Author: Zhang Jianyun
I began to study family style when my son was in high school and my daughter was in junior high school. After a few years, there were two major gains, one was to understand the importance of home style, and the second was to understand the necessity of establishing one's own home style. From formulating family rules and refining family training to holding family meetings and then to daily reflection.
I seemed to have become the public enemy of the family, and my wife and children had one heart, but they excluded me. They even resisted me with the hint of "where there is oppression, there is resistance."
No one asked, stumbling to the present. Seeing that the problem is solved, solving the problem is again, either solving the problem or preparing to solve the problem, feeling that you are coming to solve the problem.
After my defense, coupled with the face that people gave me, after a few years, everything was fine. However, the problem is again: the new crown virus has caused home isolation, and family reunions have been indefinite since the Spring Festival. At first, I felt that there was some danger in the good, and then the "late new crown" was the danger in the good. Everyone seems tired and wants to go to school early, to work, to get rid of the worries of being trapped and constrained.
In this way, adults and children do not want to abide by the rules, take the mobile phone into the bedroom, read the book perfunctorily, the expression is not lukewarm, and occasionally some words do not match. It's "home isolation syndrome" that doesn't just happen in my home.
This is a crucial time, if you no longer ask for it, let it indulge, it will be a failure; if you continue to demand, strong medicine to cure the disease, it is possible to break the can and fall, back to the original shape. The fourth (June Fourth) of the I Ching Shi Gua says: Shi Zuo is secondary, and there is no blame.
As we have said, division is war, education, or management. In ancient times, the left was precious in war, and the right was precious in politics and civil affairs. The so-called "left subordinate" means inferior to the left. In the middle of the fourth position of this gua, the middle process once again reminds us to abide by discipline and not forget the laws and regulations, which is the key key, as long as the rules are chaotic, the world is in chaos!
In the epidemic home isolation, there will be some fatigue and drowsiness, but everyone should look forward, tomorrow, next month, next year, the next ten years, twenty years, the second half of life, all need to start from the current rules, can not be abandoned, can not slacken off, everyone is happy!
Confucius also said: "Left times are not to blame", not abnormal also.
No blame, that is, don't touch the rules, don't knowingly commit crimes. If there is always reverence in the heart, it will be safe. Any kind of incurable and regretful late is from "careless" and "inattentive" to "unforgivable".
Although the rules are small, they reflect life. The family is not big, loaded with heaven and earth. What it looks like at home is what it looks like in society. What it looks like now, what the future will look like. No one should put their expectations on the next stop!
Let's talk about the next one (65): There are birds in the field. Profit is upheld, no blame. The eldest son, Shuai shi, the disciple of the corpse, the virgin.
The position of this one is obviously not quite right. The fifth is supposed to be yang, and here it is yin, which is the yin and yang position. And here is the highest position, and the most brilliant stage of life. At this moment, there may be gossip, contradictions, and small setbacks, just like some chickens, ducks, geese, pigs, sheep, horses, and cows appear in the field. But these are poultry, not beasts, and there is no need to be fussy or worried. That is: the field has birds.
This time should be discussed with the family, with the people around you, with the unit, with the subordinates, listen to their opinions and suggestions, be humble, open up the way of speech, and recruit the virtuous, and the contradictions and troubles will naturally be solved. This is: profit is the word, no blame.
This time is the most afraid of the impulsiveness of the mind, desperate, making a big fuss, and treating small things as big things. The "eldest son, the marshal", explained that the main labor force of the family, the capable general of the unit, and the main leader of the unit should be paraded out to fight and see the battle. This trigram, this one is a warning, there is no need to make a big move, when the weight is lifted, the big thing is small, and the small thing is normal.
As mentioned in the previous article, the corpse is not the meaning of the corpse, but the young grandchildren of the family disguised as the gods who are sacrificed in the family, and the gods who are bowed down by their fathers, grandfathers, and all the family members are actually a "living dead".
Teenage Dezhi is a peril. Such a child is easily infected with pride and arrogance, and like the "eldest son and handsome master", in essence, if the heart is not good and the upbringing is not good, it is not an auspicious image.
Confucius gave the solution: "the eldest son Shuai Shi", to the Middle Bank also; "disciple public opinion corpse", so that improper also.
What does it mean?
At this moment, we must not rush to solve problems, we must not be angry, we must not be paranoid and decisive, and we must take the middle way. And "disciple corpse", now is really not the time, or wait for the child to grow up a little more to plan another way!
Sixth (Upper Sixth) Words: The Maharaja has a destiny, the founding of the country inherits the family, and the villain does not use it.
What is a "Maharajah"?
A gentleman who strives to govern and has a lofty ideal in his heart. The same is true of countries, units, families, and parties, not in size, but in whether there is a great talent for self-improvement and striving to be strong. Fate is a specific goal, a place to be achieved. It's time to walk with a lot of like-minded people. This is: the founding of the country to inherit the family.
On, is the beginning, opens. Multiplication is inheritance, is inheritance. Regardless of the country of home, we must move forward in a good start. If you quarrel as soon as you get married, if you fight a lawsuit as soon as the company is established, and if your child beats up his classmates on the first day of school, you need to think carefully and adjust quickly, otherwise it will end in tragedy. Obviously, it's the parents who are having problems, it's the leaders who are having problems. Besides what's the problem?
Selfishness, narrow-mindedness, laziness, slackness, and unruliness are many problems, which are "villain thinking". Zi Yue: The beauty of a gentleman's adulthood, the villain's opposite. When carefully reflecting, are you taking too much care of yourself, satisfying yourself and ignoring others?
Why do we "make mistakes"?
Because you have the "villain thinking" yourself, you use the villain, make friends with the villain, love the villain, and walk with the villain, and you are the villain. Be careful: don't use it for villains.
Confucius said, "The Maharaja has a destiny," and he did it with righteousness. "Don't use the little man", it will be chaotic.
To do the right thing is to do the right thing.
What's the point?
1. Do not violate the law, do not violate family rules, and do not violate morality;
2. It is beneficial to oneself, beneficial to one's family, and beneficial to society and the motherland.
Use the "three haves" and "three benefits" to compare yourself, whether you are "righteous"?
A chaotic state is a chaotic family, a chaotic society, and a chaotic motherland. The premise is confusion. If a person's direction is wrong, it will be wrong again and again, and mistakes will be added to mistakes, and it will become a big mistake.
In the mileage of human life, the "four checks" are not forgotten at all times:
1. What do you start for;
2, the mission in the heart has not been worn down by the years;
3. Whether you have harmed others and satisfied yourself;
4, there is no "villain thinking" and walking with villains.
We will surely reach the other side of happiness.
The original text interpreted today is:
1. "I Ching, Shi Gua":
The fourth (June Fourth) of the fourth (June Fourth) says: Division left second, no blame.
Fifth (Sixth Five): There are birds in the field. Profit is upheld, no blame. The eldest son, Shuai shi, the disciple of the corpse, the virgin.
2. "I Ching, Xiang Chuan, Shi Gua":
"Left times without blame", not abnormal also.
"Eldest Son ShuaiShi", to the Middle Line also; "Disciple Public Opinion Corpse", make improper also.
"The Maharaja has a destiny", and to do the right thing. "Don't use the little man", it will be chaotic.
About the Author
Zhang Jianyun
Writer, scholar, member of the All-China Women's Federation Family Building Expert Think Tank, member of the China Writers Association.
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