Teacher Luo Xiang said in a video, people, is it timely to have fun? Or should we pursue our ideals?
He said, "Some people think that ideals are all lies and lies, and it is better to have fun in time, to be drunk in this day and today, and to indulge in a lifetime, because the process of pursuing ideals is too painful." But the ideal still has to be there, and the most precious ideal is not placed in the museum, not in the offering, but in the heart. ”
There are always people who have to do multiple choice questions here, is this obviously not a two-choice question? Do you have to make a break between the two?
Can't you pursue your ideals if you are happy in time?
Can't you pursue your ideals and have fun in time?
Can't we have fun in time and pursue our ideals at the same time?
In the following short article, we do not talk about the big truth, but only want to explain such a point: timely pleasure and the pursuit of ideals must be combined, and none of them can be missing.
Timely happiness makes people feel decadent, the pursuit of ideals makes people feel bitter, in fact, in time to be happy and pursue ideals, you will find that it is not decadent nor bitter. If you don't do anything, you will be decadent and bitter.
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The pain of the person who pursues the ideal is that he only pursues the ideal and does not have fun in time.
Before being beaten by reality, when it comes to ideals, it must be unswerving, it is better to move the heart of the white head than to fall into the ambition of Qingyun, the three armies can seize the handsome and the horse cannot seize the will, the sea can be withered, and the stone can be rotten.
But after a severe beating, he raised his hands and did everything. Then sadly throw a sentence: the ideal ultimately loses to the reality. And make a lament, and then bounce around and turn to the pleasure in time, never to return.
Good guys, this pot, reality means a bit wronged: have not how hard to use it, the opponent fell, touch the porcelain?
The pursuit of ideals is painful, mainly for these reasons:
1, the ideal has to compromise with reality, and it is again and again, painful.
For example, the ideal is to be a scientist, musician or writer. Originally wanted to concentrate on scientific research, but because they wanted to fight for resources, they had to participate in all kinds of nasty socializing and annoying people; they wanted to write songs well, but they wanted to break through the lower limit of arrogance because they wanted to fight for an opportunity to appear; they wanted to use words to hit the depths of the human soul, but because no one published it, they could only write things that they didn't look up to.
This is still good, and there is still a chance on the way. There are also some people, half gone, have to give up their ideals, because they have to eat, they want a car and a house, their children have to go to school, and the elderly have to treat their illness... So I feel that the pursuit of ideals is very painful.
However, the above is not representative. Because only a small number of people's ideals are real ideals.
The ideal of the vast majority of people, with this there is a small loss of discrepancies, such as the ideal is the college entrance examination into Peking University Tsinghua Fudan finally can only shandong to find Lan Xiang, the ideal is to study well in college to make a whole world and finally eat chicken every day, the ideal is to graduate from the month into the management post for three thousand years to do the management post, the last month to enter the three thousand dry three months on the flash, the ideal is to meet a clove-like sad mushroom cool and finally only get five girls, similar to this ideal: when the CEO marries Bai Fumei to the peak of life, graduation ten years into the million and so on.
Usually these also end in failure, so shout "the ideal is very full of reality is very bone", "the ideal lost to reality". But usually, we also call it "fantasy", fantasy and ideal, just one word apart, but also a lost thing.
2, there are too few people to go with, painful.
The people around them all compromised very well, and their persistence seemed out of place, lonely and painful. This point should be mentioned, "man is the sum of all social relations", if you feel that because people are unhappy, it is that some social relations have not been handled well, which has nothing to do with ideals.
3, hard pursuit, throughout his life but can not be realized, the most painful.
In the end of a hard life, I found that other people have everything, but they have nothing, and people who are happy in time are cool and crooked, and they are very bitter in pursuit of ideals. Feel that good people do not have good rewards, the contrast is too big to feel painful.
There may be many, many reasons, but in general, it is because: in the process of pursuing ideals, it is not very cool.
When a problem is found, it's easy.
Therefore, in the process of pursuing ideals, you also need to make yourself feel good.
So, you have to have fun in time.
Is there wine today? OK. It's time to eat, it's time to drink, it's time to play, it's time to have fun.
The tourist tour, the game game, the hi pi pi, the bungee bungee bungee.
Wake up tomorrow and continue to pursue your ideals.
When Grandpa Mao was forced to go up Jinggang Mountain and faced with dozens of times the number of enemies, he adopted a sixteen-character policy: "The enemy advances and retreats, the enemy garrisons me to disturb, the enemy wears me to fight, and the enemy retreats and pursues me." The primary principle is to "protect ourselves, and on the basis of preserving ourselves, we should choose the opportunity to annihilate the enemy." In the case of not being able to save oneself, in the case of unfavorable circumstances, temporarily strategic retreat.
But in any case, pay attention to the two words "positive". How to be exquisite? It's the time to attack, it's the time to attack. When retreating, it is also actively retreating. When defending, it is also active defense.
Actively understandable when attacking, active when retreating, and active when defending? That's right. When the situation is not favorable to our side and it is necessary to retreat, we should also maintain a positive posture, believing that the retreat is only temporary, and that the current retreat is to find a better opportunity to attack again. The same goes for defense.
