Nietzsche said in The Other Side of Good and Evil:
"If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself." Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back. ”
Yes, there will be a lot of unpleasant things in life, which is impossible to avoid. Because no matter how we do it, there will always be something that will make you unhappy.
If, we are always too concerned about the right and wrong of this matter, not only tired of others, but also bitter of ourselves. This is not to say that nothing should be done about right or wrong.
Right and wrong here are to be treated according to different things, some things do not need to be fought for right and wrong, and some things must be fought for right and wrong. Because we all have to have a bottom line. Everything is too calculated about right and wrong, and in the end it is not only tired of others, but also bitter of oneself
For example, for small things, don't always be too entangled in right and wrong. After all, everyone makes mistakes sometimes. I remember reading such a story.
The story goes like this, in a forest, inhabited by crows and pigeons, and the two of them are also very good friends. Suddenly one day the crow told the pigeon that he was leaving here. The pigeon was surprised to hear the news and asked the crow.
"Why are you moving away?"
The crow said to the pigeon, "Good friend, I don't want to move away either." But the people here don't like me, they all hate my voice too ugly. I was welcome and I couldn't stay here any longer. ”
The pigeon heard the crow say this, thought about it and then said to the crow, "Good friend, have you ever thought of such a question, in fact, no matter where you fly, your voice cannot be changed, then no matter where you fly, there will be people who do not welcome you." ”
Indeed, this story is also telling us that who does not have some shortcomings in their bodies, it is impossible for people to be perfect.
Therefore, we should not always blindly blame others' shortcomings and use others' shortcomings to argue right and wrong. As the old saying goes, "No one is a saint who is blameless." ”
If we think about it carefully, there are many things in our lives, which are actually the stimulation of contradictions because we pay too much attention to right and wrong on a small matter.
I remember watching such a video before, probably about a young lady who seemed to be very short-tempered and irritable. As long as anyone had offended her, she wanted to return it. Only in this way can her psychology become balanced.
Once, the neighbor's child put garbage on the door of her house, which made her very angry. So he put his own garbage at the door of the neighbor's house. As a result, she and her neighbor "exchanged courtesies" and the contradiction between the two families became bigger and bigger. Later, whenever there is a little thing, it will start to quarrel.
In fact, these things can be avoided, as long as we do not pursue right and wrong in non-principled things, we can avoid things from developing in a bad direction.
Because if we are preoccupied with everything and argue about right and wrong, we can only exchange our own troubles and other people's troubles. End up in a vicious circle.
After all, nothing is perfect, and there will be his shortcomings. So, what should we do when we are faced with deficiencies?
It is also very simple to say, that is, do not blame things, and do not argue about right and wrong in some small matters that are not principled. Such a thing will work out very well. Just like the story of the quarrel with the neighbor mentioned above. If she hadn't thought about right and wrong, it was just the child's inadvertent fault. Things are not going to be simple. There will be no quarrel between the two families later.
Therefore, in life, we should all remember such a sentence: "Everything is too calculated about right and wrong, and in the end it is not only tired of others, but also bitter of ourselves." ”
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