In daily life, there are many people who always have a particularly impetuous life. When you encounter some setbacks, you will complain to everyone; if you get a little success, you have to make everyone known.
Maybe in their minds they will feel:
Letting others know that it is not easy to get help; letting others know that they are living a wonderful life will prove that they are great.
In fact, however, your complaints will only annoy others and alienate; your ostentation will only lead to jealousy and resentment.
There is a saying:
"Smiling and not moving is the best weapon for people to deal with the world, smiling can solve many problems, and quietness can avoid many things."
As you get older and experienced, the more you will understand.
True great wisdom is never impetuous and noisy, not to tell others about his luck and misfortune, but to know how to cultivate himself quietly and concentrate on living his own life.
In the trough, don't complain
Writer Liu Liangcheng said:
"We can't see all the snow that falls in a person's life, and everyone spends the winter alone in their own lives."
Perhaps, when in a difficult situation and have an uneven heart, many people will always be emotional and always want to vent their dissatisfaction and resentment.
However, you must understand that complaining to people and complaining to people will not solve any problems at all.
No one will pity you because of your pain, only because of your complaints and dislike and get bored with you, after all, everyone is very hard, everyone is not easy, others have no obligation, and of course do not want to be your emotional trash can.
I have seen such a story on the Internet:
A young man, after graduating from college, is not willing to live a dull life, so he goes to the big city where his sister and brother-in-law are located to work hard.
However, because the big city is really full of talents, he also hit a wall again and again in the search for a job, and because of his problems, he also lost the job that his brother-in-law trusted him to find.
However, not only did he not know how to reflect on his own problems, but every time he encountered setbacks, he complained to his sister and complained to his brother-in-law.
At first, his sister and brother-in-law would understand him and encourage him, but no amount of patience could withstand the blind consumption.
In the end, not only did his brother-in-law stop caring about him, but even his sister was particularly disappointed in him. In the end, he also made a mess of his life.
Bai Yansong said:
"The youth of no generation is easy. Each generation has the fate of each generation, the grievances and struggles, and there is nothing to complain about. ”
In life, when encountering things, don't always think about complaining, but think of finding ways to solve them, because complaining is not good for you.
Only when you look at all the adverse circumstances with a normal mind, and quietly try to find a solution.
In order to smooth out all the ups and downs, truly achieve their own achievements, and get a full life!
In a high place, do not show off
Saying goes:
"Rice ripe with low ears, people cook low."
In this world, it is never that the more you behave, the more others will like you.
On the contrary, if you don't know how to restrain your own light, don't know how to hide low-key, and always show off arrogantly, then you will only make enemies and bring trouble to yourself in the end.
Know such a man.
He graduated from a prestigious university, and just entered the company to make very dazzling achievements, completed several projects.
Because of his excellent results, he was also appreciated by the company's leaders and deliberately focused on cultivating him.
However, it is said that the most difficult thing for people to bear is not criticism but light.
Because he has been going smoothly, he has gradually become more and more arrogant, more and more arrogant, as long as there is some achievement, he is eager to make the whole company know, and eventually let many people envy.
Later, when he was in charge of a large project, almost no one really cooperated with him, and even one person tripped him up behind his back, and in the end the project suffered heavy losses, and he also paid a great price.
Later, when talking about this matter, he would always say: "I was immature and did not know how to keep a low profile, and I learned a lesson." ”
Carnegie said:
"Know how to restrain your own light and avoid stabbing others and making enemies." Being low-key and humble, not ostentatious, in order to have a good relationship. ”
Truly mature and wise people, they will not show off everything they have, the more remarkable achievements, the more they will quietly taoguang and obscure.
Because they understand that the superficial hustle and bustle has no meaning except to make themselves jealous, and only by learning to keep a low profile can they live a more comfortable life.
Cultivate silently and live your own life
As the old saying goes:
"Sparrow noise is difficult to achieve, and the silence of the goshawk breaks the sky."
If you're in a high place, don't show off; if you're at a low, don't complain around.
For no one will really look at you differently because you are dazzling; no one will empathize with the pain of your predicament.
All you need to do is to silently cultivate yourself and pursue a better, more spiritual and spiritual self.
When you become good in yourself, then you can solve the dilemma; when you are humble and low-key to focus on your life, then you will not add to your own troubles.
The rest of your life is long, may you know how to be a quiet person, and then live your life comfortably and wonderfully.
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Author: Away from the rain slightly cool, a rational, emotional, like to use words to express personal views, bring you spiritual healing, emotional solution, life perception of the post-90s writer.