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What is the content of marriage? It is life, but it is also the most realistic, the most grounded life, which does not allow you to have half a fantasy, nor does it give you time to prepare. So to some extent, young people really should look at marriage from the most practical point of view, mainly to live a life.
Don't believe in fairy tales so much, don't always bring ideals into reality, put your attitude right, and you will find that you live the same life as anyone.
Some experiences and feelings may be different, but the nature of marriage, the normalcy of life, does not change because you change a partner.
Whoever has ash at the bottom of the pot, always thinking about finding a kind of what kind, do not know that even if he is good, he cannot give you an absolutely happy life, and there are also times when you are angry to the point of shivering, and waiting for you to take on responsibilities, trivialities, things and hardships.
Unless you are in love and not married, your life will be easy and will satisfy all your fantasies about romance.
Don't think about divorce, single life, single mother life is really better? Unless you have money and ability, your situation, including in the marriage market, will be more embarrassing and difficult. All the things that are trying luck, it is best not to touch.
The current partner is the person you used to like so much, and you can't stand it, so can you put up with it?
It's not an empty phrase that couples are still good or original, unless your marriage is bad to a certain extent. There are many things that only the original couple has, never be confused by the appearance of things, you see a person's happiness, maybe this is just her happy side, deliberately shown side.
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Recently heard a point of view, I think it is still quite in place, said:
"I'm a woman, and I'm not going to get a divorce anyway." Well, he is your husband, and if he is not good, he is your laborer, the tool to make money. Leave, find another one, do not deny that there are still good men in this world, but I am afraid that you do not have the time and energy to meet him, and even if you do, whether people can look at you, or another matter. Besides, who do you live with, don't wash and cook and have children? Don't face the mother-in-law relationship? Don't fantasize that there is a man who can absolutely hold you in the palm of his hand, love is love, marriage is marriage, since it is a life, everyone is real. Not taking your own children with you, taking other people's children, going to be a stepmother, is really a brain disease. ”
Have you found that it is simply too transparent to live, pure is not rough.
Marriage is realistic, love is the lubricant of marriage, there is better, but there is no, in a way, the most important thing in marriage is not love, but cooperation.
Even if there is no love between you, there are still common interests and many entanglements. The pursuit of love every day, but love is constantly changing, but also the most torturous emotions, if women are always tortured by emotions in this love, one will cry and laugh, and it will become mentally ill for a long time.
So you have to be able to find the center of gravity of life, so that your energy, time, rhythm follow the center of gravity, which is very important, to a great extent to ensure that life is not chaotic.
In addition, the pursuit of love is also correct, but love should be ranked behind life, when you even life is a problem, no matter how good love, the sweetness brought to you is also greatly reduced.
The more you go, the more you will find that if you compare the relationship between people to a hand, then you are the palm, and the important relationship is the finger, such as the relationship between husband and wife, the relationship between parents and children. But some people are stupid, important relationships do not maintain, key relationships do not operate, all day with lovers, friends fool around, in the end the fingers are broken, people will be crippled.
Why are people's marriages so fragile and sensitive now? The main reason comes from a mentality that it is better to find any more than the current one.
Don't hit the south wall and don't turn back, after hitting the south wall, I know that I am naïve, ignorant, want to be simple, and regret has no way back.
Although there have been good, but you also have to look at the proportions, after remarriage the intestines are repentant, abound, do not always feel that you are special, will be exceptional, in fact, what are you special? Self-confidence is good, but arrogance is arrogant if self-confidence is not based on self-knowledge.
03
Actually, how to say it? Divorce is not a solution to the problem, nor is it a life-changing choice, but only an ending to marriage. Unless there is a matter of principle, or injury, and the other party has repeatedly taught and not changed, to avoid bringing greater disasters to their own lives, then the meaning of divorce is to save themselves and stop losses in time.
If you are just dissatisfied with the existing state of life and want to change your life through divorce and remarriage, it is really unrealistic to wake up early, and you will regret it in the end.
Relying on marriage to change your life, the first marriage can not be changed, let alone expect the second marriage to change, such an idea will only hurt you.
People's choices are all costly, when the price will come, not necessarily, but it will come, so sometimes, it is not that you have to make a choice, there is also a choice that does not make a choice.
Why do you have to choose? Unless you are forced to the edge of the cliff, there is really no way back, and you have to make a desperate bet.
What you want, you are not willing to give yourself, but also expect others to give it to you, is this possible? What you don't want to give yourself, can someone else give it to you? Whatever kind of life you want, fight for it yourself, create it yourself, and don't want to have a free pie.
Be realistic, sober a little, life is not careful, is the abyss, can live the ordinary people's life well, this is already very good, all day long eyes high and low, this mountain looks at the mountain high, do not know the side of the mountain, or the mountain, maybe do not see with your own eyes, it will not be dead, but after seeing it with your own eyes, the original road, can not go back. What is known and what is unknown, you have to have your own judgment, distinguish clearly, and grasp it.
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