It's actually easy to be an asshole, you can put everything aside, you can't see it, you can't get upset. Then find ten or eight reasons to console myself in my head: this is the only way things can be, and I have tried my best. After a lifetime of escape, the result is not to come back to face!
This is the self-statement of Dong's father. Dong's father, is such an asshole. As a container truck driver, I travel between Hong Kong and the Mainland all year round. Leave young Dong at home to care for her depressed mother. And the mother's heart is focused on her son Jun, who lives in the United States. Joon made his home there after studying in the United States. The mother became ill and became a major depressive patient, spreading all the resentment, pain, and negative emotions to the east without reservation, and comparing him with his excellent young son Jun at every turn. Due to the aggravation of the mother's illness, she could not take care of herself and urinated incontinence. Coupled with the mother's intentional and unintentional ridicule and neglect, Dong endured the pain and pressure that ordinary people could not bear!
Once Dong took her defecating mother to the bathroom, and her mother struggled and drowned her mother in an argument. Doctors diagnosed Dong with bipolar affective disorder and spent two years in a psychiatric hospital. Bipolar affective disorder, bipolar disorder, technical term bipolar disorder (Bipolardisorder), the symptom is depression and mania alternately attacks, oscillating between anger and impatience, pessimism and world-weariness, two extreme emotions, once the attack, the emotions are completely out of their control, impulsive and dangerous. It is a syndrome of depression and mania, so he also has the characteristics of unipolar depression.
The most obvious feature of bipolar disorder mentioned in consciousness therapy is that he is manic and wants to kill, and he is depressed and wants to commit suicide, and Dong is such a state. In Hong Kong, this type of disease is called a mental disorder. This is what we call positive schizophrenia, what we call mad neuropathy. In fact, there is no cognitive impairment in bipolar disorder. It's just that the mood swings are too large, he can't express his emotions, and the movie actually reveals the causes of this psychological problem.
Consciousness therapy mentions that bipolar disorder is closely related to the family of origin, when love is not met, behavior is not affirmed, and needs are not valued. It will cause a child's lifelong insecurity, lack, sense of worthlessness and inferiority. This will accompany him for the rest of his life, forming a psychological black hole.
When Dong chatted with his father, he told a story about the past, in the sixth grade of elementary school, the family took the two brothers on an outing. The parents praised their youngest son Jun'er and left him alone in the park. This became a nightmare that Dong lingered in his life, and he always wanted to prove himself in front of his parents, so he became extra filial and responsible. But they can't exchange the happiness of their parents, and the feelings of father and son have become increasingly indifferent over the years!
Even after coming out of a psychiatric hospital. His father took him back to his cramped rental house, and his father was confused. Afraid that the neurotic son would be unpredictable to himself, he put a hammer under the pillow. All this East looked at silently in the eyes. Coupled with the father's chicken soup style and reason-telling education, it is undoubtedly worse for Dong. The father blames Dong for being too depressed, and Dong resents his father's resignation in his early years and has no sense of responsibility. This kind of bumpy emotional confrontation is staged in a small room of less than 7 square meters. It also reflects the helplessness of the current situation of life of most of the small people in Hong Kong.
When the mood is high, Dong can often think of a very good idea. Grow vegetables on the roof with the children of the neighbors. Even the thought of setting up a company and then going public, bi-directional emotional disorder, sometimes called genius disease, their thinking and ideas, sometimes very rushing, imaginative, whimsical endlessly. Like Van Gogh as we know him, he is a bipolar affective disorder patient, their strong emotions have no correct way of expression, can only be like a volcano in the bottom of the heart, until the day of the complete eruption.
East is trying to work hard to integrate into society, in fact, it is also a way for bi-directional personality disorder to redeem itself, Erikson's theory of personality development mentions that when a person can successfully pass through the next stage of personality development, they can make up for the damage of the previous stage, and consciousness therapy believes that when you are not recognized, not recognized, or accepted in your original family, but if you can get all this in society. You will be able to get healing.
When Dong was about to go to the church with his girlfriend to pray, he heard a message on the radio: a Hong Kong stock trader had committed suicide by jumping from the roof due to bankruptcy. The east, which was originally highly emotional, suddenly seemed to have fallen directly to the bottom. At the church prayer meeting, the girlfriend chattered about the past difficulties, how Dong lost millions in stock trading, and at this moment, Dong completely broke out!
He rushed out of the church and walked downstairs to the inside of the supermarket. Inside the supermarket, sip after mouthful, swallowing dark chocolate with tears in her eyes. Because the caffeine in dark chocolate can promote the rise of serotonin. (In the neurotransmitter hypothesis, it is believed that too low serotonin will lead to depression) In this way, depression can be combated, and people around them have pointed out when they see the behavior of Dong Wei: Isn't this the neuropathy that killed the mother before on TV? Why not send it to a mental hospital? Will this kill people?
The pressure to survive in Hong Kong is already very large, and everyone is crowded into the cramped space. Afraid of endangering their own safety, they have fallen into the well, living in the same building neighbors, everyone is at risk. Dong's father was given two options: either send his son to a mental hospital or move out.
Once it comes to one's own comfort. People will not always have compassion and stand in their own position, their psychological motivation for looking at problems is to ensure their own safety, Mr. Lu Xun had this feeling a long time ago. "Downstairs a man was dying of illness, and the house in the wall was singing a phonograph; opposite was a child. There were two people upstairs laughing wildly; and there was the sound of cards being played. There were women crying on boats in the river about her dead mother. The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy. ”
But this time, the father who had always evaded, the father who called himself a bastard, chose to stand on the side of his son and face the pressure of the crowd, in the short process of father-son relationship. He knew that his son was not what they called a neurosis. He also understood that it was actually not necessary to put the hammer under the pillow. He also gradually understood the pain in his son's heart. This time he no longer chose to escape, he chose to face. Face yourself, face fate, face your son. It's a redemption for yourself.
Zeng Zhiwei's similar films are not unfamiliar, and before that, another of his similar works left a deep impression on me, that is, "Forber" I remember watching with my roommates in the college dormitory. For a whole week, the mood was depressed. It really felt like he was acting out his true colors.
Ignorance is a Buddhist term. When thoughts obscure the mind, we are in the unconscious state mentioned in conscious therapy. Emotional disease treatment is a long-term struggle, the treatment of psychological trauma not only requires appropriate physiological drug treatment, social resource support and the need for the public to tear off stereotypical labels, only the heart can see the really important things, some things are invisible to the eye. So be good at protecting your mind, and at the moment when your heart is moving, protect your thoughts with your consciousness. in order to see the truth.
Only when you see you will you not be afraid, will not reject, will not resist. Bipolar disorder is due to excessive mood swings. It often leads to misunderstandings, prejudices, and panic, and in fact, he is just as normal as you and me. Because I can't live out of myself and feel extremely anxious and depressed, the accumulated emotions can not be cathartic, do we have a similar psychological experience, who can be satisfied in this world of wives! It's just that we learn how to comfort ourselves.
The same want to tell those in a state of bipolarity that you are not worse than others, even smarter than ordinary people, just like the Bible says, smart increases a pain increases by ten, and it is because of your intelligence that you feel the cruelty of the real world more and more. Feel that the real world simply does not have a place for your soul.
So first you have to become aware, as mentioned in consciousness therapy, and its light is the same as its dust, because light and dust have always existed in this world, and through the light you can always see the dust floating. I can't tell you how to divide it. Then when you begin to accept the world and live with it like the dust in the light, you will find that psychological pain will be greatly alleviated, and you will find that there is more than pain in life!
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