This is like the snail that Luo Zhenyu said, this snail dances its fists, it wants to come and beat you, no matter if it is separated by ten thousand miles, it needs to climb for ten thousand years, and in the middle it has to pass through the mountains and seas, rapids and shoals, it has always wanted to chase you like this. If you throw it another ten thousand miles away, it will still crawl over and beat you. No matter what happens to it, no matter what else it has to do, it may have to eat and sleep and fall in love or something, but it never gives up the belief that it wants to come and beat you up.
If this belief is replaced by a positive one, an ideal, then it is that no matter what happens in the middle, what detours are taken, how much time is delayed, but the faith is always there.
The ideal is not an overnight thing anyway, and it is not easy to put it in the heart, isn't it? The more you go online, the cooler it gets.
The happiness of such a person who is happy in time will also be the person who pursues the ideal. And the happiness of those who pursue ideals will not be there those who are happy in time.
Others play you also play, you still have more ideals than others, more pursuits, is it not instant to feel cool and crooked?
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Another group of people have to say, since the ideal is bitter, is it not okay to just do it in time? Can't you dream of dying drunk for the rest of your life? Life is short, timely pleasure, and do and cherish. There is wine in this day and drunk in this day, brother you and I blow bottles. Be a monk for a day and hit the clock for a day, can't you?
A lot of people do it, but it's not so cool to do it.
If this can be done and useful, then there will not be so many people who have regrets at the last moment of life.
At the beginning, there was indeed wine in this dynasty and drunk in this dynasty, and it was refreshing and crooked, and slowly it was tired of eating and playing, and the things at the moment were not attractive, and more fresh stimulation was needed, and when fresh stimulation could not be found, tomorrow was worried about tomorrow.
Not only ordinary people, but also the big guys at the top of the food chain, such as Zhang Chaoyang.
Graduated from the Department of Physics of Tsinghua University, a proper student.
Founding Sohu, in the early days, Ma Yun and Ma Huateng were standing in the C position and looking down, even now, they are also top rich people.
Not married, often mixed in nightclubs, surrounded by a variety of beautiful girls, good figure, high appearance.
Participating in industry activities is also the image of industry leaders and is admired.
We pursue the freedom of cheri, everyone is free, what to buy.
With money and status, is such a day cool? Surely cool, don't we just want to live this kind of life in our dreams? (That, often change girls this is not Ha, solemn statement)
But Zhang Chaoyang said in an interview that he was unhappy.
The person who had fun in time said that he was in pain, was it pretending? Probably not.
But why not be happy? Everything is there, there is no new pursuit.
Before a new source of happiness is found, the more you play properly, the more painful it becomes.
Many people who are happy in time are not happy when they walk. Because no matter how fun things are, they will be greasy.
You say I'm not tired, content and happy, can't you?
People often want to numb themselves by "contentment and happiness", saying that as long as they are content, they can be happy. I'm sorry, but that's really poor. If contentment can always be happy, Zhang Chaoyang is not satisfied.
Contentment is always the case where the desired goal has not been achieved but the best efforts have been made, and the other situation is that the gains are directly exceeded expectations. For example, I originally wanted to get a 1st prize, and finally took a 3rd prize, saying that I was content and happy. The other person did not want to win the prize, but won a third prize, and also said that he was content and happy.
Both of these situations are expected and have goals, which is also a prerequisite for contentment. What is gotten now is satisfaction, and what is seen in front of us is hope. Because the future can get better.
But why is Zhang Chaoyang not happy?
Because he's already won the first prize, he can't see anything better. You say money, they are not short of that level, it is just how many numbers. You talk about status, and where people go is the focus. It's all over.
I can't see what else to pursue, which is why the timely happiness is ultimately miserable.
Don't believe you see, there are several executives in the company who say that they were happy when they didn't have money before, and now they have money, but they are not as happy as before.
In fact, people say that this is not to pretend to X, because after having money, there should be some, and everything that should be enjoyed has been enjoyed, but there is no higher goal, there is no direction of action, and it is normal to be unhappy.
At this time, if there is a goal and a pursuit, is it not the same? Happiness comes mostly from the pursuit and realization, with the pursuit of the goal, there can be the action of "pursuing" and there is no result of "realization".
So we have to say that the pursuit of ideals is very important. This is a goal ambitious enough.
The pursuit of ideals, the benefit to most people, is not whether it can be achieved (the vast majority can not be achieved anyway), but it can always give you a goal to chase, so that you can always have a pursuit, there is a pursuit of opportunities to achieve, and there is a new happiness.
Therefore, the pursuit of ideals is to achieve sustainable development in order to achieve timely happiness.
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The biggest problem is not that we can't pursue ideals, but that we don't have ideals at all, or we don't know what kind of goals can be regarded as ideals. This one is really too hard.
To borrow a sentence from a great man:
The ideal I am talking about still has to be there, and it is by no means an empty thing that is completely dispensable and lucky, as some people say, "Dreams must still be had, and if they are realized." He is a mountain that stands in the distance, always in its shape, and when we go to the left he is to our right, when we go to the right he is to our left, and when we go toward him, he is in front of us. Whether you go left or right at this time, in this life, you will go to this mountain.
You may fall on the road, you may fall at the foot of the mountain, you may fall halfway up the mountainside, but in your heart, there must be this mountain.