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Do you know how many identities a person can have? Then take a look at women in modern society who are about forty years old.
They are the mothers of children, the wives of husbands, the daughters of their parents, and the workers in the workplace. Taking care of children, running housework, working hard, etc., they are the most tired people, but their efforts are also the most neglected.
Whether or not they love, women must remember that loving themselves is not an empty word, but starts with doing these things well.
One: Don't be aggrieved by your own consumption, living too tightly
Most Chinese women have a fine tradition of thriftiness, but their frugality is often directed only at themselves.
In order to maintain the image of the husband outside, it is necessary to buy decent clothes for the husband; everything that should be given to the child must be given to the best; the nutrition products given to the parents and mothers will never be painful.
But when it comes to yourself, an over-season coat can be worn for several years, and a lipstick is all cosmetics.
How many women have boiled themselves into yellow-faced women for the sake of the family, but instead of appreciating it, their husbands will dislike that they no longer have the water spirit and beauty when they got married, and only bleak and dull.
In life, it is not without such examples.
I've seen many women who are reluctant to invest in themselves, unwilling to love themselves, and put all their thoughts on their husbands and children. As a result, not only can not be exchanged for the husband's heartache and cherishing, but will usher in betrayal.
He feels that you are not attractive and attractive, often starting with you no longer knowing how to love yourself.
Only by knowing how to be good to yourself and knowing how to love yourself can you really be loved. Otherwise, the poorer you are to support yourself, the less attractive you are in the other person's heart.
Second: Don't give up your career and try to maintain financial independence
After many women enter the family, all the focus is on their husbands and children, and they no longer think of improving themselves, nor do they want to work hard in the workplace, but only hope to be able to teach their husbands and children and run a family.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun is a typical example.
Luo Zijun and Chen Junsheng are college classmates, and they are also Kochi women who graduated from key universities, but after entering marriage, they gave up their lives and surrounded their husbands and children wholeheartedly.
Everyday life is to accompany the children, accompany the husband, buy and buy, show love, and never think about improving yourself again.
She thought that such a life was happiness and could live like this for the rest of her life. Unexpectedly, her husband's betrayal came suddenly, and she became the one who was abandoned. After the divorce, she was helpless in the face of life, if it were not for the golden fingers of Tang Jing and He Han, her life would be so miserable.
TV dramas have glorified a lot of things, and if you are not financially independent in life, you can't even fight for custody of your children when you are abandoned by your ex-husband.
In many cases, without money, there is no choice, and only by maintaining financial independence as much as possible can you dominate your own life and not look at the faces of others everywhere. Otherwise, the more passive you are, the farther away you are from the self and life you want.
Three: Remember to arrange physical examinations for yourself regularly to maintain good health
For every family, health is the most valuable asset.
Women's best love for themselves is to pay attention to their own physical health, regularly arrange physical examinations for themselves, especially for some women's high incidence of malignant diseases, early detection and early treatment, is the right way to open for themselves.
According to the data, more than 90% of the physical examinations carried out by women are annual routine physical examinations arranged by the company, and it is almost rare that they will take the initiative to conduct physical examinations.
There are also many full-time mothers, neither the company physical examination, nor their own physical examination such a health concept, usually and are entangled in housework chores, a little uncomfortable are also endured to pass.
However, many diseases are small diseases dragged into major diseases, there are no obvious signs in the early stage, and when you feel that your physical discomfort is unbearable, you often have lost the best opportunity for treatment.
In addition, some women have some psychological disorders for physical examination, and are unwilling to undergo normal gynecological examinations out of psychology such as "shyness" and "fear".
In fact, this is not necessary. Women in different physiological stages, there will be some different changes, and women's unique organs, with the increase of age, the incidence of lesions is also increasing year by year.
If you avoid medical treatment and miss the best time for treatment, it will be a lifetime of regret or even the price of life.
A woman's youth is very short, but a woman's charm does not fade with youth. Forty-year-old women have borne too much burden and pressure in life, and remember to love themselves well.
After all, if a woman is a flower, it also needs careful care to bloom more delicately. Don't expect a man's eyes and charity, love yourself, you can be wonderful.
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