【Beauty play story】, light up the future of children with dreams!
Hello everyone, I'm Maco.
In the past few days, Maco has revisited the movie "Galaxy Tuition Class" and found that there are many details in the film that reflect the educational problems that are common in real life but are easily overlooked.
The first misunderstanding in family education is "I am for your own good".
After Ma Fei was picked up by his father and went out to study, when Ma Fei's mother learned that Ma Fei's results were still at the bottom, she angrily found the father and son and complained about Ma Haowen's senseless gambling contract
"I'm all for him."
In fact, many of us grew up listening to the phrase "I am for your own good", so we subconsciously resist this sentence in our hearts, and we can also deeply appreciate the desire for control in this sentence.
Just like the Farhan in "Three Fools in Bollywood", as soon as he was born, he was pointed out by his father the path of life:
"I was born at 5:15 p.m., and at 5:16 p.m., my dad announced: My son will be an engineer! The poke of my fate was overshadowed, and no one ever asked what I wanted to do! ”
Although Farhan studied engineering according to his parents' wishes, his enthusiasm for learning was not high, and his mood was very low every day.
Parents should avoid being "authoritative parents", do not cling to the control of the parent-child relationship, and do not force instill their children's own ideas and attitudes in the name of "good for you".
The premise of "being good for the child" should be "knowing what the child thinks is good", not "I think it is best for the child to be like this".
The second misconception in homeschooling is to require children to be obedient.
In the film, Ma Fei has been ridiculed and denied by others since he was a child, and he slowly accepts other people's views, thinking that he is what they say he is.
But dad told him, "You don't want others to say anything, you listen to what you say, your brain must always think." ”
There is such a scene in the movie, Ma Haowen stands on the embankment, facing the ferocious flood, desperately shouting with a loudspeaker to his son who is not sure whether he is alive or not:
"See what's around you!" Find a way, move your brain, you can come out, you can come out! ”
This sentence saved Ma Fei's life at a critical time, and he made a raft out of the door panel and bed sheets to escape from the house trapped by the flood.
How to make a raft is not in any textbook knowledge, but it is something that a teenager might think of.
In When Happiness Knocks, Chris says to his 5-year-old son:
"If you have a dream, defend it, and don't let others tell you that you can't become a talent."
Children who lack "independent thinking" grow up to be dependent, easy to follow the crowd, go with the flow, do not have their own views, and can not make choices for their own future.
Just like in the film, Dad asks Ma Fei: "What do you want to do when you grow up?" ”
Ma Fei replied, "Peking University, my mother said." ”
Now Ma Fei lacks independent thinking, he takes what his mother says as his goal, but he does not know that Tsinghua Peking University is only a process, not a destination.
What about after being admitted to Tsinghua Peking University? I believe that many children have never thought about this problem like Ma Fei.
Fortunately, Dad helped Ma Fei find his dream and become a pilot. When the principal begged Ma Fei to give up the pilot interview for the honor of the school, Ma Fei refused without hesitation.
After that, Ma Fei not only became a pilot, but also became an astronaut.
We often say that interest is the best teacher. Those masters who have achieved extraordinary achievements in the professional field have first found what they love, and then continue to explore to achieve today's achievements.
Education brings infinite changes in life, and the college entrance examination is an important turning point in life, but learning without dreams is boring and mechanical.
As the film says: life is like archery, dreams are like arrow targets, losing arrow targets, what is the point of repeating the action of pulling a bow every day? ”
In daily life, for children's education, words and deeds are better than telling 100 truths.
When Ma Fei was lying on the bed and saw his father at work, he asked, "Can I not sleep?" ”
Ma Haowen knew his son's thoughts, and he did not refuse or preach, but said: "You never have to ask me about your own affairs." ”
Ma Fei saw that his father was working seriously, and he also picked up the textbook and looked at it carefully.
Ma Haowen influenced the child's every move in a physical way, which was more effective than preaching.
Children's cognition of the world and the establishment of the three views come directly from their parents.
No child is born excellent, all through the invisible edification of parents, children can't help but imitate their parents, so as to gradually become excellent.
It is difficult for parents who are addicted to mobile phones every day to cultivate children who love to read. There are many positive examples of teaching by example in ancient history:
Tian Mu refused to pay gold, making Tian Ji strict with self-discipline, and eventually became a generation of sages in the State of Qi;
Tao Mu sealed the fish, Tao Kan remembered the mother's training, was honest and upright, and became a heavy subject in the early Eastern Jin Dynasty;
Kou Mu's inscription poem, Kou Zhun is diligent in political affairs, and has also become a generation of famous faces.
As the educator Sukhomlinsky said: "Every moment you see the child, you see yourself; you educate the child, that is, you educate yourself and test your personality." ”
In addition to that, trust is the best love for a child.
When Ma Fei was defined by the teacher as "missing roots" and at the bottom of the study, Ma Haowen believed that his son would be able to improve his grades and rush into the top ten of the grade, and finally Ma Fei did it.
In fact, the child's courage comes from the support of parents, and the trust of parents can make children have the confidence to take every step.
As Deng Chao wrote on Weibo, there is a passage in the story that comes from his childhood, and he integrates his experience into Ma Fei's life and brings it to the screen.
And we in the audience, watching the scenes and fragments, recalled our childhood, there are grievances, there are also warmth.
More importantly, what changes do we want to make for our children, and what kind of "cram school" will our families become?