No matter who you are with, remember that "the man who spends money for you doesn't necessarily love you, but the man who doesn't spend money for you doesn't love you."
Although this sentence is very secular and very material, all those who have experienced love know how profound the meaning of this sentence is.
How many girls feel that love is above the material, so when they are with men, they never spend each other's money.
After the other party pays, he also has to find a way to make up for it, but how many girls who do not seek money finally lose so thoroughly that they are not treated with care.
That's because people know how to seek advantage and avoid harm, and the more they give, the more they will lose, so in the nature of loss and hatred, they will only cherish it more.
And those who do not need to pay the cost, even if they lose it, there is not much loss, naturally will not cherish, therefore, this is why those girls who do not want money will not be cherished.
Therefore, in a relationship between the sexes, women need to understand that if they want to have a good love, they must not shy away from talking about money.
Getting men to take the initiative to spend money for you requires a little "method"
01), for example: if your academic performance is not very good, usually you can almost take a score of about sixty, one day, the teacher requires you to see a hundred points when you take the final exam, such a request you naturally will not agree, because for you, this goal is too difficult to complete;
But if the teacher asks you to take a seventy-point test first, and then try to get a hundred points.
At this time, although you will also feel that one hundred points is more difficult, but with a seventy point requirement as a preparation, you will also feel that one hundred points is not so difficult, maybe you can work hard to complete it.
In fact, this is a process of the threshold effect, the so-called threshold effect, it refers to when people first hear a requirement with a high difficulty coefficient, they generally choose to refuse.
02), but when people hear a request with a low difficulty coefficient, they usually agree, and then when they put forward a request with a higher difficulty coefficient, they will not hesitate to refuse.
This is because in order to maintain the consistency of cognition before and after, people will not agree first and then refuse, and this psychological effect can also act on the relationship between the sexes, guiding men to pay for themselves.
If we make men pay for themselves in the first place, it can easily backfire.
You may wish to try to put forward some small requirements first, and then when the other party is satisfied, then put forward large requirements, so that you can harvest the desired results step by step.
Affirmative tone praises encouragement
01) How many women dare not make demands in the relationship between the sexes? And how many women don't ask for it in a relationship?
When you are late from work and want a man to pick you up, you will say something like, "When you are late from work, can you come and pick me up?" If it is inconvenient, forget it";
When you want to eat cake, you will say something like, "Can you buy me a chocolate cake when you get home from work?" If you don't follow the road, forget it."
Doesn't this way of making demands invisibly create a room for men to be rejected?
When men say that they are inconvenient and not smooth, women will feel that they have not achieved what they want, and then sulk alone, and men do not know why women are angry, so unnecessary misunderstandings occur.
02), at this time, smart women will not ask for such a request, they will adopt an affirmative tone of praise and encouragement to guide men to pay for themselves:
For example, "You come to pick me up, I am not afraid of you by my side, no matter how dark it is";
For example, "I want to eat a small cake, and I think the cake you buy has the taste of love".
Men are linear thinking, too much to bend the words he can not understand, the tone is careful, it is better to be straightforward, in the time of pay also received affirmation and praise, kill two birds with one stone, why not enjoy?
Over time, he will gradually get used to such a payment, and sometimes he will automatically pay for us without even needing us to open our mouths.
"Selfish" women are best killed
In fact, it is not selfish to talk about money in love, because the more you grow up, the more you will find that love may not need money, but life must be inseparable from money.
Love without material is a scattered sand, without the wind, a few steps away.
Therefore, when we know how to talk about money in a relationship between the sexes, when we begin to know how to guide men to pay for themselves, when we begin to learn to be "selfish", it means that our hearts begin to mature.
Because only when you are mature, you will know how to think for yourself.
Of course, it is a smart move to trouble others, but knowing how to trouble requires wisdom, and it is an important thing to let men spend money for themselves, but remember not to rush to make a quick profit.
If the lion opens its mouth widely, it is likely to face a very negative result.
Therefore, everything should be taken slowly, and when men are used to paying for themselves, then taking the initiative to spend money for themselves will not become a difficult thing.