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Chinese society is essentially a relational society linked by "human feelings". The social networks of all people, human relations, kinship, make up a huge network of social relationships.
In "human feelings", there is a feeling that is closely related to us, that is, "family affection".
From the traditional concept, as long as you have a certain blood relationship with him, or there is a marriage and relative interests of the exchange, then both sides can be called "relatives".
Since ancient times, it is the nature of attaching importance to family affection that is engraved in our hearts.
As long as others say he is your relative, you will immediately feel intimate. What does this mean? It can only show that the influence of "kinship" is enormous.
However, with the development of the information society and the gradual optimization of material conditions, there is now such a situation - the problem of "hating relatives".
What is "haters"? That is, relatives hate each other, you look down on me, I also hate you, worse than outsiders. This is the obstacle to the development of the current "family relationship".
It was thought that people would recognize the problem and correct it. As everyone knows, modern people have actually accepted the behavior of "hating relatives", so that the current family affection has gradually bred a huge contradiction.
It can be said that the phenomenon of hatred of relatives will eventually become a trend in the future, and the key reasons are these 4 points.
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Reason one: The problem of hating relatives is prominent, which is related to "material interests".
Interacting with outsiders and talking about some interests between the two sides is actually not a big problem. Because there is no kinship between the two sides, there is no need to make too many concessions.
However, when dealing with relatives, especially with relatives, once there is a relationship of interest between the two sides, it is a big problem. Because interests will make "loved ones" become "enemies".
Whenever we talk about "interests," we think of these ideas.
What is "no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, and there is no virtuous wife in the long-poor family", what "husband and wife are originally birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when great trouble is imminent", and what "brothers, clear accounting".
These three situations are emerging in today's life. As long as there is a problem of interest between relatives, the so-called feelings will be left behind, and the so-called blood relations will be ignored.
The richer the material, the more impatient the human heart. The essence of impatience is to sever the feelings between relatives and make the problem of hatred of relatives a trend.
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Reason two: the problem of hating relatives is prominent, which is related to "changes in concepts".
Why did people in the past advocate "family affection"? Two key psychology.
First, they value traditional kinship. This kind of attention is not a verbal importance, but an emphasis on words and deeds. Even when they are old, they will take the traditional kinship to heart.
Second, they believe that relatives need to help each other. This kind of "mutual help and mutual assistance" mentality, in the closed small peasant society in the past, basically belongs to the trend of "the general trend".
However, when the times have developed to this day, traditional concepts have gradually been abandoned. As long as you talk about the word "traditional", young people or middle-aged people will throw contemptuous glances at you.
This is an era of abandonment of tradition, even hatred of tradition. No one can change this. Because "ideas" are not formed overnight, but are the result of accumulation and qualitative change over the years.
Today's people advocate the concept of freedom and solitude, advocating a life that is unrestrained and unfettered by family affection. In this way, the severance of relatives will become the norm, and the hatred of relatives will become a reality.
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Reason three: the problem of hating relatives is prominent, which is related to the "fast-paced" life.
On the Internet, as long as we talk about relatives, I believe we will complain, not that relatives are not good here, or that relatives are not right there, as if they do not have any advantages.
Is such behavior just normal? It is normal to say that it is normal, and it is also abnormal to say that it is not normal.
The normal thing is that today's relatives have a "bad look" mentality, so they are hated by people, and even resented by people, which is also a common sentiment of people.
The abnormality is that the family affection of twenty years ago is still relatively normal, but how can the affection of twenty years later become so "precarious"? Everything is worth thinking about.
Perhaps, this is closely related to the fast-paced life.
Some writers believe that this is an era of emotional indifference and spiritual poverty. Most people wear the cloak of morality to occupy the commanding heights, but behind them are doing heinous things.
It can be said that behind the fast pace is the beginning of the degeneration of human nature, and it is also the root cause of the problem of family affection.
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Reason four: the popularity of the technology network has severed the kinship.
Someone has summarized the three major habits of modern people.
When you want to eat, you are used to lying in bed and ordering takeaway, and it is best that the takeaway brother can deliver it to the bedside.
When you want to socialize, you are used to finding friends on the Internet, anyway, how convenient and how to come.
When you want to cultivate feelings, you are used to talking about life through WeChat, and the circle of friends has become a petri dish for feelings anyway.
Just think, can the cultivation of family affection really be cultivated quickly through the Network? Absolutely not.
When family affection is ignored, there is no relationship in normal times, and there are contradictions between people, doesn't the phenomenon of hatred of relatives appear?
When we are used to online chat, and abandon the social habit of getting along offline, isn't the problem of breaking off relatives prominent?
Modern people, stressful, love convenience, seek freedom, hate tradition. In this way, all kinships will be problematic.
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