When I was a child, I witnessed many quarrels between husband and wife, my wife was angry and returned to her mother's house, and her husband went to her mother-in-law's house to pick up her wife. At that time, I thought, "When I grow up and marry a wife, I will marry a girl from a neighboring village." In case of a quarrel in the future, it is more convenient to go to the mother-in-law's house to pick up the wife. ”
Later, my wife's mother's house was really close to my home, less than a kilometer away, and I could go to my mother-in-law's house to rub rice and eat. Although I was ready to go to my mother-in-law's house to pick up my wife, this skill has not come in handy for seventeen years of marriage. The reason is very simple, humble Jing Xianhui, belongs to the bedside quarrel and bedside and tail character, never because of the husband and wife quarrel to return to the mother's house.
One of my classmates, arguing with his wife, said something quickly: "Roll, I see you annoyed!" ”
His wife also simply went back to her mother's house. My friend regretted it, wanted to pick up his wife, and felt faceless. I told him an allusion recorded in the New Book of Tang and asked him to think carefully about whether he wanted face or wife. I wrote this allusion into a post today and uploaded it to the Internet to share with you.
First of all, let's talk about the protagonist of today's story, the male name is Li Longji, who is the famous Tang Xuanzong. The woman's name is Yang Yuhuan, which is the famous Yang Guifei. Tang Xuanzong gave Yang Guifei three thousand favors, and Yang Guifei was inevitably pampered and proud. According to the New Book of Tang, Yang Guifei and Tang Xuanzong did not know what to do with each other. The couple didn't have a good word to talk about, so Tang Xuanzong asked Yang Guifei to go back to her mother's house.
The picture shows the film and television image of Tang Xuanzong
At that time, Yang Guifei's parents were gone. She wanted to go back to her mother's house, and she could only go back to her cousin Yang Hao's house. After Yang Guifei was driven back to her mother's house by Tang Xuanzong, the people of the Yang family felt very panicked. Everyone should know that Tang Xuanzong was in charge of life and death and seizing power. If Tang Xuanzong was not happy, the Yang family might even invite the disaster of killing themselves. (This matter canonizes the Words of the New Book of Tang: "On the day of it, the concubine returns the throne with reprimand")
The Yang family's life was not good, and Tang Xuanzong's life was also difficult. The New Book of Tang records that after Tang Xuanzong drove away Yang Yuhuan, he did not think about tea and dinner. The people around him saw that it was noon, and Tang Xuanzong still refused to eat, so he advised Tang Xuanzong to take care of the dragon's body and eat some food. As soon as Tang Xuanzong's stomach was burning, he grabbed the unfortunate left and right and beat him violently. (Concubines are reprehensible, than zhong, the emperor is not yet eating, and the flogging is around.) ）
Husband and wife quarrel, the wife returned to the mother's house, at this time, the people around them played a very critical role. If the people around you stir up trouble, things will become more and more noisy, and may even make the relationship between husband and wife disappear. If the people around you come out with good words and persuasion, let the husband be appropriately soft, and say a few good words, you can turn big things into small things and small things.
The picture shows the film and television image of Yang Guifei
Tang Xuanzong had a person who was good at persuasion, and this person was Gao Lishi. Gao Lishi said to Tang Xuanzong: "Your Majesty misses the noble concubine Niangniang, so much so that the tea and rice do not think." Why isn't this the case at this moment? Since His Majesty could not eat the imperial meal, why not divide the imperial meal in half and send it to the Yang family for the noble concubines to eat? ”
When Tang Xuanzong heard it, he felt that it made sense. Emperor Xuanzong of Tang issued an edict and gave more than a hundred carts of wine and food utensils to Yang Guifei's residence. When the Yang family saw the reward of the Son of Heaven, the hanging heart finally landed. When Gao Lishi saw that the time was ripe, he asked Tang Xuanzong to issue an edict and summon Yang Guifei back to the palace.
Tang Xuanzong was the son of heaven, and he did not hesitate to pull down his face and give his beloved woman a step down. Yang Guifei was also very interesting and slipped back to Tang Xuanzong's side. When Yang Guifei saw that Tang Xuanzong had given herself a step down, she also quickly apologized and gave Tang Xuanzong a step down. The husband and wife are reconciled, and the love is better than before. (Yes, please summon the concubine back, and the next key Anxingfang gate rushed in.) Concubines see the emperor, Voldeech, the emperor is relieved, and Fu Wei Liangwu is good. ）
I said this today, and finally A summary. Husband and wife quarrel, it is inevitable that there is no good word, if the husband returns to his wife's house, as long as you still want to continue to live with her, you should give your wife a step down and go to pick up your wife back. If you feel that you have no face, you may wish to think: "Tang Xuanzong can give the beloved woman a step down, why can't you, is your face more important than Tang Xuanzong's face?" ”
The picture shows the image of Colliers film and television
When encountering this kind of thing, the people around them should learn from GaoLishi, try to persuade and not dissuade, and do not stir up the wind and ignite the fire. Originally, it was a very small thing, and if it fanned the flames, it could become an uncontrollable event. When the time comes, the man who listens to you may resent you.
When my wife encounters this kind of thing, it is best to learn from my wife, who quarrels at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. If you are really angry, go back to your mother's house. As long as you still want to live with your husband, don't be too arrogant. The husband came to pick it up, gave each other a step, and almost got it. You may wish to think: "Yang Guifei, one of the four beauties, can give her husband a step down, why can't you?" ”
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