Recently, some media have photographed Zhang Liangying and her five-year-old boyfriend Chen Qiuxuan eating together.
At that time, Zhang Liangying was dressed very plainly, she wore a gray sweatshirt, a pair of jeans, and a long dark hair hanging down.
Chen Qiuxuan, on the other hand, was wearing black short sleeves and black-rimmed glasses, looking tall and handsome.
They were accompanied by their friends, who were waiting for the bus in front of the hotel.
Zhang Liangying and Chen Qiuying each looked down at their mobile phones, and most of the other friends were busy with their own affairs, and there was not much communication between them.
After arriving at a private room in a hotel by car, Zhang Liangying and her boyfriend sat next to each other and sat in a window position.
After the dinner, everyone left the hotel together, and she and her boyfriend walked side by side with ten fingers clasped, showing love and affection next to no one, looking very sweet.
Speaking of Zhang Liangying, it has to remind people of her relationship with Feng Ke.
In 2005, when Zhang Liangying participated in "Super Girl", there was a middle-aged man with glasses under the stage.
He kept canvassing for Zhang Liangying, designing competition links to help her achieve a good ranking.
This man is Feng Ke, whom Zhang Liangying later fell in love with, and the two of them first met in a bar.
At that time, 37-year-old Feng Kegang and his wife had a fight and went to the bar to relax.
The green-faced resident girl on the stage caught his attention.
Feng Ke felt that the girl's voice was special and had great potential for development.
So he disguised himself as a divorced man and chatted with Zhang Liangying as an agent.
After the two people met, Feng Ke was very considerate to Zhang Liangying.
And Zhang Liangying, whose parents divorced since childhood, originally lacked fatherly love.
So she felt the warmth of a long absence in Feng Ke, and since then she has slowly fallen in love with each other.
Later, Zhang Liangying took him home and introduced him to his mother, but the experienced Mother Zhang immediately saw through Feng Ke's personality.
Therefore, she was very opposed to her daughter falling in love with Feng Ke, and Zhang Liangying at this time could not listen to her mother's advice at all.
And as Zhang's mother guessed, Feng Ke at that time was not divorced.
He confessed to Zhang Liangying that he was married and had a three-year-old child, hoping that she would forgive him.
And Zhang Liangying was reluctant to Feng Ke, knowing that the other party was not divorced, and was still willing to be a "little third".
Later, after Zhang Liangying participated in "Super Girl", her popularity slowly rose, and Feng Ke also became her agent, and the two partnered to set up a company.
But Feng Ke held all of Zhang Liangying's income in his hand, and Zhang Liangying needed to use money and also needed to go through his hands.
Even so, Zhang Liangying still chooses to understand and tolerate.
In 2015, Zhang Liangying confessed to Feng Ke, who had been in a relationship for many years, and proposed marriage at the concert.
Obviously, Feng Ke did not expect Zhang Liangying to do this, he just went on stage and gave the other party a hug, did not say yes, and hurried down.
Later, there was the so-called "Forced Marriage of Zhang Liangying" in the media.
However, the two still got married smoothly, although Zhang's mother always disagreed, but the persistent Zhang Liangying still chose to marry Feng Ke.
Unexpectedly, two years later, Zhang Liangying unilaterally announced the termination of the brokerage contract with Feng Ke, and the two divorced, and she also deleted everything related to Feng Ke.
Although we don't know their specific experience, I think a girl who originally loved him so much, and now she is so determined, it must be that the other party has done something that makes her very sad.
Fortunately, after the divorce, Zhang Liangying met Chen Qiuying, who loved herself.
Although Zhang Liangying was divorced and five years older than him, Chen Qiuying was still willing to accompany her and bring her happiness.
Of course, this is also due to Zhang Liangying's own heart, she knows that although she has experienced painful things in the past and met the wrong people, these will make her better.
And she also chose to continue to believe in love rather than reject it, which I believe is also a reason for her happiness.
Therefore, from Zhang Liangying, we can also get a few inspirations.
01
Believing in love is a prerequisite for happiness
In the years of interacting with Feng Ke, Zhang Liangying endured a lot.
