Welcome to study the 81 Lectures on the Declassification of the Tao Te Ching!
I have organized many scattered articles on the Tao Te Ching before, and this time, on the basis of these articles, I will make a ideological improvement and systematically talk about the Tao Te Ching. It allows everyone to learn it comprehensively and systematically.
I hope you can learn something, today's first lecture, please read.
In life, their own failures and mediocrity, the success and pride of others, put pressure on themselves all the time, let themselves live more and more tired, and feel more and more confused about the future. In the face of this situation, people can't help but sigh: "How can you make yourself not so tired?" ”
Many people think that they are tired because they have not gained enough, so the more tired they are, the more they have to work overtime, the more they have to make money, and the result is not only overdraft of their own bodies, but also more anxious and painful in their hearts. Most of the people on the news who suddenly fall down at work or suddenly collapse and cry are caused by this reason.
In fact, the reason why we are tired is not that we have not gained enough, and the laws of nature tell us that a thing sinks because it is too heavy. The same is true of our hearts, a person feels tired and confused because their own mental burden is too heavy.
Lao Tzu tells us in the Tao Te Ching: "Less is more, and more is confusing." When you feel confused, you must reduce the burden on the soul, subtract from life, and believe that your life will be very different.
01
Cutting out thoughts that are not beneficial to oneself is the best way to live
The 22nd chapter of the Tao Te Ching states: "Less is gained, and more is confused." That is to say, once a person asks more, he will be confused, and if he asks less, he will get it.
A group of graduate students once asked psychologists for advice: How do you explain that "troubles are all found by yourself"? The psychologist smiled and did not speak, but went into the room to get various cups and said, "Drink water first!" ”
When the graduate students had finished drinking the water, the psychologist replied head-on: "Have you found that you take longer to pick a cup than to drink water!" In fact, this is the common sentiment of people, everyone wants to take a better looking cup, but what we need is water, not a cup, and the quality of the cup does not affect the quality of the water. ”
Finally, the psychologist explains, "If you think about it, if we always, consciously or unconsciously, focus on trivial things like choosing a cup, troubles will come naturally." ”
The reason why many people are particularly tired in life is that they think too complicated, consider all aspects of things too much, always deliberately wary of others, or guess the voice and meaning of other people's words, such people actually live a particularly meaningless life.
There are many similar situations in life, for example: the boss may be more irritable today because of family problems, a little cold to himself, he feels that the boss wants to fire his own squid, the work is worried; earn tens of thousands of yuan, buy a car to open a very happy, and earn hundreds of thousands of mentality has changed, both want to buy a house and want to buy a car, but also worry about the decoration money is not enough, at night for this worry can not sleep ...
Thinking too much, I will have many complex and meaningless thoughts because of these trivial things, which will increase my troubles. The famous host Venus once said in a speech: "People are particularly prone to think too much, so as to make a thing or a problem complicated, in fact, there are not so many troubles in this world, it is important to learn to do subtraction." ”
In the short few decades of life, when we are about to die, we look back and find that we are worrying about some meaningless or non-existent problems every day in our lives, living so deliberately, and not feeling the joy of life at all, how unworthy is it?
Of course, sometimes it is not excluded that what you are worried about may be true, but as the saying goes: "It is a blessing not a curse, and it is a disaster that cannot be avoided." "It will always come, it is useless to worry about it, you may as well calm your mind, and when things come, we will find a way to solve it, and if we do not come, we will live our lives with peace of mind."
When we feel depressed, try to do subtraction. Like negative, anxious, worried, fearful, these thoughts are meaningless, all deleted.
If you can't control it and always think wildly, then find something to do, and when a person does things, there is no time to think wildly. For example, it is much more meaningful to go to dinner with friends, relax, or accompany your family and children than to think about it yourself.
02
Continuous focus on one point is a shortcut to success
The Tao Te Ching, Chapter 48, says, "Loss is also damage, so that there is no action, and nothing is done." ”
This sentence tells us that simplicity and simplicity, covenant and re-covenant, the "Word" is revealed. Lao Tzu believed that the process of seeking the "Tao" is a process of going away and surviving, and it is the most reasonable thing to have a big taste and a big coincidence.
Many people's road to success is very difficult, because whether it is a big thing or a small thing, they choose too much, and they don't know which one to choose, which is equivalent to no choice.
I used to know an entrepreneur, he came from the Internet industry, because he seized the rise of the Internet, the career has achieved initial success, but how to develop in the future? This boss has a lot of ideas, children's education platforms want to do, game platforms want to do, training platforms also want to do.
Later, because the investment in research and development was particularly large, the income was very low, and after a few years of insistence, the company could not support it and could only reduce the scale of the company, and all efforts became a floating cloud.
This kind of person is particularly many in life, especially in the entrepreneurial crowd, today feel that the Internet may develop well, he wants to do the Internet; tomorrow to see the clothing industry has made a profit, and then turn around to do clothing business.
This is similar to three days of fishing and two days of drying nets, without a long period of precipitation in an industry, without accumulating rich industry knowledge and experience, then it is difficult to stand out in it.
Throughout the ages, those who have succeeded have continued to focus on one point and achieved success, for example: Wang Xizhi has become a calligrapher by concentrating on practicing calligraphy, Xu Beihong has become a painter with one heart to paint horses, and Hua Luogeng has become a mathematician who has studied mathematics obsessively...
This is just as su Shi, a great literary scholar of the Song Dynasty, said: "Not one is more than Ru, but two is more than things", people must be single-minded in doing things, so as not to be swayed by sudden events.
If at some point in our lives we feel lost, don't know what to do, don't know how to succeed, then cut the complicated and simplify, and do one thing wholeheartedly.
For example, if you are determined to do the media industry, you devote yourself wholeheartedly to what you want to do every day, what you want to learn, get a planning book, and do it on time every day.
Or study calligraphy in your spare time, write a word or two every day when you go home, and learn about the allusions and knowledge of the calligraphy circle. If you are immersed in this, you will cultivate interest.
Interest is the best teacher, with interest can stimulate their own potential, but also to meet some like-minded friends, but also because of their own achievements at a certain stage and have a great sense of achievement, feel happy, so that they are no longer confused, will not feel tired.
In short, the pain and confusion of life often comes from the heart, and subtracting from your own heart is the true meaning of happiness. Finally, I wish everyone to be able to do things happily every day and live simply.
Author: Mr. Senmei
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