"Once in a lifetime and a couple" should be everyone's yearning for beautiful love! In different eras, there will always be some love stories that are worth reflecting on.
Today's people are yearning for free love, and those who love each other can grow old with their heads in vain and live a lifetime. But in that oppressive feudal society, the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers seem to be the beginning of a marriage.
The feudal concept of love has created a series of tragic marriages, making it difficult for many lovers to become dependents.
Arranged marriage tragedy
Perhaps everyone knows that Lu Xun's favorite person is Xu Guangping, but what is less known is that there is also an unknown woman in Lu Xun's life, which is his original match, Juan. She has no real name, and everyone seems to have forgotten her in the corner. Lu Xun and Juan were arranging wedding banquets, and although Juan was always taking care of Lu Xun in a meticulous manner, he was still unmoved.
Zhu An, born in a merchant family in Shaoxing, the Zhu family is rich, and zhu an is regarded as a pearl in the palm of the hand, but in that backward society, people are still bound by feudal ideas. From an early age, Juan had to stay in her boudoir to do embroidery work, and occasionally learned to cook with her mother.
In addition, she can't escape the thing that every woman has to go through, that is, foot binding. Because of the shackles of feudal thought, the Zhu family also made the cultivation of Zhu An a goal in life. So under the influence of these ideas, Juan gradually became accustomed to obedience and was gradually bound by rules and regulations.
Perhaps in the eyes of today's people, such a person who does not have his own independent thoughts has no shining point, but at that time, Zhu An, who followed the rules and regulations, won the love and favor of Lu Xun's mother.
Soon after, Lu Xun's mother personally went to the Zhu family to propose to her. At that time, Lu Xun was studying abroad, and he was unaware of this matter, and Lu Xun, who had already been baptized by advanced ideas, naturally would not agree, and when he knew it, he vigorously resisted.
It dragged on until Juan was almost thirty years old, and Lu Xun's mother forced Lu Xun to return on the grounds that she was ill, and the two finally got married. Because the two had different ideas and experiences, and the two lacked a common language, Lu Xun, after getting married, immediately packed up his bags and went to Japan alone.
Lonely, Juan began to spend her time alone in an empty house, becoming an elderly woman from a flower girl in the passage of time.
Free love
Because of some disputes between Lu Xun and his brother Zhou Zuoren, Lu Xun was expelled from his home, which was undoubtedly a kind of liberation for Lu Xun. It is precisely because of being driven out of the house that Lu Xun met his true love, rather than being forever bound to the old concept, and the person who made Lu Xun realize love was Xu Guangping.
Xu Guangping was born in a prominent family, because his father was enlightened, Xu Guangping did not experience foot binding like other girls when he was young. She can even be like a boy, learning official language, going to school, reading and doing what she likes to do. This is in stark contrast to Juan, who did not leave the door from the small gate.
In 1922, Xu Guangping was admitted to the National Beijing Women's Higher Normal School with his talents, and because he read the "Historical Outline of Chinese Novels" taught by Lu Xun, he had admiration for Lu Xun. Xu Guangping was a student of Lu Xun, and she would sit in the first row every time she was in class, leaving a deep impression on Lu Xun.
At that time, Xu Guangping's first letter to Lu Xun was written in the spirit of the student's respect for the teacher and the number of etiquette, but Lu Xun's reply was very interesting, he called Xu Guangping a brother of Guangping, and the correspondence between the two became more frequent.
On October 12, 1925, Xu Guangping published the article "Companion" under the pseudonym "Pinglin", expressing his love for Lu Xun and expressing his willingness to work together with Lu Xun. At that time, Lu Xun was already a person with a family and had more worries, but Xu Guangping did not care about these, she understood Lu Xun's situation, understood his difficulties, and was willing to advance and retreat with him.
After Lu Xun and Xu Guangping were together, the two seemed to cooperate tacitly and communicate with each other. Although Xu Guangping only accompanied Lu Xun for ten years before and after, for these things, Xu Guangping thought it was very worthwhile.
After Lu Xun's death, Xu Guangping still persistently guarded Lu Xun's writings and manuscripts, and worked hard to support his family. She knew him, knew what was most important to him, and their souls were so fit.
He has been alone in an empty house for 41 years
After Lu Xun went to Japan, Juan lived alone. In 1919, Juan finally waited for lu Xun's news, and the group went north. Because of the opposition of Lu Xun and Zhou Zuoren's brothers, they had to move out of the house. It was thought that the relationship between the two would be improved this time, but Lu Xun was still cold to Juan.
Because she had been married for many years, Juan had not given birth to an heir for the family, so she did not get too much care from Mrs. Zhou.
But Juan's love for Lu Xun has not diminished, once Lu Xun fell ill and wanted to eat the pastries of Daoxiang Village, Juan walked for a day with his wrapped feet in order to buy him cakes, and finally bought the pastries that Lu Xun wanted to eat.
I thought that the two would say a few more words, but I didn't expect Lu Xun to simply reply with a "good" word. Heartbroken that she was treated coldly by Juan.
After the arrival of Xu Guangping, the relationship between the two fell to the freezing point. Lu Xun moved out of the house, and there was really only Zhu An left in the family. When the two met again, Lu Xun returned with his son. But Juan said strongly, "Mr. Big's son is also her son." ”
In 1936, Lu Xun died late at night. After that, the lives of Zhu An and Mrs. Zhou were taken care of by Xu Guangping, but their lives were still poor, and many people admired Mr. Lu Xun and hoped to pay for Lu Xun's manuscripts.
At this time, Zhu An said a shocking sentence: "You always say that Lu Xun's relics should be preserved, and I am also Lu Xun's relics, and you must also save me!" This sentence later became a famous complaint, which shows that she still has a grudge against her husband.
brief summary:
Many people may lament that the lives of others are not timely, in such a feudal society, we have no right to choose our own lives, Juan chose to obey, and Lu Xun chose to resist.
We cannot delve into who is right and who is wrong, nor can we blame anyone. Because of the difference in the times, many love tragedies have been caused, and because they are accustomed to seeing these love tragedies staged, modern people seem to be more eager for a pure relationship.
I hope that we can all choose a city to end up old, meet a person with a white head, meet their own sweet love, free romance, two people three meals for four seasons, sweet happiness!