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What does an elegant woman look like?
The ancients said: Those who have harmony will have pleasing colors, and those who have pleasant colors will have grace.
That is, harmony and pleasant color.
If you add that high emotional intelligence can talk, both to make the people around you feel comfortable, but also not to wronged themselves, that is a more advanced elegance.
It just so happens that there is such a person next to me:
She is the former host of CCTV, now the deputy director of CCTV Creative Media Arts, following the program around the world, reading no less than 100 books every year, and talking with Yan Yuexi and good talk, which is the elegance she has carved in her bones.
She is Wang Xuechun.
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CCTV hosts who swept the country in the 1990s
She said: It's actually quite simple to talk well
Many people know her from "Chia Tai Variety".
In the 1990s, as the first intellectual variety show at that time, "Chia Tai Variety Show" became a must-see for countless family weekend evenings.
To this day, many people still remember this program that was popular all over the country.
"Don't look at it, don't know, the world is wonderful." In this opening sentence, Wang Xuechun said that it was eight years.
And she also won the love of the audience with her professional and easy-going hosting style.
Following "Chia Tai Variety", she has hosted a series of well-known variety shows such as "Guinness China Night" and "Joy Street", became the host of the Spring Festival Gala, served as the producer of many large-scale variety shows such as "Come on to the Future", and won the "Golden Microphone" Award, the Starlight Award (the highest award in Chinese television art)...
In the past two years, she has also shared her nearly 30 years of communication experience on the Internet, because her words are always transparent and straightforward, and quickly attract the attention of nearly one million people.
In the comments, there are both white-collar workers in the workplace, young mothers, and elderly parents, who are all shouting for use!
After walking through thousands of mountains and rivers, seeing the cold and warm of the world, she has always been gentle and firm to be herself.
Host Jing Yidan praised her: "Xue Chun is gentle and wise, and does not give people pressure when communicating with people." ”
Sister Moon, the host of the main station, said: "It is a flowing person, like water, when encountering any ditch and obstacle, it can be smoothly bypassed, and the difficulties will be solved." ”
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After the age of 30, the "speech value" is 1,000 times more important than the appearance value
Over the years, Xue Chun has seen many people who do not understand communication skills, living a life that will be in place, or life will go downhill step by step;
In fact, learning to communicate is one of the most cost-effective ways to change your life .
In the workplace, talking is your armor, which will make you unconsciously have more confidence and confidence, and you can more calmly deal with the chaos in the workplace;
In life, being able to talk will not only reveal your lifestyle and personality, but also affect future love and marriage...
In the family, children who grow up in a good communication atmosphere and children who grow up in a quarrelsome environment live a different life.
So don't let your "mouth" drag the happiness hind legs.
Don't say that you are introverted and don't like to talk, because:
Can say ≠ will say, the other party can not get your point, say more is ineffective communication, sometimes, silence is also a kind of communication.
It will be said that ≠ cunning, knowing the world without being sophisticated, and being good at self-deprecation without mocking people is the big pattern of life.
I often listen to the complaints of people around me, read a lot of books, learn a lot of talking tricks, not only did not learn anything, but made myself more and more tired.
That's because, you're really going astray.
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Break through the 3 major communication dilemmas and become a master of speaking
As Xue Chun often said, the vast majority of communication problems are divided into 3 situations:
Don't dare, don't want to, and won't.
In fact, as long as you see through the essence, many problems will be solved.
In the workplace: a good relationship between the left and the right
Before the team, a new mother who returned to the workplace did not dare to speak at the meeting, and the collective discussion could not keep up.
After Xue Chun noticed it, she took the initiative to give her a trick: one look, two questions, three listening, helping her quickly familiarize herself with the work.
Because the premise of not daring is lack of understanding, worry about errors, more observation and inquiry, information on the same frequency, cooperation will be smooth.
Encouraged colleagues are also becoming more and more confident.
Life: Strong intimacy
Speaking of the secret of marriage communication, a very important one is to "open the topic and don't let the problem be suffocated."
For example, the friend Li Li's husband, once addicted to online games, the two of them blushed as soon as they discussed, and it was uncomfortable to say that they could not hold it in their hearts.
Emotions are backlogged in the heart, talking is always stinging, and finally one day like a volcanic eruption, the more quarrelsome the two become more and more fierce, and even moved the idea of divorce...
Xue Chun had a similar experience, but contrary to Li Li, she used the "teammate strategy": objective statement - reason guessing - making suggestions, step by step and sincerely saying her feelings and needs.
After a period of communication, the two reached a consensus and understood each other more.
You see, talking well, plain chai rice oil and salt, can also be a sweet pet drama.
People who will quarrel, the more quarrelsome the feelings, the better
Ascending communication: Seeing the boundaries of the relationship
Albert Einstein once said: "It is difficult to solve problems at this level by thinking at this level." ”
So a lot of times when you're trying hard or not, you have to learn to communicate.
For example, many friends complain that parents urge marriage and promote:
"Can you please leave that much alone?!"
"We're not here for your own good yet!"
Obsessed with the surface of the problem, the quarrel is just an outlet for emotions.
In XueChun's view, the essence of the problem is that there is no clear "relationship boundary":
You are responsible for your own life, and your parents are responsible for their social identity;
In other words, you should not interfere too much in your life choices, but you can't stop your parents from "caring" for you.
When you come out of the question and look down from a high place, the question is no longer as confusing as it was at the beginning.
If you're still struggling with everyday communication, such as:
Speeches at meetings do not say the main points, or are not expressed in place, and are slowly marginalized;
Communicate with your husband with a problem-solving attitude, and the result is that you are not happy and disperse;
Patience to the naughty child to reason, he not only did not listen, but also intensified...
Then you are welcome to join Xuechun Studio X Ten Point Reading and carefully created "Xuechun Communication Class", which takes you to learn to quickly see through the essence, efficiently solve various communication problems in life and the workplace, and improve the quality of life.
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Introverted, how to avoid becoming a topic terminator?
Communicate with the leader alone, how to build a good impression?
The child rebels and can't listen to it, what should I do?
And the husband is getting colder, how sweet as ever?
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Save yourself the time you read hundreds of tomes.
It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish, thoroughly explain the matter of communication: each lesson starts from the current situation of the problem, analyzes to help you find out the real problem, and then gives a solution to it, so that you can learn to learn to learn from each other.
20 minutes a day, after learning can be used: there is homework after each lesson, practice immediately after learning, let you learn useful, 20 minutes a day, unlock a communication trick.
When encountering leverage, use the "preconceived not the main" method to make the other party accept their own views;
When encountering people with malicious intentions, use the "shifting focus" method to gently shake back;
When encountering difficult people, use "teammate strategy" to essentially "crush" the other party;
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Make the future life richer and smarter
Fragmented time, learn at any time: before waiting for the car, queuing, before going to bed, you can click to open and watch. Encountering difficulties, finding the corresponding courses to learn, and using them out of the box, is your communication tips that you carry with you.
Help the workplace, improve the quality of life: make your workplace upgrade more practical, let the ordinary life have more fun and happiness moments, and improve the pattern of life.
Create a paradigm communication atmosphere for children: Parents are the child's first teachers, under the parents' ears, improve the child's emotional intelligence, and unconsciously make it instinctive to speak.
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