introduction
"Filial Piety • Kaizong Mingyi" pointed out: our body and hair are given by parents, the origin of life is derived from parents, so when we grow up, it is also our inevitable obligation to support and take care of our parents, so whether it is Confucianism or many dynasties in ancient times, they attach special importance to filial piety, in many eras, even if you are only eight buckets high and rich in five cars, but you are not filial piety, not only suffer moral condemnation, but also subject to legal sanctions.
During the Northern Qi period, the ten major felonies were clearly recorded in the law, and the Northern Qi Law recorded: rebellion, great rebellion, rebellion, surrender, evil rebellion, unrulyness, disrespect, filial piety, injustice, and civil strife all belong to these ten serious crimes, and the light ones are mainly minor punishments and indoctrination, if they are serious offenses, the serious ones will be beheaded on the street, and the ancient people's emphasis on filial piety does not only exist in the legal provisions, and the "Ding worry system" left over from the pre-Qin period is also a good proof.
In fact, the reason why people attach importance to filial piety is also because parents are the closest people in the world, there is an invisible bond between us called family affection, but the more this most primitive feeling, the easier it is to be ignored by people, there are many parents who like to make decisions for their children, but never consider whether the children will accept this decision, over time this relationship also appeared estrangement, there is such a story: a father went to the army to visit his son,
Say to the guard: Let your commander come out and see me!" However, the commander said: He did not know the old man in front of him! What kind of hidden plot is there in this?
Hu Zongnan (middle)
The military commander's name was Hu Zongnan, although The life of Hu Zongnan in his youth was not wonderful, but it was also plain and revealed some happiness, and his family atmosphere was relatively harmonious, but this harmony was soon broken by an arranged marriage, and his father found a marriage partner for him, and without his consent, he quietly set the date of the wedding.
The young Hu Zongnan has a very independent personality, he does not want his life to be interfered with by others, and the marriage that his father single-handedly manages is also something he cannot stand, so even in the face of his father, he also launched a vigorous resistance.
But at that time, he was a child after all, and what he said at home did not have much weight, in such a background he could only escape his father's control by running away from home, but he had nowhere to go when he was young, at this time the enrollment bulletin of the Whampoa Military Academy made him see hope, Hu Zongnan almost did not hesitate to fill out his own application, in addition to escaping from his father's control, he felt that defending the country was what a boy should do.
At that time, Hu Zongnan also successfully passed a series of examinations at the Whampoa Military Academy, began his military career, and after entering the Whampoa Military Academy, he was appreciated by Chiang Kai-shek with his outstanding performance and excellent achievements, and soon Hu Zongnan became his student, and after graduation, Chiang Kai-shek also included Hu Zongnan under his command, and Chiang Kai-shek was like Hu Zongnan's Bole, guiding him in the direction. During the period of working under Chiang Kai-shek, Hu Zongnan also learned a lot, and it also became his precious experience, he was like a piece of material born as a soldier, in the years after graduation, Hu Zongnan grew rapidly, and soon he was able to be independent.
At the same time, through his excellent military ability and good political ability, he was also well-known in the military camp, coupled with Chiang Kai-shek's appreciation and promotion, his promotion road was smooth, and he sat in the position of military commander at a young age. His fame is also gradually growing, often can see his name in the press, the people also recognize him, often talk about him, so Hu Zongnan's various deeds also spread to his father's ears, when Hu Zongnan has been away from home for many years, the family also missed him immensely, so Hu Zongnan's father also decided to personally go to the military camp to visit his son.
After all the rushing, Hu Zongnan's father finally came to the military camp where Hu Zongnan was located. But after all, the military camp belongs to the military center, and idle people are not allowed to approach and enter, so Hu Zongnan's father was stopped at the door of the military camp. At this time, Hu Zongnan's father also revealed his identity. He said to the soldiers standing guard, "I am the father of your Commander Hu." When the soldiers heard this, they immediately made a briefing, and at that time, Hu Zongnan's father was also full of expectations, after all, he was going to see his son who had not been seen for many years, but after Hu Zongnan heard the news that his father had come to the barracks, he was first stunned, and then he said to the guards next to him, "He doesn't know this old man at all," and did not go to meet him.
Hu Zongnan
In fact, Hu Zongnan knew that his old father had come to visit him from his hometown, but he had never been able to forget what his father had done before, which had also become a knot in his heart. Then Hudongnan disguised himself and came to the gate of the military region, he did not want others to see it, after seeing his father, Hu Zongnan took out some money and stuffed it into his father's pocket for noon, and told his father that he would never come to him again, nor should he talk to anyone about their relationship, Hu Zongnan's father never thought that the father and son would not meet again for many days, and he also deeply understood what he had done in the past, deeply hurt his son. So he didn't say anything and turned around and left, but there was no doubt that his heart was very painful.
epilogue
In fact, for Hu Zongnan and his father, there is no one right or wrong between the two of them, and each of them has something wrong with what they have done. The father's love is always silent, just like his father will choose to travel thousands of miles to see his son, but it is all kinds of obscure love that makes them too lack communication between them, and this is the source of the problem.
References: "Filial Piety, Kaizong Mingyi", "Northern Qi Law"