"The dead are big", in China, funeral culture has a long history, and it also covers the ideas of the three major sects of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism, and the way of burial is in addition to the commonly seen burial and cremation, as well as hanging coffin burial, tree burial, cliff burial and so on.
Funeral observance is considered to be an act of filial piety, and the "Ceremonial And Mournful Dress" says that the three-year mourning period of the son is the parent, the wife is the husband, and the subject is the king, and in addition, in the "Book of Rites", specific standards are made for the three-year mourning period in terms of appearance, body, voice, speech, diet, clothing and other mourning behavior.
In ancient times, scholars paid special attention to etiquette, and then spread to the people, but in later generations it seemed to be red tape, and the ancient funeral system included the burial system, the funeral system and the funeral dress system.
Among them, the funeral system refers to the system of various ceremonies related to the funeral of the deceased, the holding of funerals, and the funeral sacrifice, such as three days of moratorium, and relatives must keep vigil; in addition, from the day of the deceased's throat, every 7 days is one "seven", "seven seven", filial piety does not cut hair, does not trim the face.
"Lifting the coffin" means that the coffin is carried away from the bereaved family or the ground, out of the funeral into the ground, and when the coffin is lifted, it is to "drop the basin", why is this? It is not superstition, there is a deep meaning behind it.
The meaning of "wrestling basin" is "years (broken) peace", the more broken the better, and this "basin" is also called "yin and yang basin, mourning basin", the basin is usually about 4 inches in diameter, more than 1 inch deep, and there is a round hole in the middle, tile.
In addition, the "wrestling pot" is also exquisite, by the eldest son in the family, if the eldest son is not there, let the eldest son and eldest grandson fall, there is no firstborn and no eldest son, then let the second son fall. If the second son is also absent, he will fall in the order of the eldest and youngest sons of the other sons, the order of concubines, and the first daughter or grandson of the childless.
If the deceased is childless and childless, then he is thrown by the closest cousin of the same surname, but the person is required to be unmarried, and if he is married, then he is thrown by the cousin of the unmarried relative.
According to the old practice, the wrestler can inherit most of the deceased's family property, so why let the unmarried cousin fall? This is because the married cousin also has to inherit the family lineage, and if he inherits the family property of the deceased, he must fulfill the obligation of being the "son" of someone else.
However, when money is involved, it will cause many contradictions, so there are rules for the childless and childless deceased, which cousin and nephew to fall, to be unmarried, and in the order of the eldest and youngest, but if they have children and daughters, there is no emphasis on marriage or marriage.
What's more, in ancient times, people cared about the reputation of "filial piety", if the married person's cousin still went to the deceased to throw the pot, it meant that he could not inherit the family lineage, equivalent to the son of the deceased, or had to fulfill filial piety. However, this person is afraid that he will be overwhelmed by the spit of the people around him, so few people will do so.
It is worth mentioning that there is also a story behind the "falling pot", in the Spring and Autumn Period, there was a person named Fan Li, who helped the Yue King to destroy the State of Wu, and then retreated from the rapids, became a businessman, and became the richest man at that time, and also scattered the family wealth, a proper winner in life.
However, Fan Li also has his own regrets, that is, in his old age, he did not have an heir, so in the face of a huge inheritance, Fan Li had some difficulties, so he went to consult his friends, some people said that they could dedicate it to the monarch, but Fan Li was not satisfied with the current monarch, so he vetoed.
Some people also proposed that they be used as funerary objects, and Fan Li went down to the ground with them after his death, but Fan Li was still not satisfied with this proposal, thinking that it was a waste. At this time, Fan Li's friends were also in trouble, but a young man next to him said, it is better to throw away the property, because there is no other way, Fan Li will follow the young man's method.
After Fan Li's death, the young man threw down his property, and the property that was not dropped was inherited by the young man, but the young man had to guard the funeral for Fan Li, and he had to sweep the tomb every year, so the custom of "falling pot" was passed down.
However, nowadays, cremation has gradually replaced earth burial, many funeral etiquette has gradually disappeared, and some places no longer have the custom of "throwing pots", but no matter what, the deceased has passed away, as a relative of the deceased, he will still remember him, and it is a way to remember him every year to sweep the grave and worship it.