Many readers believe that Jia Mu is the most successful woman in "Dream of the Red Chamber".
The blessings that should be enjoyed in life have been enjoyed by Jia Mu; the things that should be experienced, Jia Mu has also experienced. When her husband was alive, Jia Mu and his husband and wife loved each other; after the husband and daughter passed away, Jia Mu could quickly adjust her mentality, get rid of misfortune, and turn her attention to her grandchildren.
Jia Mu understands the rhythm of music, loves to talk and laugh, has a cheerful personality, and has a good aesthetic. As the pawn of Jia Fu at that time, after entering old age, Jia Mu still has absolute authority in Jia Fu, and what bad things happened in Jia Fu, as soon as the old lady struck, she immediately dissolved into invisibility.
Jia Mu's life seems to be very successful, but this old lady who has enjoyed a lifetime of happiness, in her old age, encountered the most unfortunate thing - the collapse of Jia Fu. There is nothing more painful than watching one's own children and grandchildren be destroyed. And the descendants of Jia Fu, ended up with such a tragic end, in fact, Jia Mu can not get rid of the relationship, the biggest failure in her life, that is, reflected in this - the failure of the education of children and grandchildren.
The most successful woman in "Dream of the Red Chamber" is the education of her children and grandchildren, and it is precisely because of this that she became another Jia mother after the decline of Jia Fu, and lived into the envy of everyone.
This woman is Mamma Lai, a slave of Jia Province.
From the point of view of origin, Grandma Lai has no way to compare with Jia Mu. Jia Mu was born in the honorable Shi family, was a kind and unyielding Miss Qianjin, married into the Jia family with a double husband, and became a grandmother who responded to everything. The success of Jia Mu's life is closely related to her origin.
But Grandma Lai was different, from the very beginning, she was a slave of Jia Fu, relying on low eyebrows and pleasing eyes, carefully serving her master to make a living. Her children and grandchildren also rightfully became the slaves of Jia Fu and continued to be the children and grandchildren of Jia Mu.
However, when the descendants of Jia Fu became more and more indisputable, the descendants of the Lai family became more and more outstanding. Although they are subordinates of Jia Fu, they have a very sensitive sense of smell and outstanding talents.
TanChun went to Lai's house to eat a meal, and when he returned to the Grand View Garden, he sighed with emotion: "Because I gossiped with their daughters, who knew that such a garden, in addition to the flowers they wore, the bamboo shoots, vegetables, fish and shrimp they ate, there were still people who wrapped it up in a year, and there were two hundred taels of silver left at the end of the year. ”
Based on this alone, we can see the Lai family's style of running the family with diligence and thrift. Among the slaves in Jia Province, the Lai family was the highest-ranking and the richest, but they did not know how to eat, drink and enjoy like the masters, but they were careful to make their family business more and more prosperous. On the contrary, Jia Fu relied on the family property left by his ancestors and squandered it recklessly, and his days were worse than a day.
At the most critical moment, the Lai family did a more forward-looking thing - asked the master of Jia Fu to release his grandson Lai Shangrong and give him the opportunity to study. When Lai Shangrong lived up to the expectations of the people and became a state official, Wang Xifeng once said something like this to Grandma Lai-
...... In the courtyard of the old lady, he saw him wearing the official clothes of the new official, but he became more and more powerful, and he was fatter than before. He has won the official, should you be happy, but worried about these things? He's not good, and his father, you only have to use yours, idle, sit in a palanquin, come in and fight with the old lady for a day, talk for a day, who is so embarrassed to wronged you? Home is generally also a building, who does not respect you? Naturally, it is also the old feudal lord.
Although Sun Tzu became a state official, Grandma Lai was not proud and complacent, and in front of the masters, she was still humble and cautious, and she did not relax at all in her grandson's education when she returned home. With This way of education by Grandma Lai, the descendants of the Lai family can also be stronger than the next.
Jia Mu is the old feudal lord of Jia Province, and when Jia Fu declines, Jia Mu will eventually lose everything she has; but Grandma Lai's grandson has become a governor, and after the decline of Jia Fu, she will inevitably have an ending that is different from others in Jia Province- becoming an old fengjun who is as noble as Jia Mu.
Once Jia Mu, everything was satisfactory, but because the education of her children and grandchildren was too failed, she could only watch her children and grandchildren lose the Jia family; Aunt Lai was only born as a slave, but because the education of her children and grandchildren was perfect, in her old age, she became the "old feudal prince" that everyone envied.
This is the most lamentable contrast in "Dream of the Red Chamber". From this point of view, Grandma Lai is more successful than Jia Mu's life.