Since ancient times, it has been not easy to truly identify a person. Pay attention to the "four points" to help you see a person clearly!
01
The choice in the face of interests
In the face of interests, many people will tear off the disguise. At this time, it is usually the best time to recognize people and identify people.
If a person can disregard his conscience, can not be affectionate, and can abandon morality for his own interests, do you dare to believe such a person? Advise you to stay away as soon as possible!
Otherwise, once there is a conflict of interest with him, you will definitely be very sad!
And a person in the face of interests, will not let go of the inner principles, still adhere to the faith in morality, can focus on human affection, then this person will never be a mercenary villain, he must have a more noble choice.
02
Treat people of lower status than yourself
Not inferior to the top, not proud to the bottom. This is a manifestation of a person's good character.
If a person flatters the superior and commands the inferior, then the person will not have good moral cultivation.
A morally educated man has respect for anyone, and even if he communicates with someone of a lower status than him, he will not show pride.
A more valuable person can be mighty and indomitable, and in the face of power, he can still maintain integrity.
In general, people have an innate sense of superiority in the face of people of lower status than themselves. And if a person does not magnify his sense of superiority to step on others, but treats them with respect, then he must have goodwill, have integrity, and must be reliable.
03
Attitude towards parents
We usually are: good tempers are left to others, and bad tempers are left to family members.
If a person can always maintain a nurturing and pleasant face when dealing with the people closest to him, then this person has a very remarkable practice. It's admirable!
There is a chapter in the Analects. ZiXia asked filial piety. Zi Yue: "Color is difficult." Something happened, the disciple obeyed his labor, there was wine and food, Mr. Food, did he think that filial piety? ”
It is to tell us: the most important thing for our parents is attitude, the most difficult is also the attitude, we must pay attention to the cultivation of "attitude"!
Therefore, no matter how intimate it is, we must try to be as pleasant as possible, and we cannot act willfully!
And for the close people around them, speak kindly, not arrogant, humble and courteous, most of them are well-educated, responsible, responsible people, it is easier for others to trust and like.
04
When faced with promises
In the face of promises, it is often easy to see a person's character. A promise of thousands of dollars, to their own promises, will not be easily broken. Such a person is very reliable!
If a person cannot keep his promises and casually repents, then this person has no personality to speak of!
The Analects says, "A man has no faith, and he does not know what he can do." The big car has no body, the small car has no body, how can it work? ”
People who don't have integrity, people who break their promises, just like a car can't do anything without wheels.
Faith is often the most basic moral code of a person!