1 in 5 children has a tendency to be depressed!
Don't believe it!
According to the "Report on the Development of China's National Mental Health (2019~2020)" compiled by the research team of the Institute of Psychology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, the following shows:
In 2020, the detection rate of depression among Chinese adolescents was 24.6%, of which:
The detection rate of mild depression was 17.2% and that of major depression was 7.4%.
As the grades grow, the rate of depression detection is on the rise!
The detection rate of depression in primary school is about 10%, of which the detection rate of severe depression is about 1.9-3.3%;
The detection rate of depression in junior high school is about 30%, and the detection rate of severe depression is 7.6-8.6%;
The detection rate of depression in high school is close to 40%, of which the detection rate of severe depression is 10.9-12.5%.
You see children smiling on the surface, but maybe their hearts have already poured down!
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Scared? Afraid is right, the child's psychological problems are far more important than the body!
And more people choose to turn a blind eye, calling it - pretentious!
Then you must not know what depressed people go through...
The protagonist of today's article is not The University of Science and Technology (nor is it Da Shun), but two of our loyal readers, let's listen to the story between them and depression:
Depression, which I inherited to my children
◆ I blame myself for not noticing the abnormality at the first time
I am a working mother, and when I work, the elderly in the family are basically helping to take care of the children, and the time I spend with my children is before going to bed and on weekends.
One weekend morning, I helped the children prepare breakfast as usual, and when the time came, I asked the baby to wake up. He sat at the table, his eyes glazed over, not knowing what he was thinking?
This is not the first time, I thought it was "getting up", called him three or four times, and then eased the god obediently to eat.
◆I like dark colors
After eating, I sat on the tatami in a daze, and I cleaned up the table and took the toys he liked and played with him. I didn't expect people to give face at all! Ignore me?!
I was also angry, thinking: Love to ignore, play by yourself! So I went to clean up the housework.
In the afternoon, people gave face and painted together. To my surprise, he kept holding a black paintbrush and scribbling on white paper!
I asked him, "Why do you keep holding this brush?" I was taken aback by his reaction:
"I love the color!"
◆ Emotional sensitivity, irritability, paranoia
Like black at such a young age? I felt something was wrong, so I asked his grandmother, what is the abnormality of the child?
"He always likes to stay by himself lately, eating is not good, he used to like to eat carrots, now as long as there is nothing in the meal!"
I learned to drop plates the day before yesterday! ......”
Wrong! Intuition told me there was definitely something wrong! So I took my child to the hospital, and after some examination, the doctor said that it was mildly depressed.
I was shocked! How can such a young child be depressed?
So I took a break and concentrated on staying with my child, taking him to many places: amusement parks, museums, aquariums...
I also obediently listened to the doctor's advice and took medicine on time for follow-up consultation. This kid is a sunshine guy now!
Why don't you help me
Do you know?
Everyone with depression has a black dog by their side, and so do I.
It was originally well-behaved and cute, but I don't know from what day on, the longer it grew, the more ferocious it became, and gradually swallowed me up.
◆ Why are they bullying me? Sorry, it's my own problem
"Look at that dead fat man still eating!" Break the tranquility of the afternoon in one word!
When I was young, I was slightly fat and cute, but now "A4 waist", "vest line", "collarbone fish"... My closet is also full of dark clothes.
Being isolated by my classmates has also become a habit, and no one wants to be friends with me as a fat boy.
I thought I could spend this campus time alone, but why, I didn't provoke you, you still want to bully me?
Thrown gum, splashed with water, school uniforms scribbled, chairs disappearing out of thin air... With your laughter,
My body and mind were crushed and breathless.
Look at the black dog again, the appetite is getting bigger and bigger, and it begins to grow unscrupulously...
◆ Why do parents always quarrel? Turns out I'm not a "perfect kid."
I don't like to go home, because I am the fuse of my parents' quarrel!
Every night I wondered: Wouldn't they argue if I wasn't there?
Moreover, recently this black dog has been barking more and more severely, and it is not controlled at all, which makes me physically and mentally exhausted!
◆ Why did you refuse my last call for help?
So I silently saved pocket money and registered myself to go to the doctor.
But when I carefully told the doctor what was wrong with me, my parents said next to me:
"Is it loaded?"
"Don't you want to go to school to make excuses?"
"Hurry back, don't be ashamed!"
Every time I say a word, they question it.
Or when I'm mildly depressed, they still stop me from taking medicine and let me heal myself?
It will also release harsh words:
"If you torture us like this again, we will all be depressed together!"
"Don't live!"
I'm sorry, I wanted to try to climb out, but I was kicked back into the abyss again and again by the people closest to me.
I... Completely devoured...
Just then, there seemed to be a light in the darkness.
My girlfriend discovered my abnormality and resolutely decided to "kill" me as an "annoying elf"!
Step 1: "Betrayal"!
She told my parents in detail about the seriousness of the problem and pulled me to the hospital again.
When I saw the diagnosis of major depression, my parents' attitude changed!
Step 2: Feed the medicine!
Whenever he noticed an abnormal change in my mood, he stuffed medicine into my mouth!
Her bag used to be full of cosmetics, but now it's all replaced by medicine! And the timing of fixed-point feeding is really "annoying".
Step 3: Become a "conjoined baby"!
It is impossible to stay at home without private space, because she has to take me with her wherever she goes!
Slowly I noticed that the black dog had gradually become obedient, no longer barking wildly, and it seemed to be able to understand my heart.
Every time I want to "go out", I obediently take the leash and walk silently beside me.
Finally I have a few words to say:
Depression rejuvenation is a fact, and the key step for parents to do is: find out in time!
Quarrels at home are inevitable, but don't turn quarrels into children's nightmares.
Parental quarrels will make children's hearts full of tension at all times, and the slightest movement can involve their sad feelings.
"Depression may last a lifetime, but it can also be peaceful with it; depression is not contagious, but please take care of yourself."
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