pass on the Mandarin Duck Sword, and wanted to marry You Sanjie as a wife. Who thought that Liu Xianglian was in dialogue with Baoyu, and heard that You Sanjie was the sister of You Clan of Ning Province, and instantly dismissed the idea of marrying. He also said: Only the two stone lions in front of the door in the East Mansion are clean, but I am afraid that the cats and dogs are not clean! After all, Liu Xianglian is just an ordinary person, unable to tolerate his wife's unchaste, unable to get rid of the ideological shackles of the feudal era. So he came to ask for the sword. The third sister knew that this kind of thing was not clearly explained, even if the water of the Yellow River was poured, it could not wash the dirt on her body. So in front of Liu Xianglian, she killed herself and proved herself the pure whiteness of her soul.
You Sanjie's self-deprecation is a kind of justification for the purity of her soul. After all, in the feudal era, the ideological persecution of feudal etiquette and religious etiquette shackled too many women with tragic fates. There are also many women in the dream of the Red Chamber who have led to tragic endings due to indecent names. Qingwen, who was described as prominent and had a harsh demeanor, died because of rumors slandering her and having an affair with Baoyu. SiQi had a private meeting with her uncle Pan You'an in the Grand View Garden, and when she inspected the Grand View Garden, the matter was discovered by everyone, and Jia Fu threw her out to be a matchmaker. She committed suicide by hitting a wall because she could not stand the short flow and the inability to end with her lover. After Sister You was earned by Sister Feng into the Grand View Garden, because of Sister Feng's persecution, everyone laughed at her unbearable past, and even the next person abused her... In addition, Fang Guan and The Fourth Son were also harmed by slander because of their frivolous words, and suffered the injustice of an unclean reputation.
Whether it is the You sisters, or Qingwen, Siqi... Their tragic ends were all due to the persecution of feudal ritualism. In modern society, the status of women has been greatly improved compared with before, the public no longer requires women to be three from four virtues, there is no feudal etiquette, and the happiness of women's lives is also increasing. With the opening of thought, the progress of civilization and the change of social system, women no longer have to be as male as the ancient feudal society, but this does not mean that with the liberation of ideological trends, women no longer attach importance to chastity, but only that in a peaceful and tolerant social environment, we can cherish our rights and adhere to the bottom line of morality and law...