There is a saying circulating on the Internet: "Liking a person begins with appearance, respect for talent, fit in character, long than kindness, and finally character." ”
If you like a person just because of your appearance, then your appearance is easy to grow old, and you will definitely be separated in the future, but if you like a person because of a person's character, you will appreciate him more and more in the future, and like him more.
In life, people who have good character are the ones who have real capital. Having a good character is a person's most precious thing, it is called a person's true highest education, is a person's business card. Good character is the premise of others willing to make friends with you, it is a convincing possibility, and it is a must for achieving great things.
In fact, people with good character have the following 4 advantages, if you meet please make friends for a lifetime.
01
tolerance
In the story of "General Xianghe", Lin Xiangru was given the title of Shangqing because he would protect King Zhao from being insulted by the King of Qin. The veteran general Lian Po thought that Lin Xiangru only had the ability to speak but was above him, and his heart was very dissatisfied.
After Lin Xiangru knew about this, he tried not to see him. Later, Lian Po learned that Lin Xiangru put the overall situation of the country first, and asked Lin Xiangru to bear the guilt of Jing.
It was Lin Xiangru's tolerant heart that made Lian Po sigh from his previous disbelief to his later admiration. It can be seen that tolerance is a person's merit and also represents a person's character.
In life, we will always experience many stumbles, if you are calculating every time, not only make yourself exhausted, but also let others no longer want to approach you, you have broken your own way.
As the old saying goes, "The sea is full of rivers, and there is tolerance is great." Tolerance is the release of others and a kind of kindness to oneself. Tolerance is a traditional virtue, so the story of Zhang Ying university scholar and his neighbor "Six Foot Alley" has been passed down to this day and is praised by everyone.
In today's society, people are easy to be irritable, it is inevitable to have friction and misunderstanding with others, if neither side knows how to be humble, then it will cause many tragedies.
And a person with a tolerant heart, does not think about anything, always does not argue. Because they know how to do everything, they are troubled everywhere, and happiness disappears without a trace. As long as you have a tolerant heart, happiness will naturally come.
There is a tolerant person around, everyone will feel comfortable and casual when they get along together, and they must cherish it when they meet.
02
Low profile
As the saying goes, "Humility benefits, and profits are full of losses." "If a person is complacent about his existing achievements, then his result is only loss and disaster; and humility can see his shortcomings and then make up for them, and thus benefit from them."
The more ripe the ears of rice, the more they know how to bend. In life, the wiser the more humble he is. Just like Socrates, who is known as the "founder of Western philosophy" and one of the three sages of ancient Greece, once said: "I only know one thing, that is, I know nothing." ”
Coincidentally, Confucius, the great thinker, statesman, educator and founder of the Confucian school in ancient China, once modestly said: "Three people, there will be my teacher." ”
As the saying goes: "When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses; if it is complacent, it loses, and if it is self-effacing, it is foolish." ”
In life, a low-key person, no matter how high a status he has, how rich and knowledgeable he is, will not belittle others, let alone be arrogant. Low-key will make people's lives and emotions more harmonious, such people will make people feel friendly, make people want to be close.
03
good faith
Mr. Lu Xun once said: "Honesty is the foundation of people." ”
Integrity is the key to a person's reputation, if a person can not even do integrity, then this person is difficult to stand in society, because as long as you have a time of untrustworthiness, then no matter what you say will be suspected.
In life, honest people, talk count, promise other people's things will do their best to do. They never deceive others, never calculate others, and when people have difficulties, they will lend a helping hand in time to help people get through difficulties. Therefore, when encountering honest people, we must make deep friends.
04
thanksgiving
As the saying goes: "filial piety comes first", filial piety is actually a manifestation of understanding gratitude, our parents have the grace of nurturing us, they all say that the grace of dripping water, when the spring repays each other. The selfless love of parents requires us to be grateful even more.
Only when a person has a grateful heart, his spirit will not dry up, and only when he is spiritually rich will he feel that he is rich in life and will be easy to feel happy. Conversely, a person who does not understand gratitude will not feel happy even if he has everything that others do not have.
In life, a person who knows how to be grateful will face the adversity in life peacefully and have a heart that actively overcomes difficulties.
If you make friends with a person who knows how to be grateful, your little help, he will keep in mind, he will do his best to repay you, such a person makes people feel reliable and worthy of deep friendship.
In short, most people with good character have the above 4 advantages, when you meet them, you have achieved something, they will be happy for you from the bottom of their hearts; sometimes you have nothing, they will give you charcoal.
Interact with people of good character, and your efforts will not be disappointed. His dedication makes you feel warm, meet them please cherish, they deserve a lifetime of deep friendship. (Author: Fei Lun Jun)