A pair of parents arguing about divorce, or even going to court, is actually sandwiched in the middle of the process, the child hurts the most.
A judge of the family court in Kaohsiung, after handling a divorce case, wrote a thousand-word letter to the 8-year-old boy from the perspective of "uncle judge", and the speech was full of heartache and reluctance for the child, constantly saying to the child: "You really did not do anything wrong", forcing many netizens to cry.
According to the China Television News Network, the judge of the Kaohsiung Prefectural Court is named Zhu Zhengkun, and once in a divorce case, the husband and wife wanted to divorce because of the incompatibility of living habits and the concept of the use of money, and in order to compete for custody in court, they constantly scolded each other and accused each other of not.
Finally, after analyzing the evidence, the judge decided to award custody to the mother, who could visit the child and had to pay $10,800 a month in maintenance.
Perhaps because he has seen too many divorce cases, Zhu Zhengkun knows that in this case, the biggest injury is the 8-year-old boy surnamed C sandwiched between his parents, so at the end of the judgment, he wrote a letter to the child, telling him a lot of words from the perspective of "Uncle Judge", hoping to reduce the harm caused by the child in this matter.
You should never just be a name mentioned in the verdict
Marriage, should be two people love, after the union of a beautiful trip, when the child is born, the child has become a very important part of the husband and wife, judge Zhu believes that in this divorce lawsuit, the parents in court constantly argue who is right and who is wrong, constantly cite evidence to prove that the other party is "not good", although the child's name continues to appear in the judgment, but in fact, "the child should definitely not be just a name mentioned in the judgment."
Under such pressure, you are still such a loving mom and dad, really a great child
The judge said that he had spoken to the child once, hoping to know his true feelings from the child's mouth, and also help to make the best decision for the child in the judgment, and in this conversation, he saw that the child was bearing the pressure that should not be borne at this age, but he still loved his parents, and could not help but let the judge say to the child: "You have worked hard, you are really a great child."
Mom and Dad love you very much, this is the biggest "fact"
The judge said he believed that when a child saw his parents arguing, he must have been thinking, "Why do parents quarrel?" "Did I do something wrong?" However, the truth is that during this process, the child really did not do anything wrong, and no matter what the parents did, they still loved him the same, which is the truth.
【The full text of the judge's letter to the child】 (Excerpt from Huashi News Network)
Hello, I'm the uncle of the judge who spoke to you in court in 2020, I don't know if you remember. I don't know if you will see this verdict, but if you do, I hope you will read the following words.
I'm sorry to only be able to talk to you in this way, because of the work relationship, I have to be fair between your mom and dad, decide whether their marriage can continue, and who you want to live with after that, so I can only write these words when these things are over in my hands. What is written in the front of this paragraph is that my uncle, as a judge, must explain clearly and write down the things that my parents are arguing about, so that the people who read the judgment can understand why I made this decision, but I feel that I have the responsibility to say something to you in particular, because you are the person who has been most affected in this case, and you should definitely not just be a name mentioned in the judgment.
The first thing to say is that in the past few years, it has really been hard for you, and when your uncle was at your age, he only needed to think about where to go after school and what to eat for dinner every day, but you were bearing the pressure and hardship that should not be at this age. In this case, the object of the uncle's court and the judgment is formally your parents, but I know that in fact, the one who really has the greatest impact and the deepest injury is definitely you, in the conflict between parents and mothers, I believe you must have asked countless times "Why do parents quarrel?" "Did I do something wrong?" So, uncle is here to tell you again, hard work you, but in the quarrel between mom and dad, you really didn't do anything wrong. Although we have only spoken once, from your words, my uncle can see that despite such hard work and pressure, you are still such a loving parent, really a great child.
Again, while chatting with you (legal term: stating opinions), I have repeatedly assured you that the "word" of what you say will not be known to others by the judge's uncle. Really, even at the end of the sentence, my uncle still didn't let you tell me what you said, let anyone else who was there that day know, because you're a good boy, and you shouldn't be under any other pressure for saying what you want to say. I also hope you know that the decision made by your uncle is not dare to say that it is correct, but it is definitely done after thinking about all the evidence in your hand, absolutely not, and definitely not just because of which sentence you say, you will make the above decision. If your parents or you are unhappy because of this decision afterwards, your uncle will say to you, "I'm sorry, I'm not capable", but really, it is definitely not because you said it or didn't say anything.
Finally, uncle wants to tell you that your parents really love you very much, maybe in the past few years of their quarrels, you feel very hard and tired, but uncle believes (at least in the past year or so), they are trying to love you in their own way, maybe some ways make you unhappy, but they all really believe that loving in their own way is the best for you. Because of this, when the uncle writes the judgments written to your parents (and other adults), he is really struggling, because the law stipulates that the uncle must write about whether their marriage is really impossible, in addition to writing about the mother and father, their marriage is really no longer possible, you must also write "who is more wrong", so you will see a lot of words on it that they attack each other. The text in the uncle's judgment is very hard to try not to let too many unnecessary attacks appear, hoping not to let you feel that your parents are not good, but the uncle believes that not only you, any child will be very sad to see your parents like this. In fact, to be honest, my uncle really wants you not to know, because they have to attack each other in order to separate or continue to be together, and in order to be able to get qualified to take care of you. What the truth of the matter was, in fact, except for themselves, the uncle believed that no one knew. The uncle only gets a close "fact" from the evidence in his hand, and if there is a continuation of the legal process, other judges may have different "facts", perhaps completely different from what the uncle said. However, please believe that I hope you are happy, love your mom and dad, they are the best, these are the real "facts".
Finally, regardless of whether Mom and Dad's marriage can continue, My Uncle sincerely hopes that you can grow up happily. Writing this, my uncle prayed to my god: I hope that when you feel sad and difficult, He can become a lamp in front of your feet, a light on the road.
I wish you all peace and good health.