Text/Wood Ye
01
The whole "Snail House" is a history of ordinary people buying a house.
In order to buy a house, Haiping almost got into a divorce with Su Chun.
Saying that the parents of both sides sponsored tens of thousands of dollars, Su Chun agreed with his mouth, but he could not open his mouth with his parents, and finally went to borrow a usurious loan.
After seaweed knew, he ran home to turn over Xiaobei's passbook, wanting to take the sixty thousand yuan saved by Xiaobei to help his brother-in-law pay off his debts.
Xiao Bei did not want to borrow at all, not only angry at the seaweed, but also scolded the seaweed to buy a house is vain, such a vain woman, not worth helping!
Is Haiping really buying a house because of vanity?
When you watch this drama when you are young, you may really think so, and you will be like several men in the play, thinking that Haiping just has nothing to do, too vain, and I don't know how much ability to do how big things?
Nowadays, when people reach middle age and have experienced the polishing of life, they will only feel that Haiping's decision to buy a house is right!
Without a room, the child can only be placed in the hometown, and he cannot meet several times a year, and the child is not close to the mother when he meets.
Without a house, children cannot go to school in the city, so are parents separated from their children for the rest of their lives?
Moreover, the house price is rising vigorously, today's optimistic house, tomorrow others will snatch it away, the newly opened disk, waiting for their own, has long been gone.
On the one hand, you can't be reunited with your children without a house, and on the other hand, the house is soaring, and if you hesitate for a few days, you may really can't afford to buy it.
In this case, who can hold on and not buy it?
It can be said that what you don't buy is irresponsible. Su Chun didn't want to buy it, because he had never considered whether to reunite with his children or let his children go to school.
Besides, who buys a house and doesn't empty six wallets and borrow money everywhere? On their own savings, they simply can't beat the increase in house prices.
Moreover, with the income of Su Chun and Haiping, repaying the loan is not a problem, in this case, do not buy a house still waiting for the New Year?
Little Bethsing worked hard to save money and was also ready to buy a house and get married. He also knew that when he got married, he had to have a house, so that adults could live more comfortably, children could stay around, and they could go to school smoothly.
Since Haiping's purchase of a house is just needed, Xiaobei also knows that the house is an essential asset for a family, why did he learn to scold Haiping for vanity?
02
The first reason is that Xiaobei does not want to spend money on seaweed at all, but he still has to cover it up, otherwise how can he talk about love? What will others think of themselves?
Xiaobei and seaweed are in love, basically belonging to sweet talk continuously, but real money and silver can not be spent without spending.
He had never sent seaweed flowers, nor would he take her to a candlelit dinner, usually playing the game of stairwell walking, which did not cost money.
Seaweed explicitly proposed to watch a movie, but Xiaobei proposed to buy a dish to go home to watch, because the money for the two of them to watch the movie was enough to buy a day's food.
These can also be understood as small shells, different consumption concepts, after all, people have to save money to buy a house.
But what is puzzling is that he is obviously unwilling to spend money, but he wants to show a "my money is yours" posture in front of seaweed.
He said to seaweed more than once, seaweed I love you.
The seaweed didn't think much of it, so they joked with him: Can you lend me your 60,000 yuan?
Xiao Bei's face suddenly became difficult to see, staring at the seaweed, and then knelt on the ground and smiled and said: Say what to borrow, my money is all yours, as long as you have the need, I am willing to kneel and give all the money.
What a typical way to say one set and do one set.
In fact, he took his own money very tightly, and seaweed wanted to borrow money several times and three times, and he blocked it back for various reasons.
As analyzed before, Xiaobei did not borrow money and did not do anything wrong, but if he did not borrow it, he did not borrow it, why did he not pull out a dime, while also making seaweed feel that his money could be used at will.
If it weren't for his words, seaweed wouldn't have gone straight to his passbook.
Therefore, Xiao Bei's real psychology is very easy to understand, he is not willing to spend money on seaweed, but he does not want to show it, otherwise seaweed must not leave him.
Now that it has reached the point where it has to be spent, what to do?
Then scold Haiping for being vain and blame all the faults on Haiping. It's not that I don't lend money to your sister, it's that your sister is not a person who does personnel, and I can't pay for her vanity.
Successfully shifted focus.
Seaweed is not good to say anything more, people say that the sister is vain, do not agree with the sister to buy a house, how can you borrow money, do not borrow is also reasonable.
03
The second reason, Xiaobei wants to PUA seaweed, so that she identifies with her own values and consumption concepts.
In the matter of Haiping buying a house, Seaweed actually agrees, otherwise she would not have opened her mouth to borrow money from Xiaobei.
Only women know best how important a house is to the family.
But the two men had always been against it. For the matter of buying a house, Su Chun has not been enthusiastic, and has also tried to persuade Haiping to give up, if it were not for Haiping's insistence, she might not really be able to buy it.
Not to mention, Xiao Bei has been blowing pillow wind in front of seaweed, saying that her sister should not buy a house.
In fact?
Doesn't Su Chun want to live in a big house? Later, he took over the room, but he was as happy as Haiping.
He just didn't want to bother, didn't want to ask his parents for money. Since the ability is not up to it, then persuade the wife to give up.
It's just that women who are married and polished by life have their own persistence and will not give up easily because men oppose it.
Su Chun borrowed a usurious loan because he bought a house, and when Haiping divorced him, Xiao Bei complained that he did not know how to coax women as soon as she saw Su Chun.
Su Chun told him that the woman who entered the marriage had awakened, and it was not simply coaxed.
Xiao Bei did not believe it, and proudly praised the seaweed: fortunately, our seaweed is OK, she does not care whether it is renting a house or buying a house.
Su Chun coldly replied, your seaweed is not without ideas, but her self-awareness has not yet expanded, and the day she wakes up, my today is your tomorrow.
This conversation is particularly informative. At least two points.
First, Xiao Bei's concept of love is over. As long as it is well coaxed, nothing cannot be done.
The second is that both men want their wives to agree with their own values and consumption concepts, and if they do not agree, they will scold them for vanity until they agree. Otherwise, I will be very miserable.
This is probably why Su Chun and Xiao Bei are not pleasing in the play, under their background, Song Siming's scum has become more attractive.
In fact, Su Chun and Xiao Bei represent a large part of men, they know that some of the requirements of women are reasonable, but they are not able to meet, or are unwilling to meet, so they allude to women, your request is unreasonable, you just love to compare, you are too vain, you just don't love me!
Then, some women begin to wonder if they are wrong. Being brainwashed like this for a long time, you may really feel that you are wrong later.
This trick has not worked for Haiping, because the matter of buying a house is too rigid, and she cannot easily shake it.
But this trick is still useful for seaweed, seaweed this person, has been confused, XiaoBei said what to believe.
Xiaobei did not want to go out to eat and did not want to go to the movies, although she was unhappy, she also accepted, and felt that Xiaobei was to save money to buy a house.
Now, Xiao Bei said that Hai Ping was vain, and she would most likely believe it, so Xiao Bei did not borrow money, she did not have any resentment, like no one else, and she was sticky together.
I have to say that Xiaobei put the PUA seaweed set and played very slippery.
In this world, there are many people like XiaoBei who are chicken thieves, who know that they are small, but also scold others for worshiping gold, obviously they are unfaithful, they also scold others for being unqualified, they obviously do not want to spend a penny, and they have to say how much they love each other.
Although seaweed chose Song Siming unwisely, leaving Xiaobei was definitely a good thing.
Simple and kind girls, don't fight with chicken thieves, it is easy to be brainwashed.