She first tolerated the other party not to divorce, and then waited for the other party to propose to her, and it was difficult to get married, and then encountered a marriage change.
Eventually couldn't stand it and filed for divorce with the other party.
After the divorce, Zhang Liangying opened her own studio and worked hard to pursue a career.
She also did not believe in love because the last time her relationship did not go well.
Therefore, she is still willing to accept Chen Qiuxuan's love, which also paves the way for her later happiness.
It is inevitable that we will encounter some wrong people in our lives, but we must not lose trust in the right people because of this wrong person.
We can't dare to accept the feelings of the right people because we have met the wrong people.
After all, there's not a good chance of finding the right person in the first place.
We will always experience some things, slowly grow, mature, and then know what kind of partner we should find, what kind of partner is suitable.
One of my mother's friends, Aunt Wang, divorced her husband five years ago.
Aunt Wang did not live happily in the first half of her life because her husband did not cherish her.
Sometimes domestic violence, gambling, and the money earned are not given to Aunt Wang, and Aunt Wang has endured for the sake of her children over the years.
Later, as soon as her children graduated from high school, Aunt Wang filed for divorce from her husband.
For several years after the divorce, Aunt Wang lived alone.
My mother asked her: "In the future, if there is a person who really hurts you, will you still be willing to enter into marriage?" ”
Aunt Wang said: "I don't want to think about it for the time being in the past two years, I want to live for myself first."
If two years later, I am still fortunate enough to meet someone who really hurts me, then I still believe in feelings and am still willing to give myself a chance. ”
Sure enough, Aunt Wang later met an uncle at work.
This uncle's wife died of illness, and after meeting Aunt Wang, he was particularly close to Aunt Wang.
At first, Aunt Wang was not too impressed with him, but after a long time, Aunt Wang saw the other party's sincerity and formed a family with the other party.
To this day, Aunt Wang is still very happy, which is in stark contrast to her original life.
Aunt Wang's happiness can be regained, on the one hand, because she can say goodbye to the past completely, and on the other hand, she is willing to believe in love again.
Therefore, we should also be like Zhang Liangying and Aunt Wang, and when we encounter the wrong person, we should decisively stop the loss and learn from it.
If you meet the right person, then you will be generous and fall in love with each other.
02
Accepting love is the basis for attaining happiness
Of course, we must not only believe in love, but also accept love.
If you just say you believe in love, but you don't want to accept it physically, then you can't get happiness either.
Because if we don't accept the love of the other person, then he can't go into our hearts, and he can't connect with us, let alone come together.
So, we have to learn to accept the love that a person gives us, and then give back to his own love.
Only in this way can we come out of the pain of the past and meet a good time with another person.
Just like Zhang Liangying, if Chen Qiuying pursues her, she has been unwilling to accept this love, then how can she have this happiness today?
There is also Aunt Wang, if she has been closing the door of her heart, unwilling to accept anyone's love, unwilling to let anyone enter her heart, then she will not have the happiness she has now.
03
Managing love is the guarantee of happiness
Finally, after accepting each other's love, we also have to give back to each other so that the other party can also feel our love.
Because good and long-lasting love must be a two-way street.
So, I think the most important thing in a relationship is to learn to manage love.
The love given by only one party will not last long, just like Zhang Liangying and Aunt Wang.
Both of them paid too much in the original relationship, and their respective husbands did not pay, resulting in emotional imbalance, so they finally broke up.
Therefore, we can usually give each other respect and understanding, communicate and discuss with each other in time when encountering problems, give each other enough trust, and give each other more time to get along alone.
When each other is thinking about each other, how can the relationship not last?
In fact, when I saw Zhang Liangying and Chen Qiuxuan sweet, I knew that she was slowly changing and growing, so it was not surprising that she could regain happiness today.
As girls, we should be like her.
No matter what we have experienced or hurt us, we must not lose hope and confidence in life.
Because there will always be someone who can see your goodness.
Author | Nancy Anhui University master of translation, through the ministry of personnel third-level translation, in-depth research in the field of gender emotions, good at finding problems from emotions and solving problems, so that more people are aware, become a better self.