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Recently, the love variety show "Semi-Familiar Lovers" has been on the hot search.
Eight half-acquainted men and women of 30+ come to find their love through a month of cohabitation and interactive interaction.
As soon as the show opens, it is a WeChat chat method.
They don't know each other's real names or what they look like. Through this short web chat, we made a first impression of each other.
If you think about it, in reality, most of the love affairs also start from chatting.
After all, after having a good feeling, there will be follow-up development.
Interestingly, the guests of the show, Tang Yixin, Wang Ziwen and Wang Yanlin, are all career love double harvest, only Jing Tian is alone.
When Xie Nan asked her what her purpose was here, she said, "Learn about love." ”
Regarding love, she admitted frankly, "Now if you want to get off the list, you can only rely on the introduction of friends."
30+ singles is no longer a rare thing.
Beautiful women are also worried about marriage, not to mention the beauty of the entertainment industry.
But Jing Tian's concept of mate selection directly skips love, bluntly saying, "I hope that two people have a common hobby and go to have a thunderbolt child."
Originally, our impression of JingTian was "the rich flower in the world"! How can the criteria for finding objects be low.
But I didn't expect that Jing Tian was so grounded.
But this ... "thunderbolt" child, netizens said that it is really the first time to hear.
For most people, how not to pursue a three-way consistency, spiritual resonance and so on.
Until now, everyone has a certain understanding of these eight half-acquaintance men and women.
At this time, Xie Nan raised a question:
"They all look great, but they're still single, why is that?"
Not only variety shows, it seems that in real life, there are often excellent people who are single.
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There is no way to get out of the inherent circle of friends and meet new people.
This seems to be the dilemma faced by semi-mature men and women in the current stage of 30+.
When you're young, it's easy to get to know someone.
Going to and from class together, playing games together, writing homework together, going to the cafeteria together...
In two or three days, we will be able to get to know a lot of people.
Growing up now, it's hard for us to know someone.
Busy work every day, very tired people, very little time to rest, even if there is the heart to make new friends.
We are all on the run for our future lives, and work is the only way to socialize.
Such an exchange cannot be said to be affectionate, nor can it be said to be a friendship.
Therefore, only the rising wage can give some psychological comfort.
The flags that are set up every year have also changed from getting off orders to getting rich, making money, and raising wages.
As for those who urge marriage, those who urge blind dates, those who urge friends...
Most of them should say "good good good", and then bury their heads in the work and forget about it.
Now there is a very strange phenomenon:
Women are demanding more and more of themselves.
Often it is no longer their goal to find a partner to marry, but how to do their career better and make themselves more excellent.
For them, it is much easier to make money than to find a partner.
Eliminate unnecessary socializing and don't want to spend time and money on love.
If the ego is abundant enough, why find someone to add to the chaos?
Why not fall in love after 30+?
Tang Yixin talked about his friends around him, saying: "When they talk about love, they directly talk about the problem of marriage, feel that there is a state of fear of marriage, and simply fall in love. ”
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There is a type of single called "stubborn" singleness.
You go and look at the people who shout every day for someone.
He shouted to find an object, but never took the initiative to attack, or even came to catch one by one.
There are many similar passages on the Internet, revealing this reality in the funny.
Two years ago, I entered a group chat, most of them are rushing to find objects, and the group owner is also on Weibo to help everyone post profile information, which is convenient for everyone to understand.
When the message is sent, people tend to be more positive.
Especially the conditions are good, everyone has left messages, "this is good", "all let go, let me come", "book, book!" ", and so on. There are even people who directly comment on their personal information.
But in reality, the probability of success is minimal.
Why?
The positivity of the comments is in great contrast with the actions of the self, and there is a posture of imminent attack below the comments, and there are very few real actions.
When the key time comes, it is instigated.
Thus, the "mouth hi type" player was born.
Strictly speaking, this can not actually be called instigation, it is lazy to take the initiative.
Take the initiative to go to more trouble, in their "comfort zone", insurance and comfortable, the sky and then fall down a Lin sister is good.
In fact, I believe that everyone really wants to find someone. But the main thing is not particularly liked, and I am too lazy to pursue.
Over time, this dating group has become a base for everyone to pass away loneliness when they are bored.
You can chat, you can be ambiguous, you just don't fall in love.
Later, after two years, I went to see that group again.
The people who chatted were still the same people who used to be, still shouting, "I'm looking for someone, I'm going to get married next year."
Next year after next year, next year so much...
In "Half-Acquainted Lovers", Lola said a sentence: "Everyone likes you, but everyone will not love you." ”
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A good partner is actually a good psychiatrist.
The TV series "Perfect Partner" found 5 couples and came to a confession game.
30+ of them, and the year of the establishment, it is rare to have an in-depth conversation.
Every 30+ half-mature men and women come to the present, and there are more or less mutilations and uneasiness in their hearts.
Both men and women want each other to give each other a sense of security.
And the partner who can really go to the end must be able to accept all the negative emotions of the other party, and can also give each other the courage to face the world.
There's a question on the show, "What's the one thing you most want to say to me?"
I was touched by two people's answers:
"Three words, there is me", "Whatever happens, there is me".
"I can't live without you", "I can't live without you".
After weathering the wind and rain, I can still rely on each other, and in the most vulnerable and helpless time, I still have you.
As the newly married Wang Yanlin said:
"It's not right for her to marry anyone, and it's wrong for me to marry anyone."
That's probably the right person.
Gao Yuanyuan said: "The perfect partner in my mind is the person who can help you and soothe all the negative emotions in your heart, the person who can be each other's psychologists." ”
If you can really meet this person, who wants to be single!
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