"Love does not know what to do and goes deep", sometimes, love is so wonderful, suddenly it comes, people are caught off guard, deep in it. Some people say that the most bitter thing in life is not to find the person who fell in love at first sight and wanted to fall in love for a lifetime, the most bitter thing is to find that person and fall in love, but it is doomed to be fruitless.
In "Qing Ping Le", Princess Hui Rou fell in love with the inner servant Huai ji, knowing that she could not do anything, but she could not let go of the obsession in her heart, she wanted to die and live, and finally because she could not stand the separation from Huai Ji, she went crazy and literally ruined her life.
Many people may be touched by the love of the princess and Huaiji, lamenting for the end of their love, but I feel that their love is cocooned and self-bound, obviously the two people together are not tolerated by society, obviously each other can not give each other normal and steady love, but they want to be obsessed.
To Wai Ji, I sympathize with the fact that he was tricked into entering the palace since he was a child, admiring his pure simplicity, but he cannot understand his feelings for the princess, he knows that the princess is a woman he cannot fall in love with, and he is still a married woman, but he still wants to refuse to let the princess more and more inseparable from him. On the one hand, the princess and the internal attendant Qingqing me, on the other hand, the donkey Li Wei was lonely and helpless, I think there should be many people like me, but they will have some sympathy for Li Wei, who is obsessed with the princess.
Hui Rou's tragedy, Huai Ji has an unshirkable responsibility, perhaps he fell in love with the princess is his heart, but when he knows that it may bring pain and disaster to the princess, and he cannot protect her thoroughly, he should choose to let go.
The same is in love with a woman who cannot be loved, Zhang Maoze's love is many levels higher than Huaiji's love, he has been silently guarding his beloved with forbearance and wisdom, and his purpose is simple and clear, that is, to protect her throughout her life and let her get happiness.
Zhang Mao knew that the empress loved the official family, so when the official family snubbed the empress, he comforted the empress to help the emperor say good things; when he found that the emperor had a bad word for the empress, he tried his best to say good things about the empress in front of the emperor.
In order to preserve the empress's position in the harem, he did not move, and used his own tricks to help the queen install his confidants and remove the troubles. In handling his relationship with the empress, he always maintained the distance and rules he deserved, never going beyond the thunder pool.
The empress was unfortunate and fortunate, unfortunately, the empress was alienated and cold for more than ten years, had no children in her life, and lived her life into dogma and rules. But the empress was lucky, she had Shigeru and Qiuhe such defenders around her, which even the officials were jealous of.
Zhang Mao always remained sober in his feelings for the empress, not only saving himself, but also protecting the empress's life.
Huai Ji and Hui Rou Qing Mei Zhu Ma, he accompanied the princess to learn to paint, compose poetry, play, all the love of the princess Huai Ji is clear, and the princess never shy away from Huai Ji, what is the heart and Huai Ji said that she regarded him as her brother.
The princess likes Cao Ping, and tells Huai Ji about her admiration and liking for Cao Ping, Huai Ji is lonely and disappointed, for the princess to fall in love with Cao Ping, he is obviously mixed with his own private feelings, intentionally or unintentionally destroying the two people's relationship. Especially when the princess gave cao ping back to him the umbrella she gave herself and let him see the confession of the thorn on it, she actually let the princess see his tears, which made the princess more or less know his intentions. After the princess completely lost Cao Ping, Huai ji took the opportunity to confess that she was willing to be a shadow of the princess for a lifetime, so that the princess was once again moved and fell into feelings with him.
In fact, the princess did not have to be Huaiji, nor could she fall in love with other men, but in desperation, she grasped the straw of Huaiji's life. Especially after she and Li Wei became intimate, she put all her feelings on Huai ji. If the princess marries her favorite Cao Ping, it is estimated that she will not have anything to do with Huaiji in the future.
In fact, the donkey horse is not such a terrible person, and Huaiji can actually say more good things about the donkey in front of the princess, persuade the princess more, and maintain due measure with the princess. But he didn't, he just blindly listened to the princess and did what she liked, making the princess more and more inseparable from him and obsessing over him. In the end, their love pushed the two men into the abyss of eternal doom. If Huai Ji can keep his distance and abide by his duty as an internal servant like Zhang Maoze, then, although there is less lingering love, there is more warm and reassuring affection.
"Qing Ping Le" finale, the princess and Huai Ji are separated in two places, never see each other, the princess finally went crazy. I wondered, if it was a different ending, and the princess was with Waiji as she wished, would they be happy? After all, Waiji can't give the princess a normal married life, can't give the princess a favorite child, can their platonic spiritual love really last?
I have a friend who is hopelessly in love with her supervisor, who knows that the other person has a family, but breaks into the relationship with the courage of a moth to the fire, and she says that she does not ask the supervisor to give her a marriage, as long as he loves her. We all advised her to give up because she wasn't worth it. However, she said that they were true love, and she was particularly happy and happy with him. In this way, she became the underground lover of the supervisor, who would take a day or two a week to accompany her to dinner and spend time with the two of them, but every time he had to hurry home later.
At first, she did not complain, and often comforted herself by not destroying the other family, and later, as time went on, she became more and more irritable, uneasy and painful, and she felt empty in her heart, and she told him that she wanted a child of theirs, but he immediately refused, on the grounds that he could not give the child a healthy environment to grow up, because he could not give her marriage. In this way, the friend's resentment grew, and she felt that this man could not give her the life she really wanted. When the two people got along, they no longer had the warmth and happiness of the past, and gradually, the two people became estranged, and the friend felt as if he didn't love this man very much, and she proposed to break up. She said she envied the emotions of others in the sun and did not want to live in the dark all the time.
In fact, whether men or women fall in love with a person who "cannot love", the most feared thing is to be obsessed with it, bent on realizing this love, and finally end up with a lose-lose result. Therefore, falling in love with someone who cannot be together, letting go in time, severing contact with pain, and no longer holding illusions is the wisest choice.
If princess Hui Rou is not so stubborn and extreme, although she can't get her first love feelings, she can also try to discover the advantages of Li Wei, who loves her deeply, and get along with him normally, maybe, you can also make yourself happy and have your own happy life.
If Huai ji did not indulge the princess's dependence on himself but guided her correctly, perhaps he would not let the princess feel that her whole life was gray after she got married, and then she desperately grasped the straw of pregnant with him, and finally ended up in a crazy end. I thought that if I gave Wai ji another chance to do it all over again, I don't think he would make the princess fall in love with him.
For people who fall in love with "can't love", the biggest pain in life may be that they can't get it, can't forget it, or it's difficult to reconcile. However, different choices have put themselves and each other on completely different paths.
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